Xa iphawula lenzekile, isifo okanye isifo esinganyangekiyo siyanda, ke sinezisombululo ezibini ezinxulumene. Ungahlala uzinceda ngamayeza: baya kunciphisa iintlungu, bancede ekusebenziseni intuthuzelo okanye ukuphazamiseka, baya kubuya nomntu onempilo onempilo ngokupheleleyo. Indlela yesibini kukuqonda intsingiselo yolu phawu ngexesha lexesha. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, isifo okanye uphawu lupholile, njengomqondiso okufanele ukuthathela ingqalelo, kwaye ungahoyi okanye utshintshe ingqalelo kuyo. Umzekelo, xa kukhanyisa izibane, nto leyo eyenzakalisa ipetroli, siyiphosa ngokuzithandela. Kutheni le nto umzimba ubonakalisa okuthile ngento ethile, singxamile ukuze sibethelele imiqondiso ngokwayo, hayi isizathu sayo.
Kweli nqaku ndiza kunika iindinyana zengxoxo nebhinqa eliselula malunga ne-insomnia, ndimthuthuzele, ngaphandle kweshedyuli yomsebenzi onzima.
K (umxhasi) : Ndimangalisa kakhulu, ndaya kulala ndidiniwe, kodwa ukulala akuyi. Olunye uhlobo lwexhala luthintela ukulala, kwaye akukho khonkuqiniseni ephazamisayo, andikoyiki into echaziweyo. Kodwa ilizwe liphathwa ngokubanzi, kwaye ekugqibeleni ndijijekile kude kube kusasa. Ndilala ekuseni kwaye ndivuke ngengqondo enzima, kwaye ukuba ndivuka ndisebenza, emva koko iiyure ezimbalwa zokulala - emva koko ubilisiwe imini yonke.
T (i-therapist) : Ewe, i-insomnia iyinto ekhathazayo. Masithethe ngomzimba wethu, kutheni le nto ilele ukuba ifunwa?
Ukuya : Ndiyazibuza ukuba injani?
T. : Khawufane ucinge ukuba unguwe, kwaye nomzimba wakho ngumdlali welinye iqela elahlukileyo. Khawufane ucinge ukuba ihlala kwisitulo esikufuphi kwaye umcela kwimibuzo ekuthuthumbisa. Unga?
Umxhasi ubeka izitoli ezimbini kwindawo, enye ihleli phantsi, enye ilungiselela uvavanyo lokucinga kwaye "izihlalo" umzimba wakhe kuye. Ngokuphefumla ngelizwi ibuza umzimba, kutheni, ukuba unqwenela ukulala, umzimba uyakhathazeka kwaye ungalali.
Ndimcela ukuba ajike izitulo aze ahlale phantsi kwindima yomzimba. Uhlala phantsi, emzimbeni womzimba aze azihlaziye ngakumbi, inokubonwa ukuba kule ndima izolile kakhulu kwaye uzithembe ngakumbi ngaphakathi ngokwakhe.
K (kwindima yomzimba) : Ufunani kum? Sele ndihlala kwi verge yezinto ezinokwenzeka ngokwam, andikhathali. Kwaye ngezinye iindlela ongenasivayo. Kuhlala kuphela kukunxibelelana nawe ebusuku, kodwa hayi ephupheni, kodwa ngqo.
Ndicela umthengi kwakhona ukuba abuyele endaweni yam ndiphendule "umzimba".
Ukuya : Ndiyaxolisa ukuyiva, yimfesane endikuhlambe kakhulu. Yenziwa njani ukuze uphumle kwaye ubuyiselwe, ulele?
K (kwindima yomzimba) Ndixelele ukuba uyandithanda, phatha, yiba nekratshi ngam. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ndenza lo msebenzi-ndibaninzi abantu!
Apha ndiyemye kwaye ndibuze ukuba kunjani ebomini yingxoxo. Intombazana ijonge kum kwaye ithi le ncoko ngomzimba iyamkhumbuza ukuba athethe nomyeni wakhe. Uzisa umntwana omncinci, imisebenzi. Indoda ukusuka kusasa ngobusuku emsebenzini, zonke izinto ezixhalabisayo, amatyala kunye nemali mboleko. Kwaye kubonakala ngathi intombazana angayiboni into azama ngayo ezimbini: umntwana kuhlahlo-lwabiwo mali lwentsapho.
T. : Ngamanye amagama, unqongophele kwindoda yakhe?
Ukuya : Ewe ijongeka ngathi ...
Amagama ambalwa malunga nalo msebenzi. Sathetha ixesha elithile nalo mfazi. Ukugqibezela umsebenzi, sixoxe ukuba akazibiyekisi iimfuno zabo zokwamkelwa kunye nokukhathalela, ukoyike ukuba ngexesha elinzima akakho kumava akhe. Kodwa ngandlel 'ithile, akufuneki ukuba abe kuphela komthombo wokuqatshelwa ebomini. Umsebenzi walo mfazi okwangoku yingxoxo enyanisekileyo nendoda yakhe ukuba uzama ukumnceda, ngelixa esenza i-uqhubeke. Kwaye lo mbingelelo ubonakaliswa emzimbeni wakhe ngohlobo lwe-insomnia. Sigqibezele incoko ngento yokuba uza kuqalisa ukudumisa umzimba wakhe, okuthetha ukuba wakhetha ubomi obunjalo ukuba wayenamandla afanelekileyo ukuba abe noncedo ngokwenene kwaye enamandla. Ukuba wakhawuleza waya kuzinyathela ngamayeza, oko kungalindeleka ukuba ukugqabhuka kuya kubakho, oko kuthetha ukuba ukuthuka okuqokelelweyo kwaye amabango akhe ngewazibonakalisile ngolunye uphawu, mhlawumbi okungakumbi thambisa ngomzimba wakhe.
Andizi ndikulungele ukumangaliswa zeziphi iingcebiso ezilumkileyo esisinika umzimba wethu.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin