Kwanakin da ba a yi nasara ba ne ... motar da aka fesa ku daga puddles, maigidan ya fi son yin snifing a gado maimakon maraice Romantic maraice. Amma wasu a wancan lokacin duk da kuma sun tsallaka rayuwa tare da sunan "Black Strip", yayin da wasu zasu iya kwantar da hankalin motsin zuciyarmu. Muna gaya game da na ƙarshen a cikin wannan kayan, ga fasalin su:
Juriya damuwa
A cewar Psychology yau, "Resistance ne sai fi gaban a faɗi ingancin da cewa ba wasu mutane da za a rikita batun tare da rayuwa da kuma sama, a kalla a matsayin karfi kamar dā. Maimakon kyale matsaloli da kasawa don magudana su, sun sami hanyar tashi daga toka. " Wannan shine gwanin da ke ba ku damar tsira da wahala sau da wuya kuma nemo "mafi kyau gefen". A ina zan sami wannan fasaha? Labarin ya rubuta wa makarantar Harvard mafi girma na ilimi, yana bayyana cewa "dorewa ya dogara da tallafawa, masu kara dangane da taimako daidai da daidaitawa ga masifa." Dr. Jack SchonCoff, darektan Cibiyar Ci gaban Yara a Harvard, ya ce: "Wannan damar da dangantakar da za ta iya juyawa mai guba a cikin haƙuri". Bara kwakwalwa da haɗarin haɗari koyaushe haɗari da damuwa, ban ƙyale karamin yaro ya jimre masa da lafiya. A cikin wannan labarin, wanda aka ambata a baya, halaye huɗu wanda zai iya taimakawa wajen bunkasa wannan kwarewar da ake buƙata ana gano:
Aƙalla dangantakar dangantaka guda ɗaya da tallafi tsakanin yaro da mahaifa
Mutum ya kamata ya ji da ikon da "sarrafawa"
Mai tsananin ikon kai
Tsarin karfi na imani ko imani
Koyi don shakatawa da rage mara kyau
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Halitta
An ce da yawa game da dangantakar da ke tsakanin kerawa da rashin lafiyar kwakwalwa. Karatun da yawa sun bayyana alaƙar da ke tsakanin su da kuma albarkatun kasa da suka gabatar don yin matakan gyara. A cikin binciken da aka buga a cikin mujallar kerar kirkirar bincike Jaridar Magazine, hanyoyi daban daban na tasiri kan kerawa kan rayuwarmu ta yau da kullun an yi nazari. A cewar marubutan, "kirkirar yau da kullun ya hada da canji a cikin ayyukan da ake tsammanin: muhimmanci, autin sha'anin gani, sassauƙa, a kan gado, sassauƙa, shirye don haɗarin da juriya. " Kerawa yana nufin ikon warware wasanin tunani. Hanyar da muke tsinkaye yanayin rayuwarmu ta yau da kullun. Tunanin kallo muna amfani da shi lokacin da muke fuskantar m motsin rai, waɗanda suke matukar son kawar da su. Ra'ayinmu game da aiki, dangantaka, Duniya ta ciki, motsin rai - da kuma yadda muke cimma burinmu.
Taro
Kafa - muhimmiyar fasaha ce da ake yawan watsi da shi. Dangane da ilimin halin dan Adam A yau, wannan yana nufin "ƙwarewar zamantakewa, wanda ya dogara da tunani game da tunani yayin da suke ikirari da tunaninsu, a bayyane kuma, matsayi da iyakoki ga wasu. " Da yawa ya fi sauƙi a faɗi fiye da yi. Sau da yawa, za mu iya samun wahalar bayyana motsin da ba su da kwanciyar hankali, musamman ma waɗanda suka tilasta mana mu ji wannan (iyaye, yara, suna da abokin tarayya, abokai). Binciken da aka buga a cikin Jaridar ilimin ilimin halin ilimin halin dan Adam da kuma aikin da ya nuna cewa horon amincewa da kai zai iya zama mai amfani ga mutane sarai ga mutane. Jama'a da ke da ƙarfi ji na damuwa ko baƙin ciki mai ban tsoro na iya zama da amfani don yin aiki akan wannan ƙwarewar musamman don kayan aikinsu na motsa jiki. Wannan ba wai kawai yana taimaka mana mu nuna motsin zuciyarmu ba, yana buƙatar da kuma sha'awar lafiya kuma a sarari, har ma yana da tasiri mai kyau akan dangantakarmu, a gida da kuma aiki.
Duba sassauya na tunani
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Sassaucin tunani
Shin kuna da yanayin lokacin da kuka kashe lokaci mai yawa don tsara wani abu, kawai don fahimtar lokacin ba ya dace da ku? Ta yaya kuka jimre wa wannan baƙin ciki? Amsoshin waɗannan tambayoyin na iya taimaka mana ƙayyade yadda "sassauƙa" tunanin ku. Idan, alal misali:
Na ji rigunan rashin jin daɗi, amma da sauri fara canza waɗannan tsare-tsaren
sun dauki kansu a hannu don sake gina shirye-shiryensu
Lafiya ta nuna rashin jin daɗinsu, sannan kuma suka fito da shirin B.
... Don haka youri mai sassaucin ra'ayi. A cikin wannan ikon buɗe shirin B kuma akwai sassauci mai hankali. A cewar Dr. Clifford Li'azik, wasu hanyoyi don haɓaka wannan sassauci - don koyon wani sabon lokaci kowace rana, galibi suna barin wani sabon lokaci kuma suna barin wani yanki mai ta'aziyya.
Ikon kai
Kuma na ƙarshe amma ba shi da mahimmanci shine wayar da kai. Wannan shi ne gwanintar da mafi wuya a samu, amma idan ana samun dama kuma an haɗa shi da haɗin kayan aikinku, zai iya sauƙaƙa inganta haɓaka sauran ƙwarewar da aka ambata a cikin wannan labarin. Kinduwar kai shine ikon kula da kanka, tunaninsa, ayyukansa, halaye, hali da hanyoyin motsin dangantaka da sauran mutane don cimma muhimmiyar cigaba. Daga yanayin ra'ayin kai na kai, wayewar kai ba mai ɗaukar hankali bane ga gaskiyar cewa ba haka ba ne kuma abin da kake bukata ya "daidai". Maimakon haka, yana duban duniyar zuciyar ku dangane da son sani da bincike. Akai-akai tambayar kanku tambayoyi kamar:
Mutane suna lura da ni kamar yadda nake so in gane ni?
Shin ina magana da mutane kamar yadda zan so?
Bayyana motsin zuciyata cikin ingantacciyar hanya kuma ba mai haɗari ga wasu?
Kabilar kai yana buɗe damar da za a kalli kansa - zuwa ga tarbiyyarsu, duniyarsa, hanyoyinsa na ciki, hanyoyin da suke amfani da su - kafin ku kalli wasu. Amma kar a manta da yin wannan da tausayi, haƙuri da fahimta.