Lapho ukhuluma ngenqubo ye-pickup, iningi limelela amadoda angakwazi ukusondela futhi ayenga noma iyiphi intombazane, kepha akunjalo. Kukhona ne-pickup yabesifazane, kanye nezifundo zokuyenga kwabesifazane zijabulele ukungathathwa kangako kunamadoda. Sizosho ukuthi yimiphi imithetho okufanele ilandelwe ukuheha ukunakwa cishe kwanoma yimuphi umuntu.
Ukubonakala
Lapho nje usunqume entweni yesifiso sakho, ungaqala isigaba sokuqala, okungukuthi ukudala isithombe sokuyenga. Vele, inguqulo ye-Win-Win iyingubo, ama-Studs aphezulu nezinwele ezinhle kakhulu ezishaqekile, kepha le ndlela izoheha umuntu ubusuku obumbalwa kuphela, akusekho. Uma kunobudlelwano besikhathi eside ezinhlelweni zakho, awudingi ukubonakala kulabo ongeyena: amadoda masinyane "anyakaze" futhi wakudumaza. Kungcono ukugcizelela izinzuzo zakho zesibalo, hhayi ukulimaza induduzo yakho: thatha izicathulo zowesifazane esithendeni esiphansi, ezizonikeza ukukhuphuka okudingekayo.
Ukukhetha ingubo, kuhlanganise ngokuphelele ngezesekeli kanye nemihlobiso, ehlanganiswe ngale ndlela - zinikezela izikhwama zevolumetric nezigqoko ezingenasiphelo. Kufanele ukhiphe ubufazi, futhi ukubukeka kusiza kuphela ukuthi ungene esimweni.
Khombisa unesinqumo
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Ukulungisa
Amadoda ayakubekezelela angeke abe ungqimba oluminyene lwezimonyo ebusweni bakhe, ikakhulukazi uma sikhuluma ngosuku lokwakha. Sebenzisa imali encane yokugcizelela ukugcizelela futhi ungagxili ekushifweni. Ngaphambi kokushiya izimonyo ezingcono kakhulu zokuhlola ezingcono kakhulu kusengaphambili ukuzethemba ekumelaneni kwayo.
Yini elandelayo?
Ngemuva kokubuthana nomoya futhi uhlala phansi nentombi egqoke i-bar oyithandayo, ungaqala ukufuna umlingani ongaba khona. Umdlalo wokubukwa uxhumekile lapha. Into ebaluleke kakhulu - indoda kufanele ikunakekele, futhi ngoba lokhu akusona ukuphinda kuhlanga kabusha futhi "kudubule ngamehlo." Lapho nje le ndoda idonsela ukunaka kuwe, awudingi ukukhombisa ukuthi unentshisekelo, unganuka ngisho nenye indoda ukunikeza ukuqonda - unesinqumo uma kwenzeka wehluleka. Njengomthetho, kulesi simo endodeni uvuka umoya wokuncintisana futhi ubheka isibopho sakhe sokuthola okungenani umuntu okhangayo.
Weza. Ungakuhalalisela ngokunqoba okuncane. Manje into esemqoka akukhona ukuhambisa into yesifiso. Khumbula ukuthi okubaluleke kakhulu - hlala owesifazane, futhi ngenxa yalokhu awuphuzi utshwala obunamandla kakhulu, ungafungi nge-mat futhi ungahleki lonke igumbi. Elinye iphutha elikhulu elenza indoda ifune indlela yokubuyela emuva - isikhalazo ngempilo. Okuncane kunabo bonke abangane bakho abasha bafuna ukwazi ngemalimboleko yakho nezinkinga nezihlobo.
Ungaphuzi okuningi
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Ngesikhathi sengxoxo, awukwazi ukuthinta ingxenye evulekile yomzimba. Kepha kwenze ngokucophelela. Ngokuvamile, yiba nengcweti futhi uphumule, ulalele i-interlocutor futhi ungakhulumi kakhulu ukuze indoda ifune ukukwazi kangcono, futhi kulokhu okudingayo ukuze uhlangane futhi. Lapho uhlangana noma uzokuhlakulela ukujwayelana okusha, bonisa ukukhathazeka okuncane: cishe noma yimuphi umuntu ngeke ahlale engenandaba nokubamba iqhaza kwakho. Ukuze wenze lokhu, ungalungisa kahle uthayi wakhe noma isikhafu. Lokhu kuthinta okuncane kuhlehlisiwe kwimemori.
Uma konke kuhamba kahle futhi waphakamisa ukuthi ugibele noma ufeze - ungakuhalalisela ngokunqoba.