When a symptom occurs, a disease or a chronic disease is exacerbated, then we have two radically opposite solutions. You can always help yourself with medicines: they will relieve pain, help it easier to move torment or inconvenience, they will even retur with a completely healthy person. The second way is to recognize the meaning of this symptom at the moment of time. After all, the disease or symptom is sharpened, as a signal that is worth considering, and not ignore or switch attention to it. For example, when a signal lights up in the machine, which hurts gasoline, we willingly refuel it. Why when the body signals something about something, we are in a hurry to neutralize the signal itself, and not its reason.
In this article I will give passages of dialogue with a young woman about insomnia, tormenting her, despite the heavy work schedule.
K (client) : Very strange, I walked to sleep tired, but sleep does not go. Some kind of anxiety prevents falling asleep, and there is no concrete disturbing thought, I'm not afraid of something defined. But the state is generally treated, and in the end I'm twisted until the morning. I fall asleep in the morning and wake up with a hard sense, and if I get up to work, then just a few hours of sleep - then all day boiled.
T (therapist) : Yes, insomnia is exhausting item. Let's talk with our body, why doesn't it fall asleep if desired?
TO : I wonder how it is?
T. : Imagine that you are you, and your body is a separate opponent. Imagine that it sits on a nearby chair and you ask him to the questions tormenting you. Can you?
The client places two stools in space, one sits down, the other is preparing for an imaginary experiment and "seats" his body on him. By exhausted voice asks the body, why, if you wish to sleep, the body worries and does not sleep.
I ask her to swap chairs and sit down into the role of the body. She sits down, at the body of the body she herself is more relaxed, it can be seen that in this role it is much calmer and more confident in herself.
K (in the role of the body) : What do you want from me? I already live on the verge of possible for myself, you mindlessly exhausted me. And in other ways you do not hear. Only it remains to contact you at night, but not in a dream, but directly.
I ask the client again to recover in my place and answer the "body".
TO : I'm sorry to hear it, it is a pity that I wash you so much. How to do so that you rest and restored, falling asleep deep?
K (in the role of the body) : Tell me that you love me, take care, be proud of me. After all, I do this work - for several people!
Here I stop her and ask what it is like in life is a dialogue. The girl is staring at me and says that this conversation with the body reminds her to communicate with her husband. She brings up a small child, works. Husband from morning to night at work, all in concerns, debts and loans. And it seems to the girl that he does not recognize what she tries for two: a child on her and family budget.
T. : In other words, you lack confessions from her husband?
TO : Yes, it looks like ...
A few words about this work. We spoke some time with this woman. To complete the work, we discussed that she does not voicate their needs for recognition and care, fearing that in a difficult period he is not up to her experiences. But in a sense, he should not be the only source of recognition in life. The task of this woman at this stage is an honest dialogue with her husband that she tries to help him, while underwent himself. And this sacrifice is reflected on her body in the form of insomnia. We ended the conversation by the fact that she would start to praise her body, which means that he had chosen such a life consciously that she was really strong and energetic to combine child care, family life and work. If she rushed to treat themselves with medicines, it would be unlikely that such glimpses of the awareness would be available to it, which means that accumulated insults and claims to her husband would have manifested themselves stronger in the form of another symptom, perhaps much more traumatic for her body.
I do not get ready to surprise what wise tips gives us our body.
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin