Umonakalo omncane kakhulu nokuhlupheka okuncane kakhulu, ukhulula labo bantu abadala ababengazange babe nezingane kuphela. Abantu abanjalo batshaliwe ekukhuleni kwabo, baqinisa uxhumano olulandelayo, hhayi ngomzali wakhe, bahamba, babethanda uhlobo oluthile lokuthandana, ngokuxhumana okunobungane ngaphandle komndeni. Vele, ukunakekelwa kwengane esevele evuthiwe evela endlini ngeke ihlale inganakwa, kepha ayinalutho futhi ibuhlungu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isikhathi lapho izingane zishiya indlu kababa, ngoba amadoda ambalwa amadoda avuthiwe abizwa ngokuthi yigolide kwesinye isikhathi ashada. Bakhululekile ekunakekelweni kwansuku zonke kwezingane futhi ekugcineni banikezwe bona uqobo nalo. Kwenzeka ukuthi bathole ukuthi uthando lwabo nokusondela kwabo kwaqinisa kanjani ngokuqinile. Futhi baphinde babone isikhathi esimnandi sobunye komunye nomunye: baqhubeka nohambo, baxhumana, ngentokozo abakukhathalelana futhi bajabulela isikhathi esihlanganyelwe.
Okuphambene kwenzeka kaningi. Batali labadala babuke kude nekutsi bona badlali empilweni. Iminyaka eminingi, okushiwo ukuba khona kwabo kwakuyizingane nokwakheka kwazo. Ngoba lapho izingane zingenalo neze (emindenini enjalo kwenzeka ngobuhlungu), zisuswa kubazali bazo, wonke amalungu omndeni abhekene nendlala ebabazekayo engokomzwelo kanye nokuwa okunamandla kakhulu kwencazelo yempilo.
Izingane zihlala zinomuzwa wesikweletu esingakhokhelwa kubazali bazo, ngaso sonke isikhathi umatasatasa ukuba zibuyiselwe: imali, ukunakekelwa, ukukhombisa impilo yazo ephumelelayo, ukuzalwa kwezingane ngokushesha okusemandleni ukwenza ogogo nomkhulu. Bazali bahlushwa ukulangazelela impilo yabo "egcwele. Ukuzisola ngamathuba alahlekile nokucasulwa ukuthi impilo ayinalutho noMonotane.
Noma kunjalo, bonke abazali balungele isikhathi sesidleke esingenalutho, kwesinye isikhathi esifakazela amaphupho abo.
Leli phupho labiwe ngowesifazane, umama wayeseyinsizwa evuthiwe ngokuphelele. Unempilo yakhe uqobo, baphila ngokwahlukile, futhi wonke umuntu wakha ngokuzimela impilo ngomunye.
Kepha kwesinye isikhathi izinhlungu zokukhula nokwahlukana zisathukuthele ngamaphupho: "Ngiphupha ukuthi indodana yami, izilwane ezifuywayo, izilwane ezihuquzelayo zohlobo oluthile lweziqu olwandle. Futhi ngiyigijimisa ukuzisindisa. Scary, ngiyabona ukuthi anginaso isikhathi. Wagijima, wasakaza konke, futhi akaphefumuli. Ngaphonsa ikhanda emadolweni ami ekhanda lami, ngacindezela, lalingena kulo, futhi wathula. Ngavuka ekushayweni, ngenhliziyo exhomeke futhi ngahluleka ukulala. "
Manje indodana yakhe isivele iphakamisa ingane yakhe, ayidingi usizo lwamama. Kepha ama-heroine ethu asakhunjulwa, yini lokhu: ukuba nesibopho ngokuphelele empilweni ye-CHAD yakho, ukuba uqaphele futhi yonke iminithi ukulandela impilo yakhe.
Futhi amaphupho akho?
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin