Umaki ophambili wobudlelwano obungesihle - uma ebudlelwaneni awumuhle. Umuzwa wokungakhululeki, isifiso sokufundisa umlingani wakhe, ngaphandle kokudlulisela umuzwa wecala kanye nokulindela ushintsho kusikisela ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle.
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi umncintiswano uvukile, kubi. Awusasekeli omunye komunye, futhi okusemandleni ethu uzama ukufakazela ukuphakama kwakho. Lo mdlalo ungaba ngokuphelele. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umlingani ubiza ukuthi uthuthukise, ngakolunye uhlangothi - ukuvelela konke okufeziwe. Kubukeka njengombuthano ovaliwe. Kuyinto elwela ukuqala kwabesilisa nabesifazane: Ingxenye yowesifazane umuntu afuna ukuthi ubonise izimfanelo ze-Geter, ngokwesibonelo, sathenga indlu, kanti ingxenye yesilisa ingenakuvumela ukuthi kwenzeke. Ngakho-ke, wafunda isikhathi eside, wasebenza kakhulu futhi ekugcineni uyithenge. Kuphela manje kuvela ukuthi ngeke kuhlale kuyo kuyo, ngoba lokhu kuyamdumaza njengendoda.
Umona onamandla ongenangqondo awukho kuyo yonke inkomba yothando olukhulu, kepha ukhuluma ngokungenampilo ngokomzwelo. Vele, uma uyibambe ngepolitiki (noma wena), ihlazo lizoba ukuqhubeka kwemvelo kweMisanesen. Kepha uma umuntu onomona engadingi sizathu, futhi uyeza naye endaweni eyisicaba, kufanelekile ukucabanga, yiziphi izinto zangaphakathi alwa nazo ekhanda lakhe nokuthi kungani azibeka endaweni elahlekelwe ngamabomu. Ungaba nomhawu hhayi kuphela kubancintisana nabobulili obuhlukile, kodwa nakwabangane, nakubazali, nakubazali, ngisho nasezinganeni, okungukuthi, kunoma yiziphi izinto zokunaka kwakho. Umlingani onomona uzibophezele ekusunguleni ukulawula ukunyakaza kwakho, futhi unciphise ukusebenzisana kwakho nomhlaba wangaphandle - okuyinkimbinkimbi okuqediwe kugcwele lapha, okwakwenzeka ngaphambi komhlangano wakho.
Kubukeka sengathi awunalutho olukhuluma ngalo. Iphuzu alikho nakancane ukuthi akukho lutho okwenzeka empilweni, futhi ngokuqinisekile hhayi ukuthi awuzange ufunde incwadi eyodwa. Mane nje kuboniswe ukungezwani okungokomzwelo phakathi kwakho. Ngokunokwenzeka, kukhona isihloko esibi kakhulu esithatha yonke imicabango yakho, futhi ukukhuluma ngezindlela zomnotho womhlaba wonke waba nje akulungile. Noma umane nje unganqumi ukukhuluma nomlingani wakho konke okufika emqondweni, ngoba lokho bekungeke kufike kuye, kuzokwethenjwa noma kumenyezelwe ukungathandeki. Kepha awunqumi ukudingida futhi lokhu kukhetha ukuhlala 'ezweni elincanyana kungcono kunokuxabana okuhle ", noma ngabe umhlaba wakho usuthole ukubukeka kwe-anorexic.
Olunye uphawu lokunganampilo nge-pair kuyinto engenzeka into engxoxweni phakathi kwakho. Akusahambi ngokuzikhethela kwakho nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumlingani. Umemezela ngenkinga obala futhi unikeze nezinketho zezinqumo zayo, kepha zithole uzithumele ezintombini zakho noma kudokotela wezifo zengqondo. Ukwenqatshwa okungenabungozi kakhulu kwengxoxo kungazwakala sengathi "konke kungifanele" lokho ekuhumusheni, ngeshwa, kusho ukuthi "ukushushuluza, bengifuna ukungakufanele."
Unokukholisa ngomqondo omubi wesimo, futhi ukusabela kwakho kubiza akwanele. Ungaphuthumi ukuzozibhalela ezihlanya, kuyinto endala "kaphethiloli" - uhlobo lodlame lwengqondo, ukukhwabanisa, okutholwe igama lawo kusuka kwifilimu ethi "ukukhanya kwegesi" kwegama elifanayo. Umlingani ukwenza uzizwe uzizwe uyisiphukuphuku, awusizi futhi ungazinzile ngokomzwelo, yize ngaphambi kokuhlangana naye ophambene naye. Ngakho-ke uyakulawula. Ukulawulwa okuphelele kudingeka yi-manipulator ngenxa yokungathembani okuyisisekelo kwesibalo somama. Abantu abanjalo basengozini enkulu futhi bavikeleke ngokuhlaselwa. Kepha lokhu akukhona kuzo zonke izinkinga zakho. Noma ngabe ufuna ukunikela izimpilo zokulwa ne-psychopathology yomunye umuntu, khumbula ukuthi uyazibukela.