Injabulo iyisigaba esisodwa nesikhonzi. Yini engaphazamisa umuntu wesifazane? Yena kuphela yena uqobo! Ufuna ukuba ngumuntu ojabulayo - makube. Injabulo ingumthombo wethu wangaphakathi. Akunakwenzeka ukugxilisa noma ngubani ngenkani. Kuyinto yomuntu uqobo. Khumbula isaga: "Yini enhle ngesiRussia, ngokufa kwamaJalimane"? Ngokwenziwa kwami, ngivame ukufona ngokuswela okuthile empilweni yeklayenti - akekho umyeni, izingane, imali, umsebenzi ... injabulo yilokho esikufisayo kuwo wonke amaholide, abethu kanye nezihlobo. Ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi akusiniki ukuthi sijabule:
munye. Ukungazi kwezidingo zakho - "Bheka lapho - angazi ukuthi, ngiletha okuthile - angazi ukuthi yini." Uma owesifazana uqobo akazi ukuthi ufunani, omunye umuntu unethuba elincane kakhulu lokuthi "ukuqagela", i-clairvifiation esebenzayo ayifakiwe ohlwini lwamakhono abantu.
2. Ukungathandi / ukungakwazi ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngempilo yabo , phakathi kwezinye izinto, ngenjabulo yakho. Owesifazane ulinde yena ukuthi afike aze azenze isikhonzi sakhe (isikhulu, umyeni, abangane / izintombi, abazali).
3. Ukulindelwa Kwezenhlalo Ye-Stereotypical (Wonke umuntu kufanele ashade, abe nezingane, abe yinkosikazi enhle, abe nobudlelwano njengakwimibukiso ye-TV, njll.).
ezine. Ukungazi kwemizwa yomuntu, ukungakwazi ukukhombisa, kuboniswa okungokomzwelo okuphansi . Lapho owesifazane engakhombisi imizwa yakhe, izingalo lonke lokuphendula okungokomzwelo liyancishiswa, khona-ke injabulo ayifani nosizi, intukuthelo - kusuka ekucasukeni, ekujabuleni - kusuka enjabulweni.
ezinhlanu. Ukuntuleka kohlelo lokudidiyela ukunquma amapharamitha entokozo yabo yangasese Ngaphandle kwalokho, lona wesifazane ngeke aqonde ukuthi kuyamhambela noma cha, mhlawumbe ujabule vele? Ngingubani? Engikufunayo? Imuphi umgomo oshukumisayo? Ungakuqonda kanjani lokho osekufinyelele kuye? Kwenzekani empilweni yami uma ngi ... (ngizokwenza / ngenze ...)?)? Yini engeke yenzeke uma ngi.
6. Okulindelwe kakhulu nezinganekwane (Akunakwenzeka ukujabula kuze kube yilapho indlu isesogwini, ngaphandle komsebenzi, ngaphandle kwezingane, ngaphandle kwendoda, njll.).
7. Ukuntuleka kwenzalo empilweni yakhe . Kuyathakazelisa ngiyabona / nami kuzokwenzeka namuhla?).
eziyisishiyagalombili. Ukuqaliswa kobungcweti . Kulula ukuhlaziya ukuthi lokhu kuzoba ngu-75% wesikhathi sethu. Kepha abaningi bethu babukela phansi isici sokuzikhethela somsebenzi womuzwa wenjabulo ephelele nenjabulo! Futhi wagcina nini ukucabanga ngenjabulo? Iningi labantu lihlala esimweni esimisiwe se- "autopilot", enze umzila owodwa osesisekelo: indlu - umsebenzi - indlu, kusenezitolo kanye nokukhulisa izingane. Futhi uma bangena kwizibalo (izibalo - iqiniso linenkani futhi elingenakuphikwa), ke, ngokwemiphumela yocwaningo lwezenhlalo, bangama-30% kuphela abantu agculisa ukukhetha kwendawo yomsebenzi kanye nesikhundla. Zihlole, ingabe ufaka lawa ma-70%?
Le ndlela yafundwa ngamakhemikhali kanye nezazi zezinto eziphilayo futhi yaqokomisa "injabulo" yeHorton - endorphin. Lapho sithola imizwa emihle, i-endorphins faka igazi bese wenza amagxolo obuchopho, adale umuzwa wokuthokozela, injabulo, injabulo, ukunqoba, ungazizwa ungenjalo isidingo ... ungazizwa unesidingo sakho sangaphakathi sokuvala abantu, umphakathi, abantu baqala Funa okubizwa ngokuthi "esikhundleni esibizwa ngokuthi" esikhundleni, utshwala, izidakamizwa, ukugembula, njll kunenye indlela, ubuntu obukhulu, obuhle kakhulu - ukucindezelwa kancane kancane - ukucindezelwa okuthe xaxa kwemizwa engemihle esifundeni sangazi lutho. Uma ubheka kuqala, akukho lutho olubi okwenzekayo, i-psyche yabantu iyi-organic nokubekezela, kepha indondo ingaseyona isikhathi eside kangakanani ... Umzimba usazokwehluleka, i-Meshini iyaqhubeka nokubala isikhathi , futhi akekho owazi kahle ukuthi nini "Babak".
Isizathu sokuntuleka komuzwa wenjabulo akuyona ukusabela okukhulu ekucindezelekeni, kepha "udakiwe" ekuqondeni imizwa, akunakucindezelwa futhi kucindezelekile. Ufuna ukuthumela kwesinye isikhathi "esihogweni" nasezihlotsheni, kanye nabasebenzi, kanye nabaphathi, namakhasimende ... Angikaze ngizibambe ngemizwa enjalo ?! Ngokweqiniso ngokweqiniso! Enye yezinsimbi eziphazamisayo ukukhathala, ukuntuleka kwamandla, ukuthokozela, akukho zifiso, akujabuli izinto nemicimbi eletha injabulo nemizwa emihle ngaphambili. "Angifuni lutho," "Ukhathele (a)", ukucindezelwa okujwayelekile, ukuphazamiseka kokulala, ukusukuma okungenangqondo kanye nokuvuka okungenangqondo "ekuseni." Uma uke wahambisana okungenani nezimpawu ezimbili, kunesizathu sokucabanga. Ngikholwe, konke kuxazululwa!