Ukwakhiwa kobudlelwane yintsomi. Akunakwenzeka. Unokwakha, utsho, ikhaya, emva koko uyakufuna isicwangciso sokwakha, iKontraktha elungileyo kunye nolawulo lwenkqubo. Kwaye ubudlelwane yinto ephilayo, kwaye, njengazo zonke izinto eziphilayo, ziyakhula kwaye ziyakhuliswa ukuba azibulawa.
Yintoni enokutshabalalisa ubudlelwane
Eyokuqala ilindelwe okanye "ukugqithisela iminqweno"
Xa ufuna into, ekuqaleni unokufumana uvuyo, uchulumanco, ukuphakamisa ngaphakathi kunye nokujonga ukuba ngubani onokumnika wona, okanye ungonwabanga ukuba ungonwabi kwaye uhamba naye kwiphupha. Ingxaki kukuba lo "umfanekiso wamaphupha" wahlukile kubantu abohlukileyo.
Ngaba uyayivumela ngokulula iminqweno yakho okanye uyenze ngokwakho xa iqabane lingakuniki le nto uyifunayo? Ngalo lonke ixesha, kwada kwacinga ukuba ibangela ukhuselo kunye nokuxinana. Ke iphupha lijika libe lilindile, ligqitywe ngokuthe ngcembe kunye neemvakalelo ezingalunganga. Obu bunzima benza ilungelo lokuma kwityala lakho kwiqabane lakho, kwaye ityala lelona ndlela ngokukhawuleza ukubulala umnqweno, nokuba kunjalo.
Ngenxa yoko, ulindelo oluqokelelweyo lufuna imbuyekezo, kwaye unokuhamba kude neqabane, yiya kwi-guyption okanye kwingxabano evulekileyo enebango kunye neemfuno ezinokubangela impendulo ngokuchasene nawe kunye nokunxibelelana nawe ngokupheleleyo.
Ingcebiso:
Ipropathi eneqabane iimfuno zakho. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo sisicelo apho umnika umntu kwangaphambili ukuba ilungelo lokukhetha. Ukuba akakulungelanga ukukunika into oyifunayo, fumana enye ifom yokuphumeza iimfuno zakho, eziya kukulingana zombini. Ukuba awukwazi ukwahlula umxholo kwifom okanye unqongophele izakhono zonxibelelwano ezinogonyamelo, nxibelelana noluhlu lwengqondo okanye ingcali yezakhono.
Yamkela ukuba iqabane aliyiyo ipropathi yakho
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Ukophula umthetho-wokudibanisa
Xa ungayihloniphi, oko kukuthi, musa ukubamkela imida yeqabane, nokuba kubonakala ngathi akulunganga kuwe, umngcipheko obiza indlela yokuphembelela. Impazamo eqhelekileyo kubantu abaninzi kubudlelwane kukuqwalasela omnye umntu eyinxalenye yentsimi yabo enolindelo ukuze izisebenze "."
Kodwa eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane kukwenza okwenzekayo kwisibini, i-internship (ingxoxo kunye neentombi, njl.njl), enyanisweni, kukwazisa abantu kwinqanaba liphela ngaphandle kwesivumelwano neqabane.
Ingcebiso:
Yamkela ukuba iqabane ayisiyiyo ipropathi yakho, chaza imida yayo kwaye wenze izivumelwano kwindawo eqhelekileyo. Nyamekela indawo yakho iphela. Ukuthetha nabanye ngobudlelwane bakho - khawucinge ukuba iqabane lakho liya kuba lapho kwaye uzibuze umbuzo, ungayithetha loo nto? Ukuba ngokwenene kufuneka wabelane nomntu, nxibelelana ne-psychologist okanye qala ukugcina idayari, unako, umzekelo, bhala iingcinga zakho kwiSirekhoda selizwi. Kulumkele ukunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo nabantu abaphendula kakubi ngeqabane lakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, i-spator yesithathu itshabalalisi
Xa unamava aqokelelweyo wokusilela kubudlelwane, ukukhumbula iintlungu, ukuthemba abanye abantu kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Umahluko unxulunyaniswa nokulindelekileyo okanye okungazi nto ukuba iqabane liya kwenza into engathandekiyo. Ityhefu ukuba ityhefu kwaye idala isizathu sokunyusa ulawulo kunye nokwaphula imida yeqela. Ngongaqhelekanga ngokwaneleyo, uloyiko ngokuchanekileyo lokungcatshwa kakhulu kakhulu lube yinto yokungcatshwa.
Ingcebiso:
Khetha ukuthembana ngaphandle kwamava okugqibela, kuba ke uya kuba nefuthe kwi-qabane lokuzithemba, kwaye ukungakrokreli. Ukuba awukwazi, vuma iqabane lakho kwiqabane lakho ngaphandle kwentlawulo-kwaye ke ifuthe lokungathembani liya buthathaka. Ukuba imeko yokungathembani ayinakonakala kwaye inobomi obunetyhefu-nxibelelana ne-psychologist okanye fundisa ngeendlela zokutshintsha imeko yakho.