"Ebuntwaneni, bendisoyika ukuhlala ndedwa. Naxa umama waya kwivenkile kangangemizuzu eli-15. Sasihlala kwigumbi legumbi elinye, ndaye ndihlala ndedwa eludongeni kwaye andikhange ndilinde iliso igumbi lonke. Kubonakala ngathi kum kwigumbi elinye, okanye umntu angahamba. Kwakukho ukoyikisa uloyiko olungenangqondo ngaphambi kokulala kunye noxinzelelo, xa ndihlala ndedwa. Umbuzo ngulo Ukuze imele i-alam yabantwana kwaye kutheni eqhubeka emdala? ", - Ndibhalele omnye wabafundi besithethi. Umzekelo omkhulu wokuthetha malunga nokungcangcazela komxholo oninzi.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba le yimibuzo eyaziwayo kwabaninzi. Ingabonakala ngathi le ndlu inye, yonke into ekuyo iqhelene. Kodwa uloyiko luyasohlwaywa xa isiqinisekiso sokhuseleko nguMama- undishiya. Umama ngamnye owesibini uyazazi ukuba loyiso lubi kakhulu kubantwana bakhe xa esiya kwindlu yangasese, hayi nakwivenkile.
Malunga nokuba ubudlelwane nolwalamano nomama buchaphazele njani imbonakalo yethu yokhuseleko, bubhalwe ePettranovskaya. Kwaye kuguquke kusekwe kwimfundiso ye-intyooks J. Botlby. Iimvavanyo zakhe kunye neembono zakhe zichazwe kwi-Intanethi.
Olona luvo luphambili lwendlela ngumbono wokuba xa uMama nomntwana wakhe wakha uqinile, enokuthembeka, kulula ukuba ahlale eyindawo engaqhelekanga. Kwaye xa enoloyiko, kulula ukuba aphile kwaye afumane imvakalelo yakhe. Abantwana abanjalo, bakhula, bazithemba ngokwabo, bayathemba abo ubathandayo. Akukho mfuneko yokuba bajonge isiqinisekiso esihlala sivela kwizalamane zabo, baqwalaselwe, njengoko kukho unxibelelwano oluqinileyo phakathi kwabo. Olu nxibelelwano luqinisekisa inkululeko yokuphila ubomi bakho, kwangaxeshanye ukwazi ukuba kukho iqabane elinokuthenjwa. Kuyinyani, ukuba sithetha ngomama nomntu omncinci, olu nxibelelwano lufuna igalelo kuwo kumacala omabini. Ngelixa umama enomntwana kwizikhundla ezithathayo nokupha, kubudlelwane bakudala ukulingana kwimisebenzi yomibini-kungoko unxibelelwano lungaqwalaselwa luqinile.
Kumntwana omncinci umama ulingana noKhuseleko
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Njengawo umzekelo ochazwe, ke, ngakumbi kunokwenzeka, sithetha ngokuncamathisela. Ngokubhekisele kwinto yokuba umntwana efuna isiqinisekiso esiqhubekayo sokuba umama usondele kangangokuba akazange ahambe kwaye engamshiyanga. Izizukulwana, zikhutshelwe kwiincwadi zikagqirha, andazi ukuba yintoni i-incase. Ukondla ngewotshi, indlela engqongqo, kwizibambiso kwakhona ukuba zingathathi, ukuze kungafundisi ... kude kube ngoku, le ndlela yokukhathalela abantwana bawo bantwana. Oomama bayeka ukukhwaza iintsana ebhedini, 'ukuze ndaye ndagxotha, ndingakhange ndiphuthiwe, "bengazi lo monakalo usetyenziswe phakathi kwabo. Kumntwana omncinci, umama ukhuselekile, njengoko kukho inkqubo yokwenziwa kokuziqonda, umntwana akazihlulekani kumama. Akakho, oko kuthetha ukuba ilizwe lam liyawa. Umbono wexesha lomntwana, ngendlela, nako akuphumi ngoko nangoko. Umama uye esitolo, waya kummelwane, waxhonywa kwi-Wardobe yakhe kwaye watshayela kwelinye igumbi - ukuba umntwana uyafana naphakade. Kuyoyikeka ukubukela i-mums yenkuni ibaleka kude neendawo zokudlala, ishiya abantwana kunye ne-babysitters kunye notatoyekhulu. Ukuya emsebenzini, ukungadluli kakuhle kumntwana. Ewe, abantwana baya kulila. Ewe, baya kuba lusizi. Inqaku alinakubanika ukuba bakhathazeke ngesiNgesi. Kwaye inqaku kukuxelela ukuba umama uya emsebenzini kwaye uza kuza xa uhamba nogogo okanye utata, uyazama kwaye ulale kwaye ulale kwaye ulale kwaye ulale kwaye ulale kwaye ulale kwaye ulale kwaye ulale kwaye ulale kwaye ulale kwaye ulale. Kwaye emva koko uya kuchitha ngokuhlwa kunye, siya kukuvala kwaye sidlale. Ukuqikelelwa kwehlabathi kunye nokubuyiswa kukamama, ukuba uyahamba, yile nto idala unxibelelwano oluthembekileyo. Nguwo lowo umsebenzi kamama. Ungaxelelwanga emntwaneni kwaye ugcine ilizwi lakho. Kwiimeko ezinjalo kukho indawo yokukrakra kokuhlulela kunye nokuvuya kweentlanganiso, kwaye ke ngoko kumzobo onxibelelanisa abantu abasondeleyo.
Ewe kunjalo, kukho enye into eqatha. Hlala ecaleni komntwana ujikeleze iwotshi, ungabi nexesha lobuqu. Nditsho no-Teresa wayeya kuphazamisa. Kwaye olu khetho lukhathazekile, kuba ke umntwana akazazi imida kwaphela. Yintoni onokungenayo, njengoko unakho, njengoko kungenakwenzeka. Yiso sizathu sexhala. Imida idala ukhuseleko.
Ukuba ubuyela kumbuzo womfundi. Xa iminyaka ingakhange ibengenakuphephe ixesha elide, emva koko idandaza ihamba kuphela ngumzuzu omangalisayo wentlanganiso yakho kunye nam. Lo ngowona mzuzu xa unokufumanisa ukuba ndilangazelela ntoni, lusizi. Yintoni imfuneko yam? Ndiyoyika ntoni? Ndingaxhomekeka ntoni? Ndiluthando lukabani? Kwaye rhoqo "uthando" luthando "lunokubonwa esipilini.
Ngemodyuli, ixhala ngaphandle kwecandelo layo elibuhlungu linamandla, kunye nomcimbi wepropathi. Mhlawumbi, ukutyhila umntu okhulileyo, ukuphazamisa wedwa, lixesha lokuba uzalise imicimbi yabo, ubudlelwane kunye neeprojekthi zothando.
UMaria Dyachkova, ugqirha wezengqondo, ugqirha wosapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqsho loQhulelo loQeqesho lweMarika Khazin