Uninzi lwethu kuba ebuntwaneni beva ukuba usapho alunakubakho ngokupheleleyo ukuba kwakungekho abantwana emtshatweni. Nangona kunjalo, ayisoloko isisizathu sokungabikho kwabantwana kukungavumi kwesibini. Kwenzeka ukuba umntwana akaguquki ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, uninzi lwazo ezonyango. Nangona kunjalo, ubuncinci isibini esitshatileyo somtshato, esingangentsukele ekuswelekeni kwabantwana kubomi babo ebomini babo, siya kufumana indawo okuyo.
Ukuba awukawamkeli umtshato ngaphandle komntwana, siza kuzama ukukunceda ufumane ibhalansi yengqondo.
Abantwana abaqinisekisi ubudlelwane obumnandi
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Yintoni ekufanele ukuba ucinge ukuba uhlala kunye neqabane
I-stereotype enomtshato ngaphandle kwabantwana ayinakuphila - ayinazo izizathu kuluntu lwanamhlanje. Cinga ngento yokuba kukho enye indlela, umzekelo, wena nomyeni wakho uya kusindisa ulutsha lomzimba nomoya, ixesha elide kunokuba ubuhlobo bomntwana - buhlala buxinzelelo, unayo Uxanduva olukhulu ngobomi belungu elitsha losapho.
Kukho inguqulelo enjalo: Indoda emtshatweni ingenamsebenzi inokumshiya ngokulula umfazi wakhe. Mhlawumbi, akukho nto ithintela ekwenzeni oku phambi komntwana. Bamba indoda, i-premesenev, ayinakuphumelela.
Ngelixa uhlala kunye, sebenza kubudlelwane kwisibini, kuphela kule meko awusosikisi, nokuba abantwana bangaveli.
Zeziphi iingxaki zengqondo ezinokuthi zivele?
Okwangoku, isibini esingenamntwana sijamelene nokungaqondani ngokusuka kwizinto nabahlobo abaqala ukucebisa kwaye bazisole "ngelishwa". Akukho nto imbi ngakumbi xa indawo yakho engenako kwaye, kakhulu, ayifuni kukuqonda. Kwimeko enjalo, omnye okanye omabini amahlakani aqalisa ukungonwabisi ngokwengqondo: Kusenokubakho iingxaki zokuzithemba, uxinzelelo, ukuphazamiseka, okunokutsalwa kwengqondo, okunokusonjululwa kuphela ngengqondo.
Ukuba udibene nosapho olungxinaniso, oluqala ukuwela imida yobuqu, ngobunono, kodwa luqhubekayo luchaze ukuba awuphazamiseli ubomi bakho ngaphandle kwemvume, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuqhakamshelana nabo. Njengommiselo, le ndlela isebenza kwaye ekugqibeleni iya kushiyeka yedwa ukuze ukwazi ukugxila kwinto ofuna ukuyenza.
Zama ukuxhasa iqabane
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Ungayigcina njani ibhalansi kusapho?
Eyona nto intle onokuyenza omnye komnye kukubonelela ngenkxaso kunye neqabane lothando. Kuya kufuneka womeleze uqhagamshelo lweemvakalelo, endaweni yokufuduka komnye nomnye. Zama ukuyeka kancinci kwiingxaki ezinxulumene nokusilela komntwana ebomini bakho, kwaye uyonwabele, ngamanye amaxesha - bhela ubomi obugcweleyo.