Ngaphambi kokuba siqhubeke silala, khumbula into esisele siyiva kumaphepha ekholamu: malunga nento yokuba sihamba, neenkqubo kunye neemvakalelo zosapho lwethu. Sicinga nje ukuba wonke umntu ngokwawo. Ngapha koko, sibilisiwe kwisuphu ebizwa ngokuba "yintsapho engazi". Kwaye nangakweyona ndawo ingathandekiyo engathandekiyo, inxalenye ye-US iya kuzabalazela ubudlelwane kunye nokungazi, njengoko lo ngumthombo wethu. Lo mthombo usinceda ukuba sibone ubomi kunye nawe kuyo, siyasifuna okanye akunjalo. Kwi-Psychology, le nkqubo ibizwa ngokuba yinkuthazo yomtshato. Ngapha koko, sithembekile kungekuphela nje kwintsapho iyonke, kwaye sikubone ukufana okukhethekileyo nomntu. Rhoqo Ukunyaniseka kunokufunyanwa, ukucacisa ukuba siphila njengomama wethu, umzekelo. Sizale njengabantwana abaninzi kwaye malunga neminyaka efanayo. Yahlula-hlula njengoko yena, funda, nokuba uyagula ngokufanayo njengoko yena. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuthembeka kunzima ukuyibona, njengoko ivela kwandawo. Umama ubomi bonke kunye nendoda enye - ndilikhulu elinamakhulu! Umama ubathanda abantwana kwaye abafuna abazukulwana, kwaye ndingabahlobo. Umama uthambile kwaye unobubele, kwaye ndilusizi. Kodwa ukuba uyayijonga, yonke le ilixa eliyi "icala lemithunzi yobomi" Mama. Le yingqungqwazi kunye nendlela yakhe yokuphila, neenkolelo zakhe kunye nezikhundla. Kwaye abafazi basokola yile nto ukuba bangazifumani ngendlela efanayo nonina.
Ke ngoku ndilele:
"Indawo entle, iinduli eziluhlaza, isibhakabhaka esicocekileyo. Ndithi mama:" Bhabha? " Kwaye saqala ukusonda emoyeni, ndayonwabela indawo entle noxolo. Imiswe eweni. Emva komlambo obanzi, kwanethamsanqa lolunye unxweme, hayi loo nto ayifuniyo ukuba andifuni ukuya apho. Ndandicebisa umama ukuba aye ekhaya. Kwaye wavuma uthumbelo. Indlu yayifana ne-Old Heads, edlula kwiiholo, yonke into yayizolile, yonke into yayizolile, yonke into yayizolile, Uhlobo, wonke umntu wayesebenza emsebenzini wakhe. Kodwa amagumbi ayexakekile. Kwaye nanku amagama axakekile: "Ndazale igama elifileyo." Ndaziva ndidiniwe kwaye ndingafuni ukufuna ikhaya lam, Ndayithatha ezandleni zam. Kwaye kwakhona ukukhangela akuzange kunike nantoni na, bendiphaphile. Kwangelo xesha, umama ezandleni zam wawathoba ukuba nomonde kunye nokucaphuka. Ndandiqinisekile ididekile. Ufika njani ekhaya? Kwaye ke umfana unika inqaku, ndizama ukufunda amagama, andiqondi: "Ndiqala ukuphinda, isingqisho njengesiqubulo. Ndinentlungu entlokweni yam nasemva.
Iphupha lokulala lihle lo gama lingabonakali. Umama usondele, njengeqabane elithembekileyo, njengengqina lobomi lamaphupha. Ngamaxesha athile, iphupha eliveza ukuba umama wakhe 'udiniwe' ukuba abekeke, kwaye yena udiniwe kukujonga indawo yabo ebomini kunye nendawo yoMfana. Akukho gumbi endlwini, yindlu yabafi. Umama udiniwe, mhlawumbi indawo kamama ide yelihlabathi labafi. Kwaye amaphupha azama 'ukuvuselela "umama wakhe - ukuba amthabathe naye. Ngapha koko, umama sele eyilinde ukuba ayeke aye emsebenzini wabo, njengabanye abahlali bamagumbi ehlabathini babafi.
Umqondiso onomdla - njengoko umama sele eyinkwenkwe. Mhlawumbi oku kubonisa isimo sengqondo kunyoko kuba xa kuphela ubomi batshintsha iindima zentombi kamama. Oku kwenzeka, adidi, rhoqo. Abantwana baba ngabazali babazali babo, baqala ukuqhuba indlela yokuziphatha xa benyamekela umntwana: bonwabisa, bathande, uthando, pamper. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ayosikeko ukubona ukuba umzali oyithandayo, ukuziphazamisa njani kwaye kwiingcinga zokuphelisa, abantwana babandakanywa nokuzonwabisa kunye nokuphucula abazali ukuba bahlale nabo.
Ewe, iFinale yokulala intle. Kwinqaku ibhaliwe: "Ndim." Kukho "imithandazo" kwiindlela ezininzi zengqondo zengqondo: "Ndim, kwaye ndinokuphila ngokwam, nje eli thuba ndinalo." Oku kuthetha ukuba, ngaphandle kokunyaniseka kunye nokunxibelelana nosapho, ndinamava obuqu obuqu, mna kwaye kuphela kwenxalenye yobomi kum. Akekho omnye. Kwaye kuphela endinokwazi indlela endimthanda ngayo. Oku sele intanda-bulumko, hayi i-psychology. Kubonakala kulula kakhulu, kodwa akukho lula ukwenza. Kwiindlela zolwalamano losapho, siphila kumntu, umntu, egameni lomntu, etyhala ixesha apho ubomi bam kwalonto ibingaphezulu kakhulu. Kwaye ubuye, cima okanye uqale kuqala awuyi kusebenza.
Kubonakala ngathi iphupha lethu lisithi ngokwakhe lwalunobomi bakhe ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye nobomi. Oku kubaluleke ngokwenene, ukuphilisa kunye nomzuzu obukhosi bobomi bakhe, nangona ephupheni. Ngoku malunga nendlela abonisa ngayo ebomini bakhe.
Kwaye ngawaphi amaphupha akho? Imizekelo yamaphupha akho Thumela ngeposi: [email protected]. Ngendlela, amaphupha kulula kakhulu ukuveza ukuba kwileta eya kumhleli uya kubhala iimeko ezingaphambili zobomi, kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu - iimvakalelo kunye neengcinga zelixesha lokuvuka kweli phupha.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin