Moyo suli tchuthi chokhacho komanso mapulani okonda, komabe moyo, ana, ntchito, kulephera, kutopa, anthu oopsa.
Umu ndi momwe tikukhalira ndipo, tikufuna kapena ayi, koma tiyenera kuyanjana, kutenga ndi kusiya mphamvu zabwino.
"Com" yosawoneka, yopangidwa ndi magetsi, kukhumudwa, kusakhutira, zotsika mtengo, zimafika, zimafikira Apogee. Zotsatira zake, kusamvana kwamkati kumakula kunja - "kuphulika" kwakunja.
Mikanganoyi ikuopseza kutukuka kwa maubale ndi banja lililonse. Kutha kupezeka kupezeka kwa zenizeni ndikusankha malo olankhula molondola ndikofunikira kuteteza maubale. Njira yochokera ku mkangano ndi kutayika kochepa kwa mphamvu ndi kuvulala ndi psyche komanso ntchito yolimba. Ngati ndi kotheka, mutha kulumikizana ndi katswiri. Kusamvana konse, kusagwirizana kumayenera kuthetsedwa m'mawu, kuwona malirewo, kuyankhula momasuka komanso molunjika.
Ndipo ngati okwatirana amasankha kunyalanyaza malo komanso chete.
Mauthenga: "Ndimamva ndekha", "Ndilibe malo abwino oti tichotse mkangano wakunja ndi kupsinjika kwamkati ndi kuwonongeka kwa mphamvu ndi zinthu zina.
Nthawi yomweyo, mnzakeyo amangotenga chinthu chimodzi - osati kupereka "chotsekedwa". Maubwenzi amasandulika mu mlatho wa kulimbana ndi mphamvu zomwe ndizosatheka kuwonetsa chiopsezo chake ndikupeza.
Mariana Verarata - Volskaya, katswiri wazamisala wa psychoanalyt.
Kumene zimatsogolera? Mukumvetsa kale.
Kusamvana m'mapapo sikungalephereke. Aliyense ali ndi dongosolo lake la zikhulupiliro, zikhulupiriro, mikhalidwe yamunthu. Maphunziro, chikhalidwe, zochitika za makolo ndi ngakhale kufooka kwa kuvulala kwamaganizidwe, zomwe zinachitikira ndikusiyira zomwe tikuwunika pazomwe zikuchitika ndikusankha chisankho.
Chofunika ndi chiyani?
Mu anthu awiri ogwira ntchito ayenera kukhala mwayi umodzi woti angolankhula, komanso akamveka, osachititsidwa manyazi ndi kukana. Kenako, sipadzakhala zopinga ndi zoletsa zamkati kuti zisamakambirana. Kukhala chete sikusanduke kukhala kuzunzidwa mwamaganizidwe.
Mnzanu amene amamugulitsa Kuchokera pa "khoma" lina lokhala chete, nthawi zambiri sizingathetse funso lalikuluzi - "Kodi ili pafupi kukhala mbali ya banja?" Ndipo zokwiyitsa izi.
Amakakamizidwa kuti azikhala mtunda. Zimasokonekera ndipo zimayambitsa chiwopsezo. Kufunika kofunikira kwa chitetezo, kuopa kudziwika komanso kusatsimikizika kwa ubongo "zingwe" ndikubweletsa malingaliro a mnzake, zomwe zimakwaniritsa bwino neurosis.
Udindo: "Sindili ndi iwe, koma osati mosiyana" sikukulolani kuti mumve zenizeni, kukhala ndi moyo ndi kukhala nthawi yomweyo. Kudzimva kwa vacuum, komwe kumadzazidwa ndi kukayikira, mantha ndipo mafunso samapereka mwayi komanso kuwunika momwe alili ndi zomwe zikuchitika mozungulira.
Kumalo oti anene kuti izi zili choncho pali imodzi mwamitundu ya nkhanza zamaganizidwe - gazalati. Cholinga chake ndikukakamiza wina kuti akakakire kuti mawonekedwe ake adziko lapansi, chifukwa chake muzomwezo. Zotsatira zake ndizomveka ... zachisoni.
Tiyenera kudziwa kuti chete sikungakhale kwamuyaya. Posakhalitsa, chete kumaloledwa ndi "kufalikira" kwa mkwiyo wolungama - zomwe zinachitidwa ndi mbali yomwe yakhumudwitsayo ndi zonena zabodza zote nyansi ndi zomwe zimanenedwa.
Chifukwa chiyani?
M'malo mwake, ndikuyesa "kumenya khoma" la chete pamtengo uliwonse. Pamani zida zake, mupangitse kuti achite - ngakhale yankholo likhala losasangalatsa.
Chifukwa chake, maudindo amasewera m'mawu awo: Wovutitsidwayo amatenga malamulo a masewera omwe amaperekedwa ndi ozunza. Maubwenzi amatembenukira ku "kumenyera nkhondo" komwe anthu ali kale pamagawo osiyanasiyana ampiri.
Mgwirizano womwe munthu amalankhula, ndipo wachiwiri (samvera) atatha kukula! Umu ndi njira imodzi.
Nthawi zambiri, womasulira kwambiri samalimbana ndi "kufikiridwa" ndi, "wotopa," amasiya nkhondoyi - amapita kukapereka nsembe.
Sitingachotsenso njira yomwe winayo angaganize, aphunzira kutsegula, kusintha. Nthawi zambiri, izi sizichitika. Nkhaniyi idzabwerezedwa ngati "Thanthwe loyipa" mu ubale wotsatirawu. Ngati amaganiza kuti ndi funso lalikulu.