Ngaba sihlala sizibuza ukuba uyandithanda okanye akunjalo? Yanele ukuba uphile ubomi bakho bonke? Sonke sisoloko sicinga ngothando, sithandabuze ngolwalamano olugqibeleleyo kunye nephupha kumava okuziimvakalelo ezintle emhlabeni. Iinethiwekhi zentlalo zicula neefoto ezininzi kunye nemifanekiso enesiginitsha entle eluthandweni oluyinyani kwaye yintoni eyona ndoda ifanele ibe yindoda yokwenene okanye umfazi ofanelekileyo. Kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha sibeka xa ndifunda into ekufutshane okanye enomdla. Isihloko sothando sihlala sikhona kwincoko zethu nabahlobo, kufutshane noogxa bakho. Ewe ... Nokuba upholile kangakanani, kodwa le mvakalelo idlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bethu. Umntu othile wanelisekile linani kunye nomgangatho wothando ebomini bakhe, umntu akanjalo. Ngokwahlukileyo, uthando luthatha ifom yakhe. Wonke umntu unothando lwabo. Ndifuna ukunika enye yezimvo ezinomdla malunga nokuba kukuthini uthando kunye nokuba kwenzeka ntoni. Ugqirha wezengqondo yaseMelika uRobert Sternberg ubonelela ngefomula yothando elandelayo. Ngokoluvo lwayo, kubandakanya izinto ezi-3: ukusondelelana, ukuthanda kunye netyala.
Phantsi kwengozi iyaqondakala njengemvakalelo yokusondela nomntu, xa unokuwanika amava akhe asondeleyo, wabelane ngovuyo nosizi, obizwa ngokuba yimiphefumlo. Imvakalelo yolonwabo kunye nokufudumala ngonxibelelwano kunye nomnye nomnye, imvakalelo yokunamathiselwano ikwabonisa ukuba nolwalamano olusondeleyo. Le yinxalenye yeemvakalelo zothando.
Inkanuko yeyokuba akukho nzima ukuqikelela, malunga nezesondo, inkanuko, umnqweno wokusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni. Le yeyona nto ikhuthazayo yothando.
Ityala (okanye ukunyaniseka) libonakalisiwe kukuzibophelela kwabantu abathabatha ubudlelwane. Oku malunga nesigqibo sokuthanda ngakumbi kwaye uqhubeke nobudlelwane, okanye hayi. Ityala yinto yokuqonda yothando.
Inketho efanelekileyo apho wonke umntu uzabalazela - uthando olugqibeleleyo, olubandakanya zonke ezi zinto zintathu. Kodwa oku kuyenzeka rhoqo.
Kwimibandela ezinzileyo, zimbini kuphela zanele. Ngokusekwe kule nto, iindidi ezintathu zothando zinokwahlulwa:
I-Romantic = ukuThengisa + ukusondelelana. Amaqabane avakalelwa kukuba nomtsalane ngokwesondo kunye nokunamathela ngokweemvakalelo omnye komnye.
I-Rocky = I-Preser + inkanuko.
Ubuhlobo = Ityala elisondeleyo + (Unikelo). Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, ubudlelwane obunde obude kunye nexesha butshintshwa zibe yifom.
Enye yezinto akwanelanga ukwakha ubudlelwane obude nobungile, kodwa into isenokusebenza ngaphandle. Ewe kunjalo, ayizukufowunela uthando olupheleleyo, kodwa ukanti ...
Ngokuqinisekileyo wonke umntu wafumana uvelwano oluqhelekileyo lwabantwana besini esahlukileyo. Kukho ubushushu, umdla, uvakalelwa kukuba "wasondela kakhulu emoyeni", kodwa akukho ndwendwe lwesondo, inkanuko, kwaye umnqweno wokuthatha naziphi na izibophelelo. Oku kuyenzeka xa ulwalamano olusondeleyo lukhona kubudlelwane. Kulula ukuqikelela ukuba malunga nobuhlobo.
Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba ekuqaleni ukulinda, kukho umnqweno ophambeneyo, othandanayo, owenziwe kwangoko, okanye uphakanyisiwe, emva kwexesha. Kwangelo xesha, akukho ncoko yengqondo kwaye, kunjalo, ukuzibophelela. Hayi ixesha elide, kodwa kukwindlela ekufuneka kuzo kwezinye iimeko. Yiyo loo nto iqaqambile, kodwa uthando olufutshane.
Uthando olusesikweni - xa abantu bedibanisa kuphela ingcinga. Oku kwenzeka rhoqo kubudlelwane obunamandla xa abantu belahlekile zonke iimvakalelo kunye nokutsala ngokwasemzimbeni omnye komnye. Nangona kwezinye iimeko, xa, umzekelo, abantu batshata ngokubala okanye hayi kwintando yabo, indlela yothando inokuba yindawo yokuqala yokuqala yokuphucula ubudlelwane obunye.
Ke kubudlelwane ohlukeneyo, uthando luthatha ifom eyahlukileyo. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba kanye. Nawaphi na amacandelo anokuphuhliswa. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba ubudlelwane bungaqiniseki, kwaye amaqabane ahlanya ngononophelo iimvakalelo zomnye nomnye.