Eminyakeni yabafundi ngidubule efulethini nomakhelwane, ongumdala kunami iminyaka engama-20, eyayithanda ukwenza inhlanhla kumamephu we-tarot. Elinye igumbi ladutshulwa ngenye intombazane, isifuba sami ngebele elikhulu le-silicone kanye nezindebe ze-halouroone, ezazivame ukucelwa ukuba zikhokhe amadoda akhe. Yayihlanganisa kanye nobudlelwano ngasikhathi sinye amadoda ashadile nangemva kokuba izikhathi zokuhlukanisa zibahlelele izigcawu ezinesiphepho ocingweni, umphumela wazo abapho amakha noma abamhlophe abamhlophe. I-Fortune Teller yancoma intombazane ngesibindi nesimanga esinamandla, base bemngcwabo ukunqoba ukunqoba, bephuza ekhishini.
Umakhelwane ukholelwa ngokweqiniso entweni eyakhe abikezela futhi wangizibuza njalo. Ngesinye isikhathi ngabona ukuthi usevele wenza ukwenzeka njalo ngengxenye yehora, okuthile kuzokwehla, kuvalwe amehlo akhe, ngokungabaza ngaphansi kwempumulo yakhe. Wayekholelwa kokunye okuhlukile amukela futhi aphoqa abanye ukuba bakholwe nabo. Isibonelo, mina nabo bonke omakhelwane senqatshelwe ngokuphelele ukuhamba etafuleni izibuko ezingenalutho kanye nesoso, futhi kwakudingeka ukuba zibenze egumbini. Udoti ungathathwa kuphela ekuseni noma phakathi nesikhathi sasemini. Ngama-chandeliers ngokuhlekisa ama-panties abomvu - ngoba futhi kuyimali.
Umfanekiso wemicabango kamakhelwane wami kanye nabantu abafana ngayo neye-Psychology ubizwa ngokuthi "ukucabanga komlingo." Ukucabanga komlingo akuwona ukholo emabuthweni angaqondakali njengoba kunjengezincazelo zenkolo noma ukukholwa kokukholelwa kwabafokazi. Ukucabanga kwemilingo yimizamo ye-neurotic yokulawula izehlakalo ezikumele kuwe ngemicikilisho ethile, ukuhambisana nama-taboos noma imicabango. Umuntu angaqonda kahle ngeqiniso lokuthi ayilawuli isimo sezomnotho ezweni, futhi abanye abantu kuhulumeni, kodwa ngoba umyeni wakhe (unkosikazi) ohambweni lwebhizinisi ngeke bathinte ingqondo, besaqhubeka nokulandela ingqondo Iso ngosizo lwe-deck lwamakhadi futhi alugcine ku-leash, enze amasiko abopha ngokocansi. Umbono olula wokuthi uma ungakwazi ukulawula isimo - ungachithi izinzwa zakho kukho, ngasizathu simbe.
Izimpande zokucabanga imilingo zilele ebuntwaneni. Ingane e-The Baby COT ifakwa kakhulu ukuze isebenze umama futhi idlondlovumele. Ngakho-ke, ingane yakhiwa umuzwa wokukhungatheka, ngoba izifiso zakhe zenziwa, kufanelekile ukucabanga ngabo kuphela. Imvamisa, ngemuva kweminyaka emithathu, ingane iqala ukuqonda ukuthi akuyona yonke into ekulelizwe elawulwa yizwi layo ukuthi kunezinye izinto okufanele zihlanganyele kuzo noma ezingaphansi kwazo. Ngeshwa, abaningi kanye nobudala obuvuthiwe banamathele emqondweni ongezingane bokulimazeka kwabo, bezama "ukuphatha indawo yonke, ngenkathi ama-Sanitar efulathela."
Isazi sezengqondo saseMelika uJulian Rotter ngo-1954 wethule umqondo onjalo njengendlela yokulawula. I-Locus of Control ibizwa ngokuthi ukuthambekela komuntu ukuze ancike embondweni empumelelweni yawo noma ukwehluleka kwangaphakathi noma kwangaphandle. Kukholakala ukuthi ukwedlula le-locus yangaphakathi, ubuntu obuvuthiwe ngokwengeziwe. Kepha singakwazi yini ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngakho konke okwenzeka kithi? Yebo Cha! Asinacala lokubuthana kwe-avalanche ezintabeni, ngesimo sezepolitiki sezepolitiki emhlabeni, ngisho nangemicabango yabalingani babo.
Ethandwa kunethiwekhi ye-blogger kanye ne-psychologist Commissiomissioner, ebhala ngaphansi kwe-pseudonym voileve ichaza umqondo wokulawulwa kwe-locus: "I-Locus enhle yokulawula ingukuthi uqondise ukunaka kwakho, ikakhulukazi ekhokhiswe ngokomzwelo nokunakwa kakhulu, yilokho kuphela Emingcele yethonya. Konke ukunakwa - endaweni yethonya. "
Okungukuthi, wena okokuqala uzibuza - futhi yini engingayithonya yona? Bese uphendula ngokwami - lokho ngakho. Futhi wenza izindaba zakho ngaphandle kokufafaza.
Ngeke sazi kahle ukuthi kwenzekani kusasa futhi sifunde imicabango yabanye abantu, kodwa senza okuthile okuncike kithi - cabanga ngengxenye yanyanga zonke yemali engenayo, unakekele ubudlelwano obuhle nothandekayo wakho, ozungezile Ukunakekela nothando kwakhe ngaphandle kokungabaza okungadingekile ngokuthembeka kanye nezidingo ngokweqile ngakho. Zonke lezi yizinto zangempela esingazilawula kahle ngaphandle kokujulisa izinto ezincanyana.