Owona mqondiso uphambili wobudlelwane obungenampilo- ukuba kulwalamano awuphili. Imvakalelo yokungonwabisi, umnqweno wokufundisa kwakhona iqabane, ungadluli imvakalelo yokuziva unetyala kwaye ulindelo lotshintsho lubonisa ukuba kukho into engahambanga kakuhle.
Ukuba uziva ukuba ukhuphiswano luvele, kubi. Awusaxhasi, kwaye okusemandleni ethu kuzama ukubonisa ukuphakama kwakho. Lo mdlalo unokufakwa. Kwelinye icala, iqabane likubiza ukuba uphuhlise, kwelinye - le-pipicalies yonke impumelelo yakho. Ijongeka ngathi yisangqa esivaliweyo. Umzekelo, isokuqala indoda kunye nenxalenye yabasetyhini: Inxalenye yabasetyhini ifuna ukuba ubonise iimpawu ze-dolotoni, ngelixa inxenye eyindoda ayinakuyivumela ukuba yenzeke. Ke, ufundile ixesha elide, usebenze kakhulu kwaye ekugqibeleni uyithenge. Kuza kuphela, ukuba ayinakuhlala ngaphakathi kwayo, oko kumkelwa njengendoda.
Ikhwele elinamandla elinamandla alikho kulo lonke uphawu lothando olukhulu, kodwa lithetha ngemvakalelo engalunganga. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba uyibambe ngobuqhetseba (okanye wena), isikrelemnqa siya kukuqhubeka kwendalo kwe-missesn. Kodwa ukuba umntu onekhwele akadingi sizathu, kwaye uyenyuka naye kwindawo ethe tyaba, kufanelekile ukuba ucinga, zeziphi izinto zangaphakathi ezilwela entlokweni yakhe kwaye kutheni ephulukene nokulahlekelwa ngabom. Unokuba nomona kungekuphela nje kubantu abanokhuphiswano, kodwa nakwabahlobo, nakubantwana, nakwabantwana, nakuphi na ukubakho. Eli qela linekhwele lizibophelele ekumiseleni ukulawula kwiintshukumo zakho, kunye nokunciphisa ukusebenzisana kwakho nehlabathi elingaphandle - lenzekayo ixesha elide phambi kwentlanganiso.
Kubonakala ngathi awunanto yokuthetha. Inqaku alikho kwaphela loo nto yenzekileyo ebomini, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akuyi kufunda incwadi enye. Ukubonakala nje ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwakho. Eyona nto inokwenzeka, kukho isihloko esikhulu se-sutte esithatha zonke iingcinga zakho, kwaye sithetha malunga neendlela zoqoqosho lwehlabathi azifanele. Okanye awuthathi uthatha isigqibo sokuthetha neqabane lonke eliza engqondweni, kuba oko bekungayi kuza kuye, kuya kugxekwa okanye kuya kubhengezwa ngokungathandabulanga. Kodwa awuthathi isigqibo sokuxoxa kwaye ukhetha ukuhlala 'kwihlabathi elincinci kungcono kunokuxabana kakuhle ", nokuba umhlaba wakho ufumene imbonakalo ye-anorexit.
Olunye uphawu olungalunganga kwisibini kukungakwazi ukuncokolwa kwencoko phakathi kwakho. Akuseyindlela yakho yokungakhethi kunye nokoyika ukuphulukana neqabane. Ubhengeza ngokusisigxina ingxaki kwaye unike ukhetho kwizigqibo zayo, kodwa uzifumanele ngokwakho kwiintombi zakho okanye kwi-psynckitist. Olona phawu lungenabungozi lwencoko lusenokuvakala ngathi "yonke into indelela" loo nto kwinguqulelo, ngelishwa, kuthetha ukuba "ukuthunga, bendifuna ukungangqini."
Uyakukuqinisekisa ngendlela engafanelekanga imeko, kwaye indlela ophendula ngayo ingonelanga. Musa ukukhawuleza ukuze uzibhale kwi-Madmen, yinto elungileyo "yegesi" - uhlobo logonyamelo lwengqondo, ukuguqula i-zungu, efumene igama layo kwigama elifanayo. Iqabane elicwangcisiweyo likwenza ukuba uzive usisidenge, ungancedi kwaye ungazinzisi ngokweemvakalelo, nangona ngaphambi kokuba uqiniseke ngaye. Ke uya kulawula ngenxa yakho. Ulawulo luphela lufuneka nge-ngcongcote ngenxa yokungathembeki kwendawo yoomama. Abantu abanjalo banengozi enkulu kwaye bakhuselwe luhlaselo. Kodwa oku akuyongxaki yakho zonke. Nokuba ufuna ukuchitha ubomi bokulwa nomnye umntu, hlala ucinga ukuba uyazibulala.