Umntwana ngamnye ophantsi konyaka omtsha ujonge phambili kwiSanta Claus kwaye e-ecstasy ujongeka phantsi komthi weKrisimesi ukuze ufumane izipho ezinqwenelekayo. Zikhumbule ebuntwaneni-njengoko uvuyela into yokudlala, ingubo entle, iphakheji enelekese. Kwaye cinga malunga nokuba nakazo nangokunyaniseka kwizipho ngoku? Ngolonwabo olufanayo lokwenene, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu - kwenzeka njani into yendalo engafuni kwanto kwimbuyekezo? Ndiqinisekile ukuba uninzi lwakho luhleliwe. Makhe siqwalasele oonobangela bokwenene bamathandabuzo kunye nendlela yokuphelisa ukukhohlisa ngokunxulumene nabo bakunika.
Yintoni ethintela umfazi ukuba afumane izipho ezixabisa?
Esona sizathu sibaluleke kakhulu sinokucinga nge-stereotypical, ufakelo olungachanekanga olusenziwa phantsi kwempembelelo yendawo ekufutshane nengaphumelelanga. Kwinqanaba lokwazi, ufuna ukufumana izipho ezixabisa kakhulu, kwaye i-nqam le nqaba ethi "I-Barn Backle", oko kukuthi, ukuvalwa okunokuphawulwa ngamabinzana athi: "Izipho zihlazo" a Ukuhamba ngenqanawa kuLwandle lweMeditera akundibali, kodwa nakweyiphi na icebo okanye ukuba ufuna into kwimbuyekezo "njalo njalo. Zininzi iinkolelo ezifanayo.
Kwaye ingaba ingqondo yakho isixelela ntoni kule meko? Ngokwemvelo, uthi unika izipho mnandi ngakumbi kunokuba uzifumane. Le yindlela yokukhusela i-psyche yokuphendula ukulimala ngaphakathi okubangela imvakalelo yokukunceda, ukwaneliseka ("andifanelanga"). Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba uloyiko olunzulu kunye nokucalucalula okungalunganga kutsala into oyoyika kakhulu.
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Ungayilomeleza njani uMqobo wakho wangaphakathi?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane kunye neqabane kunye nabanye abantu. Ufuna ntoni kolu nxibelelwano enyanisweni? Yenza igumbi lokukhanya kolo mbono. Chonga umgangatho wobudlelwane, cwangcisa imigangatho yakho. Enkosi kule nto, uya kuziva njani ukuba ushukuma njani, uqokelela ukuba awulunganga, uya kwenza isikhokelo sakho kwisipho ngasinye. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, isipho somfazi ayisiyonto okanye into engenanto, kodwa ixabiso eliphucula ukuzithemba, ukubaluleka kwalo kumntu oveza.
Zombini ukunqongophala kwezipho kunye nokugqithisa kwabo kuxhomekeke kwinto eyenzekayo entlokweni yakho. Akukho zithintelo zithintelayo kubafazi abanenkxaso engaphakathi kunye nokuzithemba. Bahlala benikwa izinto ezibizayo abazithathayo. Ngaba ucinga ukuba unamandla kwaye ukuzithemba kuya kuba kwimeko ekhuselekileyo (abazali abafanelekileyo, ukungabikho kwemithwalo kunye nobunzima)? Hayi rhoqo. Mininzi imizekelo xa kungekho bunzima ubomi bokungaphazamisi ukuhlangulwa kwizinto ezinzima kunye nokoyika, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, babesebenza ngendlela eya kufikelela.
Qaphela ukuba izipho ziyimbonakaliso yothando
Ke, siye sajongana nezinto ezisinikayo ekunikezeleni ngezipho kunye nendlela yokuthatha inyathelo lokuqala kuwe. Ngoku bayiqonde yonke into. Phinda le nkolelo: "Fumana izinto ezintle kwaye undinike-kumnandi neyokwemvelo. Bayinxalenye yothando kunye nobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo. " Uziva njani emva kokubiza amagama ngeli binzana?
Phinda le nkolelo: "Fumana izinto ezintle kwaye undinike-kumnandi neyokwemvelo. Bayinxalenye yothando kunye nobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo. "
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Hlanganisa iimvakalelo zakho kwinqanaba le-10. Luthini uphawu? Ukuba kumzobo 9 okanye 10, ke awunamkhethe kwabo banikayo. Ukuba kwimida engezantsi, oko kukuthi, ukuxhathisa okwenziwe ngefowuni yakho engachanekanga. Ngalo lonke ixesha linyusa inani de kube kufikelelwe kwi-vertex. Zikhethele eyona nto ilungileyo kwaye iphindaphinde: "Ndifanelwe zizipho ezixabisekileyo kwaye ndizithathe ngokwakho ngokwemvelo, njengoko ndifumana umvuzo. Ndingumfazi osandazana imeko yomntu onqwenela ukundinika. "
Xa uzikhulula ekunciphiseni iinkolelo, awuyi kuqalisa ukufumana izibonelelo zezinto ezithandekayo kuye umntu omthandayo, kodwa ube sisixhobo sokufumana impumelelo entsha ngenxa yamandla akho okudala. Olu lutshintsho lwamandla.