Byasa nkaho urubyiruko rugezweho ntirushobora kugira ibibazo mubuzima bwimbitse, niba gusa ko igitsina cyabonetse cyane gishoboka, ibisekuruza byabanje ntibishobora kurota. Kandi nyamara abatezimbere ba psychologue barenze induru - Imibonano mpuzabitsina yabantu bafite imyaka 18 kugeza 34 Hafi ya kimwe cya kabiri cyagabanutse, niba ugereranije numubare wimibonano mpuzabitsina ababyeyi babo. Twahisemo kumenya, niyihe mpamvu ituma umurwayi atererana imibonano mpuzabitsina mu kinyejana cya 21.
Ibintu byose biri murutonde hamwe no kwihesha agaciro?
Niba imibonano mpuzabitsina yubuzima ihujwe cyane na physiologiya, noneho umugore akeneye guhuza cyane cyane. Hamwe n'iterambere ry'imibereho, hari umubare munini w'abantu bazwi "mubantu" - abanyarubuga, rimwe na rimwe batambukiranya ishusho idasanzwe, umuntu woroheje muri kimwe cya kabiri bigoye kwigereranya, cyane cyane iyo aje ku mugore. Nkigisubizo, ikibazo cyo kwihesha agaciro, kigenda mubibazo na libido. Birasa nkaho ikigirwamana cyuzuye kuri kaseti "instagram" urubyiruko rutangira kubahiriza ibintu bidafite umukunzi nkuyu, guhimba ibibi bishya, gushakisha umukunzi wawe mubihe nkibi Nkuko ubyumva, nta mbaraga zigumaho kandi twifuza.
Uyu munsi, imibonano mpuzabitsina yaretse kuba imyidagaduro nyamukuru
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Nigute ababyeyi bafitanye isano nibi
Nukuri wumvise inshuro nyinshi uburyo abana b'inshuti zawe basanzwe ku rugi rwa kaminuza: "Nibyo, iyo ushakanye / ushyingirwa uzashyingiranwa? Igihe kirageze". Ababyeyi bakunze gusubiza: "Bizagira kandi umwanya, mbere - Uburezi n'umwuga." Birasa nkaho ibintu byose byumvikana, ariko mugihe "umwana" abaho akurikije gahunda, inyungu zubuzima bwimibonano mpuzabitsina zirabura, kuko atagomba gutenguha ababyeyi barota umwuga mwiza wumwana we. Nkigisubizo - Iburanisha ryimuwe mumasanduku maremare.
Uburambe bwa mbere
Nkuko mubizi, imibonano mpuzabitsina yambere yimibonano mpuzabitsina ituje cyane, cyane cyane niba tuvuga umugore. Abagabo bafite uburambe buke. Birumvikana ko gake ushobora kwibuka bwa mbere, mugihe ufashe umwuka, ariko ikinyabupfura kirenze, kubura gusobanukirwa hagati yabafatanyabikorwa birashobora gusiga ibintu bishimishije. Nyuma yibi bigoye gufata umwanzuro kumurongo mushya.
Kugera ku mibonano mpuzabitsina
Niba hashize imyaka makumyabiri, kugirango ugerageze munzu, kugirango ugerageze kwishima kuri disco cyangwa muri cafe, uyumunsi urashobora kumenyana numuntu utavuye munzu - ufite amahirwe menshi, nyuma yamasaha abiri Kumenya birashobora kuza kuri wewe no gufata "ikawa". Imibonano mpuzabitsina yaretse kuba ikintu gishimishije - abantu bose bazi iyo tariki izarangira. Mubisanzwe, urubyiruko ntirushobora kongera guterana kumuntu batazi na gato, kumarana umwanya, nubwo ushobora kumara nimugoroba uko bimeze. Ibyingenzi byari bimaze kuba kurutonde rwimyidagaduro, kubinyuranye, bisaba kwitegura runaka, no kubice byinshi. Banyalunalialy ntibashaka kumara umwanya kubikorwa bishobora kuba bidashimishije kandi bishimishije nkuko abishaka.