Ulonwabo ngumntu ngamnye kunye nodidi oluthile. Yintoni enokuphazamisa umfazi? Nguye kuphela yena! Ufuna ukuba ngumntu owonwabileyo- yiba. Ukonwaba sisixhobo sethu sangaphakathi. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uvuselele nabani na. Ngumntu kuphela. Khumbula umzekeliso: "Yintoni elungileyo kwisiRashiya, ngenxa yokufa kwamaJamani '? Kwimisebenzi yam, ndihlala ndingena ekusweleni kwento ebomini babathengi - akukho ndoda, abantwana, imali, sebenza ... ulonwabo yinto esihlala kuyo, eyakho nezalamane. Masizame ukufumanisa ukuba ayisinikeli ukuba sonwabe:
Nye. Ukungazi iintswelo zakho - "Jonga apho-andazi ukuba, ndizisa into-andazi ukuba yintoni." Ukuba umfazi ngokwakhe engazi ukuba, omnye umntu anethuba elincinci kakhulu "lokuqikelela", uCleirvisiso olwenziweyo akabandakanyiwe kuluhlu lobuchule bomntu.
2. Ukungafuni / ukungakwazi ukuthatha uxanduva ebomini babo , phakathi kwezinye izinto, ukuze ulonwabo lwakho. Umfazi ulindele lowo uza kumenza umlindi wakhe (iNkosana, umyeni, abahlobo, nabahlobo, nabahlobo).
3. I-Stereotypical Livel .
ezine. Ukungazi iimvakalelo zakho, ukungakwazi ukubabonisa, ukucamngca ngendlela ephantsi . Xa ibhinqa lingabonisi iimvakalelo zakhe, inqanaba lilonke lempendulo kwiimvakalelo lincitshiswa, kwaye ke olo vuyo aluhluthiyo lusizi, ingqumbo - inomsindo, ivuyisekile.
Ntlanu. Ukunqongophala kwenkqubo yokulungelelanisa ukumisela iiparamitha zovuyo lwazo lobuqu Ngaphandle koko, umfazi akayiqondi ukuba iyamqhubela kuye okanye hayi, mhlawumbi wonwabile sele? Ndingubani? Yintoni endiyifunayo? Yeyiphi injongo eshukumayo? Ungayiqonda njani into esele ifikelele kuye? Kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bam ukuba ... (ndiza kwenza / ndenze ...)? Yintoni engayi kwenzeka ukuba i.
6. Ulindelo olunzima kunye neentsomi (Akunakwenzeka ukuba wonwabe de indlu iselunxwemeni, ngaphandle komsebenzi, ngaphandle kwabantwana, ngaphandle kwendoda, njl njl.).
7. Ukungabikho komdla ebomini bakhe . Ngaba inomdla endiyamkelayo / inam iya kwenzeka namhlanje?).
Sibhozo. Ukuphunyezwa kobungcali . Kulula ukuhlalutya ukuba oku kuya kuba ngama-75% ixesha lethu. Kodwa uninzi lwethu alujongisi nqobo izinto ezikhethiweyo zomsebenzi ukuze imvakalelo yolonwabo kunye nobomi bolonwabo! Kwaye ligqibela nini ukucinga ngolonwabo? Uninzi lwabantu luhlala kwilizwe elibizwa ngokuba "yi-Autopilot", zibophelela indlela enye yendlela: indlu-i-House-Indlu, kukho iivenkile kunye neengxaki zekhaya nemihla ngemihla kunye nokukhulisa abantwana. Kwaye ukuba bangena kwizibalo (amanani - inyani iyanenkani kwaye ingenakuphikiswa), ke, ngokweziphumo zophando lwezentlalo, kuphela ezingama-30 abantu abazanelisa ukhetho lwendawo yomsebenzi kunye nesikhundla. Ziqwalasele, ngaba ungena kwezi pesenti ezingama-70?
Indlela yokufundwa ngoochwephesha kunye neengcali zebhayoloji kwaye zibalaselisa iHorton "Ukonwaba" - i-Endorphin. Xa sifumana iimvakalelo ezintle, i-Endorphin ingena egazini kwaye sithathe i-bark yengqondo, ebangela imvakalelo yolonwabo, ulonwabo, uloyiso, uloyiso, abantu baqala ukuvala Jonga ezibizwa ngokuba "ngababambeleyo", oko kukuthi, iziyobisi, iziyobisi, ukungcakaza, njl njl. Kukho enye inketho yemvakalelo kunye nokususwa kwezinto ezingenayo kwingingqi yokungazi. Ekuqaleni, akukho nto imbi yenzekayo, i-Psyche yomntu inesifo esiphilayo kunye nokuzeka kade umsindo, kodwa kusaphela intambo, i-bomu, ifana nebhombu yexesha, indlela yokuqhubeka ibala ixesha , kwaye akukho mntu wazi kakuhle ukuba "babak".
Isizathu sokusilela kwemvakalelo yolonwabo ayisiyongxaki yokufikelela kuxinzelelo, kodwa "unxila" kwi-subcoonse yeemvakalelo, ugalelwe kwaye uxinezelekile. Kaninzi kangakanani ukuthumela "esihogweni" kunye nezihlobo, kunye nabasebenzi, kunye nabaphathi, kunye nabathengi ... Andizange ndizibambelele kwiimvakalelo ezinje ?! Ngokunyaniseka! Enye yeentsimbi eziphazamisayo kukudinwa, ukungabi namandla, ukuchwayita, akukho mnqweno, ungazicingeli izinto kunye neziganeko ezenze uvuyo kunye neziganeko ezenzekayo ngaphambili. "Andifuni kwanto," "ndidiniwe (a)", uxinzelelo ngokubanzi, ukuphazamiseka okulala, zombini xa ulele kwaye uvukile "ekuseni." Ukuba udibene okungenani imiqondiso emibini, kukho isizathu sokucinga. Ndikholelwe, yonke into iconjululwe!