"Ebuntwaneni, ngesaba ukuhlala yedwa. Ngisho nalapho umama wami eya esitolo imizuzu eyi-15. Sasihlala efulethini elinamakamelo elilodwa, nami, ngakwedwa, sahlala emuva odongeni futhi sasingenalutho lonke ifulethi. Kwabonakala kimi efulethini othile, noma othile angahamba. Kwakuyesabeka nokuhlala yedwa ebumnyameni ngaphambi kokulala. Kwesinye isikhathi manje sengihlala ngedwa. Umbuzo uwukuthi Ukuthi kungamela i-alamu yezingane enjalo futhi kungani eqhubeka ebudaleni? "- Ungibhalele omunye wabafundi besipika. Isibonelo esikhulu sokukhuluma ngokuthuthumela kwengqikithi.
Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi le yimibuzo edumile kwabaningi. Kubukeka sengathi yindlu efanayo, konke okukuwo kujwayelekile. Kepha ukwesaba kuyanqotshwa lapho umqinisekisi wokuphepha umama - uyangishiya. Umama wesibili ngamunye uyazi lokwesaba okungenangqondo kwezingane zakhe lapho eya endlini yangasese, hhayi esitolo.
Ngendlela ubudlelwano nomama buthinta kanjani umuzwa wethu wokuphepha, ubhalwe kahle ePetranovskaya. Futhi nakho kususelwa emcabangweni wokunamathisela uJ. Bowlby. Ukuhlolwa kwakhe nokubukwa kwakhe kuchazwe kwi-Intanethi.
Umqondo oyinhloko wale ndlela uwumbono wokuthi lapho umama nengane ethanda uthando oluqinile noluthembekile, kulula kuye ukuba njalo sihlale sisendaweni engaziwa. Futhi ngisho nalapho ethuka, kulula ngaye ukuba asinde ngokwesaba kwakhe futhi azise yimizwa yakhe. Izingane ezinjalo, zikhula, zizethembisa ngokwazo, zithembele abathandekayo bazo. Akudingeki babheke isiqinisekiso esihlala njalo ezihlotsheni zabo, ukuqashelwa okukhomba kanye nokuvunywa, ngoba kukhona ukuxhumana okuqinile phakathi kwabo. Lokhu kuxhumana kuqinisekisa inkululeko yokuphila impilo yakho, ngasikhathi sinye ukwazi ukuthi kukhona ihlombe elinokwethenjelwa. Kuliqiniso, uma sikhuluma ngomama onengane encane, lokhu kuxhumana kudinga umnikelo kuyo nhlangothi zombili. Ngenkathi umama onengane esezikhundleni ezithatha futhi enikeza, ebudlelwaneni obudala ibhalansi yokuphaza isebenza kuzo zombili izinkomba - yilapho-ke ukuxhumana kungabhekwa njengokuqinile.
Ngoba umama omncane umama ulingana nokuphepha
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Ngokuqondene nesibonelo esichaziwe, lapho, cishe, sikhuluma ngokunamathiselwe okwethusayo. Mayelana nje nengane idinga isiqinisekiso esingakapheli ukuthi umama useduze kangangokuba akazange ashiye futhi angamshiyanga. Izizukulwane, ziveze izincwadi zikadokotela Spock, azazi ukuthi yikuphi okunamathiselwe okuphazamisayo. Ukondla ngewashi, imodi eqinile, ezibabeni futhi ukuthi ingakuthathi, ukuze ungafundisi ... kuze kube manje, le ndlela yokunakekela izingane zengane. Omama bashiya bekhala izingane embhedeni, 'ukuze ngadubula futhi angizange ngikhohlise, "ungazi ukuthi kusetshenziswe umonakalo phakathi kwabo. Okwengane encane, umama uphephile, ngoba kunenqubo yokwakhiwa kokuzenzela, ingane ayiyehlukaniso nonina. Akayena, kusho ukuthi umhlaba wami uyawa. Umqondo wesikhathi sengane, ngendlela, futhi akaveli ngokushesha. Umama waya esitolo, kumakhelwane, wangilengisa ekhabethe lakhe wakhukhuleka kwelinye igumbi - ingane kuyaphila. Kubi ukubuka ama-MUSWS ama-Woods abaleke kude nezindawo zokudlala, kushiye izingane nezingane kanye nogogo. Ukusebenza, hhayi ukudlulisa okuhle enganeni. Yebo, izingane zizokhala. Yebo, bayoba lusizi. Iphuzu akufanele linganikeli ukukhathazeka ngesiNgisi. Futhi iphuzu ukutshela ukuthi umama uya emsebenzini azofika lapho uhamba nogogo noma ubaba, uzama futhi ulale futhi ulale. Futhi-ke uzosebenzisa kusihlwa ndawonye, sizokwanga futhi sidlale. Ukubikezelwa komhlaba kanye nokubuya okulindelekile kukamama, uma eshiye, yilokho okwenza ukuxhumana okuthembekile. Futhi lo msebenzi kamama. Qagela ingane futhi ugcine izwi lakho. Ezimweni ezinjalo kunendawo yokwahlukana kokuhlukana kanye nenjabulo yemihlangano, ngakho-ke yonke indlela yemizwa exhumanisa abantu abaseduze.
Vele, kukhona okunye okwedlulele. Hlala eduze kwengane ubusuku nemini, ungabi nesikhathi somuntu siqu. Ngisho nomama uTeresa uzoba uhlanya. Futhi le ndlela ibuye yahlukunyezwa, ngoba khona-ke ingane ayazi imingcele nhlobo. Yini ongakwazi, njengoba ukwazi, njengoba kungenzeki. Lesi yisizathu sokukhathazeka. Imingcele idala ukuphepha.
Uma ubuyela kumbuzo womfundi. Lapho iminyaka ibingakaze ingenele isikhathi eside, khona-ke imizwa entantayo yedwa iyisikhathi esihle somuntu siqu nami. Lesi yiso umzuzu lapho ungathola ukuthi yini engilangazelela, edabukile. Siyini isidingo sami? Yini engiyesabayo? Yini engingathembela kuyo? Ngidinga uthando lukabani? Futhi kuvame ukuba "nothando" lwenethiwekhi "lungabonakala esibukweni.
Ngemodyuli, ukukhathazeka ngaphandle kwengxenye yayo ebuhlungu amandla, ngodaba lwezakhiwo. Mhlawumbe, wembula umuntu okhulile, ephazamisayo ngedwa, sekuyisikhathi sokugcwalisa izindaba zabo, ubudlelwano kanye namaphrojekthi othandweni.
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin