Ingane ngayinye ngaphansi konyaka omusha ibheke phambili kuSanta Claus nango-Ecstasy ibukeka ngaphansi kwesihlahla sikaKhisimusi ukuthola izipho ezilindelwe isikhathi eside. Zikhumbule ebuntwaneni - njengoba ujabule ithoyizi elisha, ingubo enhle, iphakethe elinoswidi. Futhi cabanga ngokuthi futhi futhi unezethembile eziphondweni manje? Ngentokozo efanayo yangempela, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - Ngabe kukhona okungokwemvelo okungadingi lutho? Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi abaningi bakho bahleka. Ake sibheke ezimbangela zokungabaza nokuthi singakuqeda kanjani amakhohliso maqondana nalabo abakunika wona.
Yini evimbela umfazi ukuba athole izipho ezibizayo?
Isizathu esibaluleke kakhulu silele ekucabangeni kwe-stereotypical, ukufakwa okungalungile okwakhiwa ngaphansi kwethonya lemvelo eseduze nokuhlangenwe nakho okungaphumelelanga komuntu siqu. Ezingeni lokuqwashisa, ufuna ukuthola izipho ezibizayo, futhi ukuqonda okubi kukhombisa "i-barn castle" enkulu, okungukuthi, ukuvinjelwa okungabonakala yimishwana: "Ukuthola izipho kuyihlazo", "imihlobiso ethandekayo, a Ukuhamba ngolwandle iMedithera kunganginiki isizathu, kepha nganoma yisiphi isivikeli noma okudinga okuthile ngokubuya "nokunye. Kunezinkolelo eziningi ezilinganiselwe ezifanayo.
Futhi umqondo wakho utshelwa kulokhu? Ngokwemvelo, uthi ukunikeza izipho kumnandi kakhulu kunokuba kubenza. Lokhu ukuphendula okuvikelayo kwe-psyche ukuphendula ukulimala kwangaphakathi okubangela umuzwa wokungakwazi ukusiza, ukwaneliseka ("Angikufanele"). Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukwesaba okujulile kanye nobandlululo olubi kuheha lokho okwesabayo.
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Ungasinqoba kanjani isithiyo sakho sangaphakathi?
Okokuqala, kufanele uqonde ukuthi ungawakha kanjani ubudlelwano nomlingani nabanye abantu. Ngabe ufunani kulokhu kuhlangana kweqiniso? Yakha indawo yokukhanyisela yalo mbono ngaphakathi kuwe. Thola ikhwalithi yobudlelwano, setha amazinga akho. Ngenxa yalokhu, uzozwa ukuthi iyiphi indlela yokuhamba, ulungisa ukuthi awufanele, uzokwenza imihlahlandlela yakho ngazo zonke izipho. Ngemuva kwakho konke, isipho sowesifazane akuyona into nje noma into engenalutho, kepha inani elithuthukisa ukuzethemba, ukubaluleka kwalo kulowo muntu olivelayo.
Kokubili ukuntuleka kwezipho nokungaphezulu kwazo kuncike kulokho okwenzekayo ekhanda lakho. Azikho izithiyo ezinqunyelwe kwabesifazane abaxhasi bangaphakathi nokuzethemba. Zivame ukunikezwa izinto ezibizayo abazithatha kalula. Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi ukuqina nokuzethemba kuba kuphela ngesimo esiphephile (abazali abalungile, ukungabikho kwemithwalo nobunzima)? Hhayi njalo. Kunezibonelo eziningi lapho impilo inzima engaphazamisi ukukhululwa okuvela ezinkingeni nakwesaba, kodwa, kunalokho, kwakuqhutshwa amandla okuqhuba izinguquko ezinhle.
Qaphela ukuthi izipho ziwukubonakaliswa kothando
Ngakho-ke, sibhekane nalokho okusinika kokwamukelwa kwezipho nokuthi singasithatha kanjani isinyathelo sokuqala ngakuwe. Manje bopha konke ukukwenza. Phinda le nkolelo: "Thola izinto ezithandekayo futhi unginike - muhle futhi wemvelo. Bayingxenye yothando nobudlelwano obujwayelekile. " Yini ozizwayo ngemuva kokuphinyiselwa kwaleli binzana?
Phinda le nkolelo: "Thola izinto ezithandekayo futhi unginike - muhle futhi wemvelo. Bayingxenye yothando nobudlelwano obujwayelekile. "
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Linganisa imizwa yakho esikalini samaphoyinti ayi-10. Uyini umaki? Uma kuMfanekiso 9 noma u-10, khona-ke awunabo ubandlululo kubo abanikezayo. Uma emingceleni engezansi, okungukuthi, ukumelana nokuthi ukufakwa kwakho okungalungile kubiza. Njalo ukukhuphula ngengqondo nengqondo kuze kube yilapho i-vertex ifinyelelwa. Zikhethele okuhle futhi uphinda: "Ngifanele izipho ezibizayo futhi ngizithathe ngokwemvelo, futhi njengoba ngithola umholo. Ngingowesifazane osakaza isimo sesimo somuntu sokufisa. "
Lapho uzikhulula ekunciphiseni izinkolelo, ngeke uqale uqale ukuthola izinzuzo ezibonakalayo kothandekayo, kepha futhi ube yisisetshenziswa sawo ukuze uthole impumelelo entsha ngenxa yamandla akho okudala. Lokhu kungukushintshana kwamandla okuvumelana.