Popular psychology in Russia of the beginning of the 2000s is a whole direction with your teachers, committed by listeners and those who practice thinking and life such: behave as if everything is good, think about good, the thought is material - and therefore everything will become good necessarily . From the screens of TVs and Internet spaces, it brings no fewer ideas, so even if you have not heard about positive psychology, you know the basics well.
True, awl in the bag do not hide - in the nature of a person not only "to eat rainbow and kakak butterflies." People are angry, envious, vertigany, offended, jealous, villous. Every day we are confronted with the most different human nature, when everyone shows the whole palette of feelings, thoughts and actions. At least immatoothly see in others only "good", "good." Those who are not able to see their shadow and the shadow of other people are not capable of long-term relationships. Those of you who are in marriage, long friendly relationships or raise children, know that those who are trusted, people splash their impartial sides, shall be shared, painful and sad. People are voluminous, and a positive approach offers a part of this volume not to notice.
Recently read the study that positive thinking leads to depression. If briefly, it describes that the more we run and oust your hard feelings, ugly manifestations, the stronger they overtake us and disappoint.
So keep believing in the best! And those who want to meet a reality, there are such dreams as our today's heroine.
"I would like to share my problem. Last year I only starve nightmares, where mainly I run away from something (maniac, ghosts, wild animals, etc.). In fact, all this very prevents living normally, in fact I am a happy person and I do not understand where this problem could take. One of the dreams who remember especially: I go in the autumn forest along the road, covered with golden leaves. The whole forest is a short road going in a circle, it is impossible to get out of it. In general, I am going on this road and see a puddle from rainwater, in fact she is shallow, but in this puddle is my corpse with open eyes. I'm not really scared, but I'm terribly, I'm blinking in a dream and find yourself in the room. I fell to the mirror, and a dead girl looks at me and it begins to cry out, I recluxed from this mirror, I go to the lacquered table, she again, and screams again. This happens with any reflective surfaces. As a result, I wake up.
It still happens that I wake up several times in a dream and I think that I wake up in reality. Sleep in a dream, it turns out.
Or today I dreamed that I am at my house, walk. My parents work at the factory at this moment (as in reality). Here I recognize that the terrorist attack happened at this plant, I call my parents - they are alive, everything is in order. In a dream, I was very worried about how they would get to the house, suddenly the explosion will thunder. I am aimlessly doubt next to the house in anxiety and will betray my old school. As it turned out, new terrorists are preparing in this school, everything is very secret, and I should not give the mind that I know everything. Here I wake up and feel very exhausted. "
Even before the analysis of dreams, our heroine writes that she is happy where the nightmares come from? But now we know that in dreams we are pursued by what in real life is supplanted.
For example, the first dream about your own corpse and a dead girl. She detect her own dead side of the soul, which is not in the life of the place, it is sent to the subconscious. It would be nice to wonder when exactly part of me died? Why is she still screaming? What were the events? What I scream and can't do not finish? How does this affect my life now?
The second dream of terrorist attacks towards parents, in places where she lived and studied. About hidden, preparing aggression in places of her childhood. It is important to say that the best and furry of us are dreaming about aggression. We can avoid aggression in life, fear it in any manifestations, but in our soul it will be copied, as it is also part of ourselves, and inherent. We can't live without aggression. She needs to defend himself, defend the point of view, insist on its own, protect children, compete. By nature, their aggression and sexuality are close energy. Be negressive is also to bury your sexuality. Cute "girls-girls" are not attracted, they are rather faithful than sexual interest from men. But the dream of our heroine is filled with aggressive images of terrorists. This squeezed side of her souls fell on those people and those times when she studied to be "good", "believe in the best", do not upset mom and dad, instead of being alive, but at the same time angry, if necessary. About this second her sleep.
Our heroine has every chance of finding the resources of their soul, which it was most likely not to use: to be manifested, living, real, learn to take care of themselves even when everything comes out from under the usual control or does not correspond to the criteria of happiness. And this is a genuine reason for a happy and meaningful life.
And what dreams of you? Examples of your dreams send by mail: [email protected].
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin