"Mukudarika, ndakatya kugara ndega imba yese. Zvaiita senge uri mufurati munhu, kana mumwe munhu anogona kuenda. Yaive zvakare ichityisa kutya nguva isati yasarudzika Kuti zvimirire alarm yakadaro yevana uye nei achienderera mberi mukukura? ", - akandinyorera mumwe wevaverengi vemutauri. Muenzaniso mukuru wekutaura pamusoro pekubvunda kwerudzi rwakawanda.
Ndine chokwadi chekuti aya mimwe mibvunzo inozivikanwa yevazhinji. Zvaizoita kunge imba imwe chete, zvese zvirimo zvinozivikanwa. Asi kutya kutya kukundwa kana gavheni yekuchengetedza ndiamai - kundisiya. Amai mumwe nemumwe wechipiri anoziva kutya uku kwekutya kwevana vake kana achingoenda kuchimbuzi, kunyange muchitoro.
Nezve mafambiro naamai naAmai pfungwa yedu yekuchengeteka, yakanyorwa zvakanaka muPetranovskaya. Uye iyo yakavakirwa pane iyo dzidziso yekubatanidza J. Bowlby. Kuedza kwake uye maonero ake anotsanangurwa paInternet.
Pfungwa huru yeiyi nzira ndiyo pfungwa yekuti apo Amai nemwana vanoumba rudo rwakasimba uye rwakavimbika, zviri nyore kuti iye arambe ari mumwe musiyano asina kujairika. Uye kunyange kana achinge atya, zviri nyore kuti iye apone nekutya kwake uye tenzi manzwiro ake. Vana vakadaro, vanokura, vanovimba mukati mavo, vimba nevadikani vavo. Ivo havafanirwe kutsvaga nguva dzose kusimbiswa kubva kuhama dzavo, kuzivikanwa uye kutenderwa, sekuenderana kwakakwana kwakakwana pakati pavo. Kubatana uku kunovimbisa kusununguka kurarama hupenyu hwako, panguva imwe chete uchiziva kuti kune akapfugama. Chokwadi, kana tikataura pamusoro paamai vane mwana mudiki, uku kunoda zvinopupurirwa pamativi ese. Amai vachiri mucheche vari munzvimbo dzinotora nekupa, muhukama hwevanhu vakuru kuti zviyero zvekutema mumativi ese ari maviri - ndizvo zvino kuti kubatana kunogona kutariswa kwakasimba.
Kune vakomana vadiki mama akaenzana pakuchengetedza
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Kana ari muenzaniso wakatsanangurwa, ipapoka, ungangodaro, tiri kutaura nezvekunyengera kwekutyisa. Ingangoita kuti mwana anoda kusimbiswa nguva dzose kuti Amai vari pedyo kuti haana kubva uye haana kumusiya. Zvizvarwa, zvakaunza mabhuku aacha Spock, haazivi izvo zvinosanganisirwa zvinoshungurudza. Kudyisa newachi, yakasimba maitiro, pamabhiza zvakare kuti isatore, kuti usazodzidzisa ... kusvika zvino, nzira iyi yekuchengeta vana vevacheche. Vanamai vanosiya vachipopota pamubhedha, 'zvekuti ndakadzingira uye handina kunyengera,' kusaziva kukuvara kuri pakati pavo. Kumwana mudiki, Amai vakachengeteka, sezvo paine maitiro ekuumbwa kwekuzviziva, mwana haazviparadzanise kubva kuna amai. Haasi, zvinoreva kuti nyika yangu inodonha. Pfungwa yenguva yemwana, nenzira, zvakare haina kubva pakarepo kuoneka. Amai vakaenda kuchitoro, kumuvakidzani, vakarembera pamusoro pewadhi yake uye vachitsvaira mune imwe kamuri - nekuda kwemwana ndiko kusingagumi. Zvinotyisa kuti utarise mimhanzi yehuni dzinopera kubva mundangariro dzekutamba, dzichisiya vana nevacheche nevazukuru. Kuenda kubasa, kwete kupfuudza zvakanaka kumwana. Ehe, vana vachachema. Hongu, ivo vachatochema. Iyo poindi haisi yekusaisa kuvapa kuti ufungidzike muchirungu. Uye pfungwa yacho ndeyekuudza kuti amai vacho vanoenda kubasa uye vachauya kana iwe ukafamba nasekuru kana baba, iwe unoedza uye kurara. Uye ipapo iwe uchapedza manheru pamwe chete, isu tichambundira nekutamba. Kufanotaura kwepasirese uye kuchitarisirwa kudzoka kwaMom, kana abva, ndizvo zvinogadzira kubatana kwakavimbika. Uye iri ibasa raamai. Fungidzira mwana uye chengeta izwi rako. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro kune nzvimbo yeshungu yekuparadzaniswa uye nemhemberero yemisangano, uye nekuita kwese manzwiro emanzwiro ayo kubatanidza vanhu vashoma.
Ehe, pane imwe yakanyanyisa. Gara padivi pemwana uchitenderedza wachi, kwete kuve nenguva. Kunyangwe amai Teresa vaizopenga. Uye iyi sarudzo inotambudzwa, nekuti mwana haazivi miganhu zvachose. Chii chausingakwanise, sezvaunogona, sezvazvingaitika. Ichi chikonzero chei chekufunganya. Miganhu inogadzira chengetedzo.
Kana iwe ukadzokera kumubvunzo wemuvambi. Kana zera risati rave risingachinjiki kwenguva yakareba, wozoverengera chete manzwiro inguva yakanaka yemusangano wega wega. Ino ndiyo nguva chaiyo apo iwe uchaziva kuti chii chandiri kusuwa, kusuwa. Chii chandiri kudikanwa? Ndinotya chii? Chii chandinogona kuvimba nacho? Ndinoda rudo rwaani? Uye kazhinji "Kutakura" rudo kunogona kuoneka mugirazi.
Na module, kusagadzikana pasina chinhu chayo chinorwadza isimba, nenyaya yekuimba. Zvimwe achizviratidza murume mukuru, anovhiringidza oga, inguva yekuzadza nyaya dzadzo, hukama nemapurojekiti murudo.
Maria Dyachkova, Psychologist, mhuri yekurapa uye inotungamira kudzidziswa kwekuwedzera kwekudzidzira kudzidzisa Center Mika Kika Khazin