Hamwe naya magambo, umwe mubakiriya mu kwakira yinjijwe. Inkuru ye biroroshye. Babanaga hamwe imyaka myinshi, we kandi akora, yemerera imyidagaduro n'imyidagaduro yoroheje no kwidagadura ku mufuka, kuvanaho inzu, bakuramo inzu, telefoni yo gukora abana.
Kandi birumvikana ko nta mutunzi. No kwemeza mubyumva - ni ukuzana umushahara murugo, bamwe muribo bahindura inzu, bakishyura buri munsi ibyo bakeneye buri munsi, nibindi.
Noneho yabuze akazi kandi ashakisha agashya, agerageza gutsinda kwiheba no kumva ko nta gaciro afite.
Ari mu bwoba: ni iki kubyara kandi kirimo abana? Ni bangahe bategereza kugeza igihe ibintu bihamye, ntibazahaguruka bakagaruka kuri gahunda zabo? N'ubundi kandi, bombi bari basanzwe muri 30 ...
Kubera inkuru ze, twazanye imyizerere myinshi atigeze aruhuka:
1) Abagabo - hasi ni abanyantege nke, ntibishoboka kwizera. Bitinde bitebuke, muburyo bwe cyangwa umuntu, ntazokwizerwa.
2) Muri rusange, birakenewe kubara wenyine kandi ukundi.
3) Kandi mu nyenga y'ubugingo, yarababajwe n'umugabo we, ko yamusize wenyine afite ibibazo nyabyo. Gusobanukirwa ko ibyo bishobora kubaho kuri buri wese, kandi nta garanti ihari, iriba ryimbitse ry'ubugingo, bwifata nk'umubabaye muri ibi bihe.
Nibyiza, ingingo iri kure nshya mwisi yacu. Imiterere yubukungu irahinduka, kurokoka bizongera guhinduka kimwe mubikorwa byingenzi.
Biroroshye cyane kubona kuruhande rwumuntu muriki kibazo. Kurugero, kugirira impuhwe umugore ko aricyo kibero cyonyine ninkunga yumuryango. Birashoboka, ku buryo, ukomeza umugabo we. Bibaho kuri buri wese? Abantu babura akazi - ntabwo ari imperuka yisi. Urashobora kubungabunga, kandi ntabwo ufite ubwoba kuri ibi. Kandi umugore ashobora kwihanganira, noneho umugabo we yahita akira gutungurwa agasanga akandi kazi.
Ibi byose. Ariko ingingo ntabwo ari uguhitamo uwukuri, ninde nyirabayazana.
Itegeko nyamukuru ry'umujyanama muri ibyo bibazo ntabwo rigomba gufata uruhande rumwe, bitabaye ibyo ubufasha ntibushoboka.
Ibintu byaremwe n'impande zose z'amakimbirane cyangwa ikibazo.
By the was, imitekerereze yumuryango iteganyaga ko imiyoboro iganisha ku miryango nk'akanikwaho, ku ruhande rumwe, n'uburinganire, ni ukuvuga gukomera kw'amategeko yashyizweho - ku rundi.
Kurugero, mubigeragezo byasobanuwe, turashobora kuvuga ko umuryango uhagije Rigidna ihagije. Abafatanyabikorwa bafashe ku nshingano zabo zisanzwe n'imbibi z'imikorere, urebye ibyabaye gusa nk'ibanga ry'isi. Bombi bitwikiriwe na vino, kumva ko batishoboye, ubwoba.
Imiryango irimo uruhare rukomeye, impinduka zose zingana nizamu. Niba umugabo ari mirigara, kandi umugore ari mumurima. Ntishobora kongera kubaka gahunda nkiyi. Ndetse hamwe ningorane zigaragara, indwara nubukungu nubukungu, bazakomeza ku nshingano zisanzwe. Intego y'iki gikorwa ni umutekano wumubano, ibyo bibona kuri bo wizewe kandi ufite umutekano.
Mu miryango akajagari, ibintu biratandukanye. Bashobora kuvuga uko byasobanuwe haruguru, nkubushakashatsi, kwidagadura. Kurugero, turashobora gukoresha gutakaza akazi ko gukura kw'akazi, ishyirwa mu bikorwa ry'ibyifuzo by'umugore, n'ibindi nk'imiryango ifite akajagari ntabwo imenyereye gutegura ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose kandi biragoye guhinduka.
Ariko, mu miryango nkiyi, ubushakashatsi buhoraho butuma twumva akaga kandi bitandukanye cyane. Ntabwo ari ibyiciro byose byubuzima bwumuryango, amahitamo arakwiriye. Kurugero, mumuryango abana bato bakura, bimwe bitera imbaraga, imihango, ingeso zirakenewe. Abana biga kumenya isi muburyo runaka: "Papa yishimye, agaburira ifunguro kandi azana amafaranga." "Mama arayikina, arabitaho, ararakaye. Igihe kinini hamwe natwe, naho papa ku kazi. " Mugihe bukeye bwaho ibintu byose bihinduka, abana bakura bafite kumva ko nta butaka bukomeye munsi yamaguru. Ibyo isi irahinduka cyane, ntabwo ari ngombwa gutegura ikintu icyo aricyo cyose kandi kigumane amakosa adafite akamaro. Ibi bigira ingaruka kumihindagurikire y'isi mu isi, aho urwego n'imbibi birahari.
Kandi amahitamo meza, nkuko bisanzwe, ntabwo ari muri kimwe muri polarie, ariko hagati. Imiryango ifite inshingano zifatika kandi zishingiye ku myizerere yabo imyizerere yabo hamwe ninshingano zabo zisanzwe, mugihe cyoroshye zirashobora kumenyera uko ibintu bimeze, nubwo byoroshye imikino yose yibyiyumvo - no kwinezeza no gushakisha ikintu gishya kuri we. Birashoboka ko warokotse ikibazo, bazagaruka ku nganga bakunda, ariko guhinduka bizarega ingorane zoroshya ubuzima kandi byihuse.
Niba usubiye kuri twese mu ntangiriro yingingo, ni ukuvuga, imyizerere herneine yamateka yemera buhumyi, ntizivuguruza ukuri. Kurugero, ko umugabo we yamujugunye wenyine afite ibibazo. Cyangwa ko abantu bose bafite intege nke. Ubutumwa bwitondewe kuri wewe hamwe nibindi nkibinyoma. Bayobora kugirango bakore neza ubwibone bwabo no kubura ubundi buryo bwo kureba uko ibintu bimeze.
Byongeye kandi, imyanzuro nk'aya yamugaye kubera imyumvire yahise yukuri. Niba uyu mugore agenzura, noneho ibyo byagaragaye byarabikoze mbere mubihe byubu, ariko umugabo ababaye mubuzima bwe nubuzima bwe - yabibukije gusa. Aho kugira ngo abonekera kandi abonekera ibisubizo, yaguye mu kwibuka ingorane zashize, ziha umugabo we, ndetse n'amahirwe yo gutsinda ikibazo.
Isubiramo birakwiye rimwe na rimwe, kandi hashaje kandi imigani irajugunya. Ntushobora kwambara imyenda mu myaka makumyabiri ishize. Noneho kuki wizera ukuri ko hashize ukuri. Turagusaba rimwe na rimwe gukora ibarura ryimyizerere ukunda kuri wewe, ubuzima, urukundo, umubano, umubano, amafaranga, ubushobozi bwabo. Ahari zimwe muri izo myizerere izahagarikwa nibikoresho.
Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin