Iintsuku ezingaphumelelanga zonke ... Imoto ikutshintshileyo kwi-puddles, umphathi utyingqela emsebenzini, kwaye umntu othandekayo ukhetha ukuthuthuzela ebhedini endaweni yokuhlwa. Kodwa abanye ngalo mzuzu baphulukana nabo kwaye bawela ubomi begama elithi "umtya omnyama", ngelixa abanye banokuzola iimvakalelo. Sixelela malunga nendawo yokugqibela kwezi zinto, apha iimpawu zabo:
Ukumelana noxinzelelo
Ngokutsho kwe-Psychology namhlanje, "Ukuxhathisa nguMgangatho ongaqondakaliyo ovumela abanye abantu ukuba badideke nobomi kwaye babuye, ubuncinci bomelele njengangaphambili. Endaweni yokuvumela ubunzima kunye nokusilela ukuzithambisa, bafumana indlela yokuphakama kuthuthu. " Esi sisiqinisekiso esikuvumela ukuba usinde kangangezihlandlo ezinzima kwaye ufumane "icala elililo". Ungalufumana phi olu buchule? Inqaku elibhalelwe i-Harvard Hust School leMfundo i-Harvard Oricced School, icacisa ukuba "ukuzinza kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane obuxhasa, kunye nokusebenzisa ubuchule obunokusinceda siphendule ngokuchanekileyo kwaye siziqhelanise nobunzima." UGqr Jack Schoncoff, UMlawuli weZiko loPhuhliso loMntwana eHarvard, uthi: "Kuluhlobo kunye nobudlelwane obunokuthi buguqule uxinzelelo lwetyhefu kwinyamezelo. Ingqondo ibibopha ingozi rhoqo kunye noxinzelelo, ukungavumeli umntwana omncinci ukuba ahlangane naye ngendlela esempilweni. Kwinqaku elifanayo, elicatshulwe ngaphambilana, iimpawu ezine ezinokunceda ukukhulisa le nto ifunekayo:
Ubuncinci ubudlelwane obuqinileyo bokhathalelo kunye nenkxaso phakathi komntwana kunye nomzali
Umntu ufanele azive enobunzima "olawula" ubunzima bobomi
Amandla amakhulu okulawula
Inkqubo eyomeleleyo yeenkolelo okanye ukholo
Funda ukuphumla kwaye unciphise okungathandekiyo kwi
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Indalo
Uninzi lwathethwa malunga nobudlelwane phakathi kokudala nokugula kwengqondo. Izifundo ezininzi zachaza ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo kwaye zacetywa izibonelelo ezininzi zokwenza amanyathelo alungisayo. Kwisifundo esipapashwe kwijenali yejenali yophando, iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphembelela ubuchule kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla bafundwa. Ngokutsho kwababhali, "ubuchule bemihla ngemihla buquka utshintsho kwimisebenzi elindelekileyo: Isuka kwisiseko sezinto zokuqonda, ezichaphazela, ukwenziwa, ukuguquguquka, ukuhlekisa, ukulungela umngcipheko kunye nokunyamezela. " Uyilo luthetha amandla okusombulula iipuzzle zobomi. Indlela esiyibona ngayo iimeko zethu zemihla ngemihla. Inqaku lokujonga silisebenzisa xa sihlangabezana neemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo, ezifuna ukulahleka. Imbono yethu ngomsebenzi, ubudlelwane, umhlaba wangaphakathi, iimvakalelo - kunye nendlela esizifezekisa ngayo iinjongo zethu.
Indibano
Ukusekwa - Isakhono esibalulekileyo esihlala sityhutyha. Ngokutsho kwengqondo yengqondo namhlanje, oku kubhekisele kwi-"yezakhono zentlalo, ezixhomekeke kunxibelelwano olusebenzayo ngelixa uhlonipha iingcinga kunye neminqweno yabanye ... abantu abafunwayo, benza ingxelo ngentlonelo nemida emininzi. " Kwabaninzi kulula ukuba siyitsho kunokuba siyenze. Rhoqo, sinokukufumanisa kunzima ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zethu ezingathandekiyo, ngakumbi abantu abasinyanzela ukuba sizive ngolu hlobo (abazali, abantwana, abahlobo, abahlobo). Uphononongo olupapashwe kwijenali yeSayensi yeKliniki yeKliniki yeKliniki kwaye uzilolonga ubonise ukuba uqeqesho lokuzithemba lunokuba luncedo ebantwini ukuba bathambekele kumava. Abantu abafumana imvakalelo enamandla yokukhathazeka okanye ukungakhathali kunokuba luncedo ekusebenzeni kolu sakhono sezinto zabo zemvakalelo yezixhobo. Oku akusincedanga nje ukuba siveze iimvakalelo zethu, iimfuno kwaye sinqwenela ukuba siphile kwaye sinefuthe elifanelekileyo kulwalamano lwethu, ekhaya nasekusebenzeni.
Jonga ukuguquguquka kwengqondo
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Ukuguquguquka kwengqondo
Ngaba ukhe wanemeko xa uchithe ixesha elininzi ukucwangcisa into, nje ukuba ungaliqonde nje ukuba le nto ingakufanelekeli kuwe? Uye wajamelana njani nokuphoxeka? Iimpendulo zale mibuzo inokusinceda ukuba siqonde ukuba "bhetele" indlela ocinga ngayo. Ukuba, umzekelo:
Ndaziva ndicekeceke, kodwa emva koko ndaqalisa ukutshintsha ezi zicwangciso
bathabathela phambili ekwenzeni izicwangciso zabo
Bavakalise ukuphoxeka kwabo, emva koko beza necebo b.
... ke ngoko mhlawumbi ubekekile. Kubuchule bokukwazi ukuvula isicwangciso B kwaye kukho bhetyebhetye ngengqondo. Ngokutsho kukaGqr. Clifford Lazarossss, ezinye iindlela zokwandisa okuguqukayo - ukufunda into entsha yonke imihla, ihlala iyenza into entsha kwaye ishiya indawo entsha kwaye ngabom ishiya indawo yokuthuthuzela.
Ukuziqonda
Kwaye okokugqibela kodwa akukho nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuziqonda. Esi sisakhono esona sinzima ukufumana, kodwa ukuba siyafikeleleka kwaye sibandakanyiwe kwiseti yakho yezixhobo, inokubeka lula ukuphuculwa kwenye izakhono ezichazwe kweli nqaku. Ukuzingca kukukwazi ukunikela ingqalelo kuwe, iingcinga zaso, iintshukumo, indlela yokuziphatha, iimvakalelo kunye neendlela zobudlelwane nabanye abantu ukuba baphumelele ukuphuculwa. Ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga ngokwakho, ukuziqonda ukungakhethi kwinto yokuba awuyonto kwaye yintoni ekufuneka uyilungiselele ". Endaweni yoko, ijonge kwihlabathi lakho elingaphakathi ngokubhekisele kwimfuno kunye nophando. Rhoqo uzibuze imibuzo efana nale:
Abantu bayabona njengoko ndifuna ukundibona?
Ngaba ndinxibelelana nabantu ngendlela endifuna ngayo?
Vakalisa iimvakalelo zam ngendlela esempilweni kwaye ayiyi kuba yingozi kwabanye?
Ukuziqonda kuvula ithuba lokuzijonga ngokwakhe-ukhule kwabo, ilizwe langaphakathi, iindlela zabo ezoyisa ngeendlela - ngaphambi kokuba ujonge abanye. Kodwa ungaze ulibale ukwenza oku kwimfesane, umonde kunye nokuqonda.