Masiku olakwika onse ali ... Galimoto yomwe idakupotsani pantchito, ndipo wokondedwa wake adakonda kukagona m'malo mwa mamawa achikondi. Koma ena nthawi imeneyo amakhalabe ngakhale anali kuloza moyo ndi dzina "Mzere wakuda", pomwe ena amatha kudekha. Tikunena za izi mu izi, nazi zinthu zawo:
Kuthetsa nkhawa
Malinga ndi zama psychology lero, kutsutsana ndiye mtundu wosagonjetseka womwe umaloleza anthu ena kuti asokonezeke ndi moyo ndikubwerera, osachepera. M'malo mololeza zovuta komanso zolephera kuzimasulira, zimapeza njira yokwera m'masoka. " Uwu ndi luso lomwe limakupatsani mwayi wokhala ndi moyo nthawi yovuta ndikupeza "mbali yabwino". Kodi mungapeze kuti? Nkhaniyi yolembedwa kwa Harvard Sukulu ya maphunziro, imafotokoza kuti "kulimbikira zimatengera thandizo, kuyanjana ndi kuyanjana ndi kuphunzira luso lomwe lingatithandize kuchita moyenera ndikusinthana ndi zovuta." Dr. Jack Schoncoff, mkulu wa chitukuko cha mwana aku Harvard, anati: "Ndi maluso ndi maubwenzi omwe angatenge nkhawa zolekanitsa". Ubongo umakhala woopsa nthawi zonse komanso kupsinjika, osalola mwana wina kupirira naye m'njira yabwino. M'nkhani yomweyi, yomwe tawatchula koyambirira ija, mikhalidwe inayi yomwe ingathandize kukulitsa luso lofunikira ili:
Osachepera ubale umodzi wolimba ndi thandizo pakati pa mwana ndi kholo
Munthu ayenera kukhala ndi "kuwongolera" moyo
Luso lodzilamulira lokha
Njira Yolimba Yachipembedzo kapena Chikhulupiriro
Phunzirani kupuma komanso kuchepetsa zoipa
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Chilengedwa
Zambiri zimanenedwa za ubalewo pakati pa zakukhosi ndi matenda amisala. Kafukufuku angapo adafotokoza ubale womwe ulipo pakati pawo ndikulimbikitsa zinthu zambiri kuti apange njira zowongolera. Mu kafukufuku yemwe adafalitsidwa m'buku la Magazini ya Magazine ya magazini, njira zosiyanasiyana zosonyezera luso lathu la tsiku ndi tsiku lidaphunziridwa. Malinga ndi olemba, "Mbaibulo za tsiku ndi tsiku zimaphatikizapo kusintha kwa ntchito zomwe akuyembekezeredwa: Zimachokera ku zovuta, zaumwini, zokondana, kudziletsa, kusuntha, kumalimbitsa ngozi komanso kupirira. " Kuchita zaluso kumatanthauza kuthekera kothetsa mavuto a moyo. Momwe timazindikira masiku a tsiku ndi tsiku. Mfundo yoona timagwiritsa ntchito tikakumana ndi zosasangalatsa, zomwe zimafuna kuti tichotse. Lingaliro lathu la ntchito, ubale, dziko lamkati, momwe timaperewera.
Msonkhano
Kukhazikitsidwa - Luso lofunika lomwe limakonda kunyalanyazidwa. Malinga ndi zama psychology lero, izi zikutanthauza kulankhulana kwa "luso lazachikhalidwe, lomwe limadalira kulankhulana moyenera polemekeza zikhumbo ndi zokhumba za ena ... afotokozereni momveka bwino ndi maudindo ndi malire kwa ena. " Kwa ambiri ndizosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita. Nthawi zambiri, zimandivuta kufotokoza momwe sitimamvera sitiuzokha, makamaka kwambiri kwa anthu omwe amatikakamiza kumva ngati awa (makolo, ana, anzanga, apamtima, abwenzi). Kafukufuku yemwe adalemba mu Journal of Elganical sayansi ya psychology ndipo machitidwe adawonetsa kuti kupembedza kudzidalira kungakhale zothandiza kwa anthu omwe amakonda kukumana nawo. Anthu omwe amakumana ndi nkhawa kapena chisoni kwambiri amatha kukhala othandiza pantchito pazinthu izi chifukwa cha zida zawo. Izi zimangotithandiza kuti tifotokozere zakukhosi kwathu, zosowa zawo komanso zolakalaka zathu athanzi komanso momveka bwino, komanso zimathandizanso kuti banja lathu lizigwirizana komanso limatithandizanso kukhala ndi ntchito kunyumba.
Onani kusinthasintha kwa malingaliro
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Kusintha kwa Maganizo
Kodi mudakhalapo ndi vuto mukakhala nthawi yayitali kuti mulingalire kena kake, kungomvetsetsa kuti nthawi siyoyenera kwa inu? Kodi mudathana bwanji ndi izi? Mayankho a mafunso amenewa atithandiza kudziwa tanthauzo la "mofatsa". Mwachitsanzo:
Ndinaona zokhumudwitsa, koma kenako ndinayamba kusintha mapulani awa
adatenga nawo mbali kuti amangenso zolinga zawo
Adawonetsa matupi awo kukhumudwa, kenako adabwera ndi chikonzero B.
... kotero mwina mwina mwasinthasintha. Pakutha kutsegula dongosolo b ndipo pali kusinthana kwamaganizidwe. Malinga ndi a Dr. Clifdord Lazaro, njira zina zowonjezera kusinthasintha kumeneku - kudziwa china chatsopano tsiku lililonse, nthawi zambiri kumachita chatsopano komanso kusiya mwadala malo otonthoza.
Kudzizindikira
Ndipo zomaliza koma zosafunikira kwenikweni ndizodzidziwitsa. Uwu ndi luso lomwe limavuta kwambiri kupeza, koma ngati likufikiridwa ndikuphatikizidwa ndi zida zanu, zitha kusintha kwambiri kusintha kwa maluso ena otchulidwa munkhaniyi. Kudziona nokha ndiko kukhoza kudzisamalira nokha, malingaliro, zochita zake, machitidwe, malingaliro ndi njira zomwe zimagwirizana ndi anthu ena kuti akwaniritse kusintha kwakukulu. Kuchokera pakuwona zodzipangira nokha, kudziwona nokha sikumangodziwa kuti simunatero komanso zomwe muyenera "zolondola". M'malo mwake, imayang'ana dziko lanu lamkati molingana ndi chidwi ndi kufufuza. Nthawi zambiri dzifunseni mafunso ngati:
Anthu amandizindikira momwe ndikufuna kundizindikira?
Kodi ndimalumikizana ndi anthu momwe ndingafunire?
Fotokozerani zakukhosi kwanga m'njira yabwino osati koopsa kwa ena?
Kudzizindikira kumatsegulira mwayi kuti mudziyang'anire yekha - pakukula kwawo, dziko lake lakutha, njira zawo zogonjetsera - musanayang'ane ena. Koma musayiwale kuchita izi moleza mtima, kudekha ndi kumvetsetsa.