Timazolowera kuti chikondi chimabulukirani pa lokha ndipo sichikufunika kuti chikhale chokhudza kumverera. Komabe, nthawi zina sitisangalala muubwenzi. Kodi chikondi chenicheni chikhale chotani, chomwe chimabweretsa chisangalalo ndi chikhumbo?
Chikondi ndi kumverera kodabwitsa ndipo kuwonjezera apo, ichi ndiye gwero lalikulu la psyche yathu. Kuyambira kutheka kuti atengedwe, tikukumana ndi zovuta zazikuluzikulu. Momwe tingaphunzirire Kukonda?
Monga gawo loyamba, ndikofunikira kulumikizana ndi kudzimva kumeneku. Ichi ndi mfundo yoyambira pofuna kukonda munthu wina. Kupanda kutero, lidzakhala "kulimbikitsa" ubale, chikhumbo chosakwanira cholandira. Kudikira kwa mnzanu wa zomwe sanadzipatse yekha.
Kodi mungachite bwanji izi, osati kugubuduza mu narcissism ndi kudzikuza? Choyamba, kukhala wachifundo. Nthawi zambiri, woweruza wokhwima kwambiri ndi mkati mwathu, ndipo ili ndi gawo lovuta lomwe limatsutsa nthawi zonse, kufananizira, kuletsa ndi zida. Ngati ine sindimadzitamandira ndi kuyamikiridwa, ndidzadikirira kuti ndikhale ndi mphatso, ngati sindinadzipatse mphatso, nthawi yanga, ndiye kuti ndidzalakwitsa Atengeni. Pa chikondi cha chikondi, ndikofunikira kuwona "maulendo anjala" ndikuwadyetsa. Chifukwa chake, aliyense wa ife amatha kuthekera mphamvu yamphamvu yamphamvu mwa awiri mwa awiri, amadziwa bwino kwambiri popanda munthu wadyera akufunika kuti apulumutse kapena kukoka chikondi cha munthu wina.
Kuyambira kwachiwiri pakutha kukhala osangalala muubwenzi ndi kukhazikitsidwa kwa chikondi osati monga madera achisoni, komanso malo omwe achitapo kanthu. Chikondi ndi mneni, ndipo amatanthauza malo. Pamene Euluphoria Wachikondi Monga gawo loyamba la maubale, siteji, yomwe ndi yokoma kwambiri kuti titenge chikondi chifukwa cha chilombo champhamvu, chimachitika pomwe kutentha kumasinthidwanso, komanso dziko lakuya komanso lakuthwa a pawiri. Pakadali pano, zochita ndizofunikira polemekeza inayo. Zochita, abwenzi osangalatsa komanso omveka, omwe ndi "chilankhulo chake". Tonse tikuwerenga zomwe amakonda kwambiri za munthu wanu. Kwa wina, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuwona mawonekedwe a nkhawa, chifukwa wina - amve mawu othandizira, chifukwa wina modabwitsa kuti athe kukhala limodzi komanso kukhala pachidwi. Nthawi zambiri, tikutanthauza kuti kusonyeza chikondi kwa mnzanu ndikuchita zomwezo zomwe ndikufuna kuwona nokha. Mwachitsanzo, samalani, ndipo mnzanuyo ndiofunika kumva mawu osilira komanso othandizira. Timapereka mphatso, ndipo mnzakeyo akumva kuti amakondedwa ndikamamucheza naye.
Chofunika kwambiri ndikuwona "nyengo" zosiyanasiyana zachikondi. Mu psychology, kusintha kwa nyengo ndi imodzi mwazofunikira kwambiri kukula. Chifukwa chake, pamene tikusilira kusintha kwa nyengo, titha kusilira magawo osiyanasiyana a maubale. Lively Live "Wotentha" nthawi ndipo sachita mantha osazizwa. "Zima" nyengo yachisanu, monga gawo la kuzungulira, monga nthawi yozizira ndi mavuto - nthawi zonse zimakhala mwayi wabwino wobadwa kwa malingaliro atsopano, kukweza kwa kasupe mu awiri. Ngakhale kukhazikitsidwa kwa nthawi yotere, chilolezo cholumikizidwa kwambiri ndi gawo lawo. Ndipo, m'malo mwake, kudikirira kusungidwa kosatha ndi zopereka, chithunzi chabwino chimachepetsa mwayi wotuluka mu "nyengo yozizira" mu gwero latsopano.
Mfundo ina yofunika ndi mwala panjira yopita ku luso lokonda ndi zowawa zomwe zili mbali ina ya mendulo. Ngati tidzitsekera ku zowawa, tisapewe, sitikudziwa momwe tingakhalire ndi moyo, kenako timatseka iwo ndi chikondi, kukhala pulasitiki. Ngati mwanena zowawa zenizeni "Ayi", ndiye kuti mumangodzitsekera nokha ku chikondi. Kuti athane ndi kupweteka, musatenge mu mkhalidwe wamavuto ndi Drama - luso lalikulu la mzimu wamkazi. Izi zimapangitsa kuti pakhale miyoyo yayikulu komanso yosiyanasiyana, mawonetseredwe a anthu samagawana pa zoyipa ndi zabwino, zakuda ndi zoyera, komanso zochulukirapo komanso zamoyo. "Inde, ndine wokonzeka kukonda, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti zitha kupwetekedwa, koma ndimasankha kukhala ndi moyo komanso kumva, m'malo mobisala." Ichi ndi chiwonetsero chamkati.
Ndipo pamapeto pake, chinsinsi chimodzi chofunikira kwambiri kuti chikhale chikondi ndikuwona mawonekedwe awo mu mawonetseredwe a mnzake. Ubale ndigalasi lowona mtima. Zili mmenemo timawona mfundo zawo za kukula. Umu ndi momwe moyo wathu ukukulira. Mfundo yayikulu yokhumudwitsa mnzathu imakhala nthawi zonse kudziwa kuti sindinadzitenge ndekha. Uwu ndi mwayi kuwona kukula kwanu, kusintha.
Chikondi chimasintha mafomu ndi katundu, kuyesetsa kunyalanyaza malire ndi kukhazikitsidwa, ndipo anthu omwe amasankha njira yachitukuko yokonda, khalani ndi kukongola kwa moyo.