Abaningi bethu kusukela ebuntwaneni bezwa ukuthi umndeni wawungeke ube khona ngokuphelele uma bengekho izingane emshadweni. Kodwa-ke, akusona isizathu sokungabikho kwezingane ukungafuni kwalombhangqwana. Kwenzeka ukuthi ingane ayibeki izizathu eziningi, iningi lazo namanje alisazokwelashwa. Noma kunjalo, okungenani umbhangqwana owodwa womshado, ongahlushwa ukuntuleka kwezingane ezimpilweni zabo ezimpilweni zabo, cishe uzothola endaweni okuyo.
Uma ungakwamukeli umshado ngaphandle kwengane, sizozama ukukusiza ekutholeni ibhalansi yengqondo.
Izingane aziqinisekisi ubuhlobo obujabulisayo
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Okufanele ukucabanga uma uhlala ndawonye nomlingani
I-stereotype leyo umshado engenakuzalwa ayikho - ayinazo izizathu emphakathini wanamuhla. Cabanga ngeqiniso lokuthi kunenye indlela, ngokwesibonelo, wena nomyeni wakho nizosindisa ubusha bomzimba nomoya, isikhathi eside kunalokho obekuningi abazali, ngoba impilo nengane njalo Isibopho esikhulu sempilo yelungu lomndeni elisha.
Kunenguqulo enjalo: Indoda emshadweni ongenamntwana ingashiya umkakhe kalula. Mhlawumbe, akukho okumvimbela ekwenzeni lokhu phambi kwengane. Bamba indoda, i-Premensenev, ayikwazi ukuphumelela.
Ngenkathi uhlala ndawonye, sebenza ebudlelwaneni nge-pair, kuleli cala kuphela awusongeli noma yiliphi igebe, noma ngabe izingane zingaveli.
Ngabe kuvela yini izinkinga zengqondo?
Imvamisa, umbhangqwana ongenamntwana ubhekene nokungaqondi kahle ezihlotsheni nakubangane abaqala ukunikeza izeluleko futhi bazisole "ngeshwa". Akukho lutho olubi lapho okukuzungezile kungakwazi futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, akufuni ukukuqonda. Esimweni esinjalo, oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani bakhe baqala ukuzwa ukungaphatheki kahle kwengqondo: Kungaba nezinkinga zokuzethemba, ukudangala, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, okungaxazululwa kuphela nge-psychologist.
Uma futhi uhlangabezana nomndeni ohlukahlukene, oqala ukuwela imingcele yomuntu siqu, ngobumnene, kodwa ngokuchazayo ukuthi uyaphikelela ukuthi awunakuthandeka lapho uphazamisa impilo yakho ngaphandle kwemvume, uma udinga ukuxhumana nabo. Njengomthetho, le ndlela iyasebenza futhi ekugcineni uzosala wedwa ukuze ukwazi ukugxila kulokho ofuna ukukwenza.
Zama ukusekela umlingani
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Ungayigcina Kanjani Ibhalansi Emndenini?
Into enhle ongayenza komunye nomunye ukuhlinzeka ngokusekelwa nothando lomlingani. Kufanele uqinise ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo, esikhundleni sokusuka komunye nomunye. Zama ukuyeka kancane ezinkingeni ezihambisana nokuntuleka kwengane empilweni yakho, futhi vele ujabulele omunye nomunye, ngamanye amagama - Phila impilo egcwele.