Okomuntu, impilo yakhe eyenzeka edolobheni elikhulu, ukwephulwa kwemingcele yomuntu siqu - ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo - yize kumnandi kakhulu, kepha namanje ingxenye yempilo yansuku zonke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, sifundwe kusukela ebuntwaneni kusukela ebuntwaneni ukuzophatha ngokuziphatha kwezihlobo nabangane ngokuzithoba ngokwengeziwe, ngoba "bangakwazi". Ochwepheshe bezengqondo abavumelani nalokhu: Uma uhlala ubekezelela ukungaphatheki kahle ngenduduzo yabanye, yize bavale kakhulu abantu, i-Psyche yakho izomane yehluleke. Ngakho-ke, ukwenza kanjani, uma ungafuni ukonakalisa ubudlelwano nozakwethu kanye nezihlobo, kodwa futhi nokukhuthazelela ukucindezelwa ongahlosile? Sizotshela.
Khuluma Ngokungathandeki Ngokushesha
Indlela elula lapho kunobudlelwano bokusetha nomuntu omaziyo omusha: unganikeza ngokushesha ukuqonda ukuthi kuyinto evamile kuwe ekuxhumaneni, futhi yini engeyona. Kunye into lapho sikhuluma ngobudlelwano nezihlobo nabangane abakanye nawe bonke impilo yakho. Kwesinye isikhathi sizokukhula "nomuntu oyekile ukubona imingcele yalokho okuvunyelwe, kwathi phela, omunye umuntu unombono wawo kanye nokusabela ezenzweni zethu, noma ngabe siyayijwayela impilo yakho yonke. Uma lokhu kwenzeka nangezihlobo zakho, zama "ukumisa" izimo ezingathandeki ngokushesha nje lapho zenzeka - asikho isidingo sokulinda futhi sinethemba lokuthi abantu bazoqonda ukuthi akukubi kuwe.
IZwi izimo zakho
Isigaba sesibili esivelayo. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungakhali ngokungemuli ekuziphatheni okungamukeleki, kepha futhi uqoke ngokucacile isikhundla sawo. Siqala umusho ngokuthi: "Nginomthetho onjalo ...", "ngizokucela ukuthi ukwenze lokho ngokuzayo, ngoba ..." Ungesabi ukulimaza okwakho ngale ndlela lapho ukhombisa okwakho Imingcele, umuntu uyohlala ecabanga ukuthi kufanele ukhulume futhi uzogwema izingxabano eziphikisana nesikhalazo sezinto ezijwayelekile, amagama asobala awusizo kakhulu endaweni yokusebenza, lapho kulula khona ukulahlekelwa yilelo qembu elihlukanisa ubudlelwano bomuntu siqu abasebenza nabasebenzi.
Khuluma Ukuqiniseka
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Cabanga abanye abantu, kepha ngaphezulu - ngawe
Inkinga evamile yabantu abancane - bahlala becabanga: "Futhi ngalimaza ukukhanya kwe-vasya?" Esimweni esinjalo, kunzima ukuvikela imingcele yakho uma uqala ukucabanga, ngoba kuzoba ngcono kwabanye, uzinze ngemuva. Khumbula ukuthi kufanele ube sendaweni yokuqala, ngokushesha nje lapho uqala ukuzihlonipha, ukusekela ukuzethemba kwakho ngamagama acacile, azungeze amandla akho azowaphuza, ngokushesha nje lapho afuna ukuzizwa ephakeme kakhulu kuwe.
Ungesabi ukukhuluma ngemiphumela
Kwenzeka ukuthi umuntu aphuthelwa izicelo zakho ngezindlebe, futhi kaningi kwenzeka emndenini, lapho izihlobo zivame ukungaboni ngokungathi sína ukumelana kwethu lapho zizama ukuwela imingcele yomuntu siqu. Kulokhu, kuyadingeka ukuze, ngokuqhubekayo, ukubika ukuthi ngomzamo olandelayo, ake sithi, ukubukeza okungokwakho, ukufinyelela egumbini lakho kuzo zonke izihlobo kuzovalwa.
Thembeka
Musa ukusungula izizathu zokuthi kungani uphikisana nesikhalazo ku- "Wena" noma kungani ungathandi ukuthi izihlobo zihlole isikhwama sakho lapho ubuyela ekhaya. Ake ungitshele, njengoba kunjalo - awuthandi "ukusondela," umuntu kufanele alahle imikhuba emibi ekubhekaneni nawe nakanjani uphazamisa lo oxhumana naye. Ukuphela kwendlela.