-UJulia, bathi ukhulelwe okwesibini kuhlala kunzima kunowokuqala. Uziva njani?
-Ndiziva ndifana nokukhulelwa kokuqala. Akukho toososis, akukho dema-yonke into yeyobunye okokuqala. Mnye kuphela ubunzima: ekukhulelweni kokuqala bendiseselula, kuba ndisebenza "kwi-tina kunye" kwinyanga yesihlanu. Kwaye eli xesha kwathi kwaoko ndakhawuleza ndaba kancinane.
- Amajelo eendaba abhale ukuba uye kwikhefu lokuya kubeleka kwiNkqubo "Ndilahleka ubunzima."
-Ndiyiphume nje le projekthi. Ndingumntu onjalo ongathandi ukuhlala kwindawo enye ixesha elide kakhulu. Kwakuyimpazamo yam kumabonwakude. Kulunge kakhulu. Ndayithanda le nkqubo ngentliziyo yam yonke. Kodwa ngaxa lithile ndandingekho kwindlela neqela. Yaqala ukwenza inkqubo engalunganga ngokupheleleyo endifikileyo kuyo. Kwaye ndasamkela isigqibo sokuhamba kakhulu kunokuba ndikhulelwe, kwangoko emva konyaka omtsha. Ndandisazi ukuba ixesha lesine lalikukugqibela kwam. Ngandlel 'ithile yonke yenzekile. Kwaye ngoku ndiyabona ukuba ndithathe isigqibo esichanekileyo.
-Jonga emva, yintoni eyona qhayisa ngomsebenzi owenziweyo?
-Ndinebhongo ngokuba ndisabhala amantombazana. Ayizizo zonke izinto, kunjalo, kodwa uninzi. Ndinxibelelana nabalinganiswa bam kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo. Kumnandi ukubona ukuba abakaze baphinde baqhubeke. Ndinebhongo kakhulu ngabo kwaye ndiyavuya kuba ibandakanyekile koku.
UJulia Kostyushkin kufuneka azale unyana wesibini ngoDisemba. Ifoto: U-Olga Mishchenko.
- Ngaba sele unazo iingcinga malunga nento oza kuyenza emva koko?-Ndiphupha ukwenza inkqubo yezemidlalo yabantwana kunye neentsapho zabo.
-UJulia, abaninzi ngexesha lokukhulelwa beyeka ukubukela ukutya. Yahlula umphefumlo kangangesibini. Ngaba ngoku ulandela uhlobo oluthile lokutya?
- Hayi, andizibambisi. Ndithatha i-dick yowesifazane osisingqongqo osoloko esihlala ekutyeni. (Ukuhleka.) Ngoku nditya yonke into. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba umlomo wam awuvalanga. Ngaba uyazi ukuba sesona sizathu sokufumana ubunzima bengamagorha am? Ngomnye wathi kum: "Ekukhulelweni ifumene amanqaku angama-30. Emva koko ekondleni- 20. kunye ne-20 ngaphezulu koxinzelelo. Kwaye andikwazi kuyeka." Kule meko, kuya kufuneka ucime umlomo wakho kwaye uthathe ngesandla. Andinayo loo nto. Nditya yonke into ngokulandelelana, kathathu ngemini: ngesidlo sakusasa, isidlo sasemini kunye nesidlo sangokuhlwa. Ewe, ndinokuba neendlela zokutya, kodwa ayisiyosandwili okanye iicookies. Nangona ndingatya kwaye ndizokutya okukhawulezayo, kuba ngamanye amaxesha ndifuna obu buhlungu. Kodwa imenyu ephambili sisidlo esiqhelekileyo. Isuphu, iisaladi, inyama, intlanzi.
-Ukusukela kokukhulelwa okokuqala, kwanehla ongezelelweyo?
-Ndifumene amanqaku eekhilogram ezili-12-13. Oku kuthathwa njengeqhelekileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo le iya kuba ngaphezulu. Ndineenyanga ezi-6.5 ngoku, kwaye sele nditshintshwe ziikhilogrem eziyi-11,5. Ngokukhawuleza ndaqalisa ukuqubha, isisu sabonakala kwangoko. Ndicinga ukuba iikhilogres ze-18-20. Nangona kunjalo, umahluko weminyaka eli-9: UBogdana Wonxibe nge-26, ngoku ndineminyaka engama-35 ubudala. Kodwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo.
-Ucinga ukuba, uza kuyinika njani umzobo?
Ewe kunjalo ndicinga. Kwiminyaka elithoba edluleyo ndinomswakanya kakhulu. Kwiinyanga ezintathu emva kokuzala sele beye emsebenzini. Khange ndicinge ukuba iyakusebenza. Ndicwangcise ukuba ndingandondla kangangoko ithatha. Kodwa yoxinzelelo oluqilima lwenzeka, kwaye ubisi lwangcwatywa kwangoko. Ndikhutshelwe inyanga, ndaza ndagqiba kwelokuba nditshintshele kwiibhotile. Kwaye emva koko wavumela ukuba alahle umzimba. Mhlawumbi, okwesibini kuya kuba lula.
- Sele uyazi ukuba ulinde ntoni.
-Ndiyaqonda phantse. (Ukuhleka). Ndinenkwenkwe kwakhona. Ukuba kukho intombazana, ngebenokwenza into yokufunda nokufumanisa. Kwaye ke ndiyazi ukuba ngamakhwenkwe ayenza kwaye zithini izinto eziphathekayo kubakhathalele.
"Ndiyazi, i-bogdan ayiyi kuba yingozi, kodwa iya kuba nothando kwaye iyakhathazeka emntwaneni," uJulia Kostyushkin uqinisekile. Ifoto: U-Olga Mishchenko.
-Umkhumbula ukuba lithini iqabane lokuba uza kuba nguyise?-Yiqinisekile. Nangona i-song onokothusa okokuqala. Ngo-Matshi, ndafumana umsebenzi ongxamisekileyo. Ndisusiwe noLymph node. I-lacqued kangangeeveki esibhedlele. Kwabakho ukubuyiselwa ixesha elide, uninzi lwee-antibiotics. Inyanga emva kotyando, ndaqala i-aramarger. Kwakhona i-antibiotics. Kwaye ndingacinga ngayo yonke into, kodwa hayi malunga nokukhulelwa. Ngapha koko, emva kwembali yethu, kwiminyaka emine eyadlulayo, xa sasiphulukana nomntwana. Ewe, sisebenze kumbuzo. Kodwa ayisebenzi. Kwaye emva koko ndayeka ndicinga ngomntwana ...
- ... Batsho, kanye njengokuba yonke into iphumile.
-Ngaba! Ukufika kwam kugqirha ndathi: "Kulungile, inokwenzeka njani? Ndinoxinzelelo uxinzelelo. Aphendula ugqirha: "Uxinzelelo kuxinzelelo luvumela inkqubela phambili." (Uhleka.) Ndiye ndabona uloyiko lokuqala. Ndikhumbula, ndenze iimvavanyo ezininzi-awusoze wazi ukuba yintoni. Kodwa wonke umntu wayenethemba. Ndaya kwihenyukazi imini yonke. Emva koko wagqiba: ndiza kuya kwagqirha, ndiza kuqinisekisa yonke into, kwaye emva koko ndiza kwazisa ngokusesikweni. Ayikwazanga ukumelana. Ngokuhlwa, uSteasik wagoduka, ndamxelela: "Vala amehlo akho kunye nokunxiba isandla." Uyenzile, ndambeka entendeni lovavanyo. Ngethamsanqa, wayeyinto entsha yefestile. Wavula. Kwaye khange aqonde. Kuba imvakalelo kukuba ubambe isibambo okanye ithemometha. Kwaye ke, xa ndabona i-pliness, ndiphantse ndaphela. Ndigobe, ndanga kwaye ndonwabile.
- Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uthi ngoku umyeni ubhekisa ekukhulelweni kwakho ngenye indlela kuneminyaka elithoba eyadlulayo?
Nguye umntu owisayo. Wayesoloko enesimo sengqondo esikhethekileyo, endinombulelo ongazenzisiyo kuye. Kwaye ndiyabona ukuba ngoku uziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
-Ngaba kunjalo?
-Ngahlukileyo. Andikwazi ukuchaza ngamagama amabini. Mhlawumbi ngesazela. Mhlawumbi ngononophelo. Xa ndandinxibe i-bogdan, i-stssik ayihambanga nam kwagqirha, yayingeyiyo enye i-ultrasound. Kwaye nantsi ke - ihambe. Wayelinde kakhulu intombazana. Ixesha elide uyamcela. Safika e-Ultrasound, utata wethu wajika i-camcorder ukulungisa yonke into. Ugqirha wachitha izandla aze athi: "Into onokukwenza ngayo, wazala amadoda." Kwaye igumbi likaTata licinyiwe. Ndambeka ke mna, "Ufuna ntoni? Ibhinqa lifuna indlebe. Apha ungayithenga indlu, kwaye kwangoko unayo intombazana iya kuvela. " . Ngelixa ndilindile.
"Unyana uhlala egqobhoza isisu sam nokwanga. Uthi uyathanda, "UJulia uyamkelwa. Ifoto: Instagram.com.
-Uzithini na njani unyana wakho iindaba?-UBogdan sele eyinkwenkwe enkulu. Kuqala ngoNovemba uya kuba yiminyaka ezisithoba. Ungumbutho wengqondo wengqondo, uhlangabezana ngenxa yayo yonke into. Ukongeza, unesimo sengqondo sokuchukumisa kunye ne-stas. Ndikunye noTata ngabahlobo. Kodwa namhlanje ngumntwana wam. Hayi i-mamenkon, kodwa unyana kamama. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba uthi, bendiqonda ukuba ilizwe lakhe linokuwa ukuba nditsho ngandlel 'ithile kuyakwenza oko kwenzeke. Savumelana noStatik, ukuba asiyi kuthetha nto de sikwazi ngesondo lomntwana okanye kude kube sisisu. Kwaye ngesiquphe ngamanye amaxesha unyana uqalisa ukuthetha ngenyaniso yokuba incinci izelwe. Ndakhe ndaphulaphula, baphulaphula ezimbini, emva koko baqala ukucinga ukuba i-STAS ithe. Kwaye umyeni wam wayecinga ngam. Ngenxa yoko, sagqiba kwelokuba i-bogdan okanye iqine, okanye umntu othile wathi kuye. Kwaye unomdla wokuthetha naye. Sahamba nge-bogdan egumbini, ndaqala: "Nyana, ndifuna ukuthi kuwe siza kuphinda wongeze kungekudala. Siya kuba sincinci. Andazi ukuba ngubani umntakwenu okanye udade. Kodwa wena uya kuba ngumzalwana okhulileyo. Waqala ke wavuya, kwaye emva koko ndiziinyembezi. Ndiqalise ukukhala. Ndibuza: "Ulila ntoni?" Kwaye: "Mama, awuyi kundinika naphi na?" - "Asiyi kukunika naphi na kwaye siyathanda kakhulu." Wazola kule nto. Kwaye ngoku uNyana uhlala egqobhoza isisu sam nokwanga. Uthi uyathanda.
-Ucinga ntoni amadoda akho aza kukunceda?
-Ndiqinisekile ngayo. IBogdan ingashiywa incinci. Inyani yile yokuba umama wam unabahlobo abadla ngokuthatha unyana wakhe kwi-DACA yakhe. Kwaye kutshanje babe nentombi eyazala intombazana, kwaye uBogdan onolu mntwana wachitha ixesha elininzi. Ndiyazi ukuba i-bogdan ayiyi kuba yingozi, kodwa iya kuba nothando kwaye inyikima emntwaneni.
- Kwaye iqabane lakho le-diaper liya kuba nakho ukutshintsha?
-I-Bogdan itshintshile. Ngapha koko, xa uBogdan wayemalunga nenyanga, kwafuneka ndenze isatifikethi sokuzalwa. Besingenanto ye-nanny. Ngoku ndinomncedisi wasekhaya. Kwaye ndiyazi ukuba andiyi kucinga ngayo nayiphi na into ngaphandle komntwana. Kwaye emva koko iBogdan ibekwe kwi-troller ekhitshini, ndaphendukela kwaye kwangaxeshanye bendichwetheza kwaye ndipheka. Ke ngoku ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba lula. Kwaye ngoku uStusik wenza isenzo sobukumkani sokuqala: Undiyeke ukuba ndiyenze isatifikethi sokuzalwa. Ndaxhonywa kwiinaliti zezi zinto zingaqhelekanga. Babhabe bandul. Kodwa yonke into ibilungile, ibhulukhwe entlokweni yomntwana ayixhomekanga. Kwaye emva kwenyanga, uStasik wenza isenzo sobuqhawe wesibini. Ndiye ndaba ndisendle, azange kwenzeke naphi na kuba umntwana akashiywanga nabani na. Umota wandicebisa: "Yizani, mama, zithande. Uyayincipha ngoku, ukupakisha ukuthenga. " Kwaye ndishiye imini yonke! Ewe kunjalo, yatyalwa ukuba kufuneka wenze kwaye apho ilele khona, kwaye kwaye iqhubekile ikwifowuni. Kodwa xa ndifikile, amehlo ka-mc stasik ayexinene. Wathembisa ke ukuba wonke umntu uza kubeka ilitye lesikhumbuzo kubo bonke abafazi. Yinyani, de kube zenziwe. (Uhleka.) Kodwa wayeyiqonda le nto - ehleli nomntwana omncinci.
-Uye wavinjwa nyani i-STAS ukuba aye ngokuzalwa komntwana?
-Ndiyakholelwa ukuba indoda ayinanto yakwenza apho. Ewe, amanenekazi amaninzi asenokungandiqondi: "Ndimhle kakhulu, ndimhle kufutshane." Andidingi mhle kufutshane. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba lo ngumcimbi wabafazi noogqirha, kwaye sithandwa - ngakumbi eyam - iya kuma ngamehlo asasazekileyo. Musa ukuma, kodwa ulele ngokulandelayo. Unika igazi ukuxoka, hlobo luni lokuzalwa? Ngenxa yoko andiyi kwenza nam, nomyeni wam. Ndingcono. Isibonelelo samava sele sikhona. Ndicinga ukuba yonke into izakulunga.