Kumntu, obomi bakhe benzeka kwisixeko esikhulu, ukwaphula imida yobuqu- uqoqosho kunye nengqondo - nangona kunjalo, kodwa yinxalenye yobomi bemihla ngemihla. Ukongeza, sifundwe kwasebuntwaneni ukusuka ebuntwaneni Ukunyanga indlela yokuziphatha kwezalamane nabahlobo ngakumbi, kuba "banoku". Iingcali zengqondo azivumelani nale: Ukuba uhlala unyamezele ukungonwabi kwabanye, nangona abantu abasondeleyo kakhulu, i-psyche yakho iya kusilela. Ke indlela yokwenza, ukuba awufuni ukonakalisa ubudlelwane namaqabane kunye nezihlobo, kodwa nokuba unyamezele ingcinezelo ongazimiselanga? Siya kuxelela.
Thetha ngokungonwabisi kwangoko
Eyona ndlela ilula xa kukho ubudlelwane bokuseta nomntu omaziyo omtsha: Unokwazi ukuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo kuwe kunxibelelwano, kwaye yintoni engeyiyo. Yeyona nto xa sithetha ngolwalamano kunye nezihlobo kunye nabahlobo abakuwe phantse bonke ubomi bakho. Ngamanye amaxesha siya 'kuphuhliswa' nomntu oyeke ukubona imida yokuvuselelwa, kwaye emva kwayo yonke loo nto, omnye umntu unombono wakhe kunye nokusabela kwizenzo zethu, nokuba siqhelene nobomi bakho bonke. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka kunye nezalamane zakho, zama 'ukuyeka "iimeko ezingathandekiyo ngokukhawuleza. Akukho sidingo sokulinda kwaye sinethemba lokuba ayithandeki ukuba ayithandeki kuwe.
Ilizwi Imeko yakho
Inyusa kakuhle umhlathi wesibini. Kubalulekile ukuba ungaphenduli ngokungafanelekanga kwindlela yokuziphatha engamkelekanga, kodwa ikwanyula ngokucacileyo isikhundla sayo. Siqala isigwebo nge: "Ndinomthetho onjalo ...", "Ndiza kukucela ukuba uyenze le nto kwixesha elizayo, kuba ..." Musa ukoyika ukwenzakalisa umntu Imida, umntu uyakuhlala ecinga njengawe ukuba athethe kwaye uyakuthintela ukungqubana ngemvelaphi yesibheno esiqhelekileyo, apho kulula khona ukuba ulahlekelwe yindawo yokusebenza ngokwabasebenzi.
Thetha ngokuzithemba
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Cinga abanye abantu, kodwa ngaphezulu- malunga nawe
Ingxaki eqhubekayo yabantu abancinci-ihlala icinga ukuba: "Ndiye ndenzakalisile kaVasya - Ukukhanya?" Kwimeko enjalo, kunzima ukukhusela imida yakho ukuba uqala ucinga ukuba kuqala, njengoko kuya kuba ngcono kwabanye, zishukumisela kwimvelaphi. Khumbula ukuba kufuneka ube kwindawo yokuqala, kamsinya nje ukuba uqale ukuzihlonipha, uxhasa ukuzithemba kwakho ngamagama acocekileyo, ejikeleze amandla akho okuya kunciphisa, kamsinya nje xa efuna ukuva ukuphakama kwabo.
Musa ukoyika ukuthetha malunga neziphumo
Kwenzeka ukuba umntu uphose izicelo zakho ngeendlebe zakho, kwaye uninzi lwenzeka entsatsheni, apho izalamane zihlala zingaboni nzulu imida yobuqu xa izama ukuwela imida yobuqu. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko ukuba ngobunono, ngokuzingisileyo, ukuba banike ingxelo ngalo mzamo olandelayo, masithi, ukuphinda uhlengahlengiso lwezinto zakho, ukufikelela kwigumbi lakho kuzo zonke izahlobo ziya kuvalwa.
Nyaniseka
Sukuziula izizathu zokuba uchase isibongozo esithi "Wena" okanye kutheni ungazithandi ukuba izalamane zihlolisise ibhegi yakho xa ubuyela ekhaya. Ndixelele, njengoko kunjalo-awuyithandi "ukusondela," umntu ufanele ayeke imikhwa engathandekiyo xa eqhubana nawe. Ekuphela kwendlela.