Kwabaningi bethu, ubudlelwano lapho umuntu ekhona awemukeleki nje. Kodwa-ke, manje kunemibhangqwana engaphezulu futhi engaphezulu engasekeli nje umyeni womshado ezithombeni zothando, kodwa futhi nomthelela kulokhu. Lolu hlobo lokunamathisela lubizwa ngePolyiamoria. Kuyini nokuthi le nto inemqondo kanye nokuthi le nto, sizobheka phambili.
Ungahle ungaqondi eduze
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Okumele i-polyamoroa
I-polyiamoria ibizwa ngokuthi uthando noma uthando ngomuntu kubantu abaningana, ukungakwazi ukuhlala kuxhumeke kahle nomuntu oyedwa kuphela. Noma kunjalo, kuhlangene kancane nalomvukelo, ngoba umlingani wesibili wazi kahle ekuzilisheni kwama-halves akhe futhi usekela kulokhu.
Abalandeli bakaPolyaMoramoria bayenqaba zonke izimpikiswano eziphathelene neqiniso lokuthi umndeni ojabulayo ukhona ngokwemigomo ye-monogamy. Futhi uma isithembu senqatshelwe emazweni amaningi, i-PolyaMoramoroa ayilawulwa ngayo ngumthetho. Ngemuva kwakho konke, akekho noyedwa ongakhawulela ilungelo lomuntu lokuthanda nokuhlangana nabalingani abaningana.
Isixhumanisi esinjalo asinazo nje izinhloso zocansi, kodwa zothando ngokwengeziwe.
Ngokweqiniso, ubudlelwane obunjalo bunzima kakhulu ukunquma emphakathini wethu olondolozayo, ngoba ukusabela kwabathandekayo nabangane kuzolindeleka kakhulu.
Lokhu akuthathwa njengokuvukela umbuso
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Yiziphi izinzuzo zePolyamoroa
Njengoba sazi, ubudlelwano obuningi buhlakazeka uma omunye wabalingani eba yisidina. I-PolyaMoramoria yenza kube nokwenzeka ukuphazamisa umuntu ngamunye futhi "aqabule". Njengoba ingxenye yesibili iyabona ubudlelwano phakathi komlingani wakho, akufaneleki izigcawu zomhawu, ngakho-ke igebe lomhawu alisongeli lobu budlelwano.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ucansi ngezindlela ezinjalo luhlukahlukene kakhulu, njengoba ozakwethu bathola ulwazi ngasohlangothini bese bebelana nabo nabanye.
IPolyiamoria ine-min of motives eningi
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Futhi yini lezo?
Ama-minus abaluleke kakhulu yinhlalo. Okungukuthi, ukusabela kanjani okuzungezile. Uma ungesabi ukungaqondakali, ungazama, kepha uma nje uma umlingani wakho uzokuxhasa.
Isisu sesibili, kunalokho, sihlobene nabesifazane: I-polyamoroa inenzuzo enkulu kumuntu. Ukuze ube nesigamu esinamandla, ngokuvamile uthola umndeni ngemuva kweminyaka engama-40, kanti owesifazane efiseleka ukuba nesikhathi sokubeletha kulonyaka okungenani ingane eyodwa, ngoba uhlelo lwayo lokuzala lunesikhathi salo.