A rayuwar yau da kullun, abu ne mai sauƙi don tabbatar da cewa muna so, amma da zaran ya shafi jima'i, amincewa nan da nan ba ta bushe. Kuma, a matsayin mai mulkin, muna magana ne game da mata waɗanda suke da wahala don raba abubuwan kwarewa tare da abokin tarayya.
Yana da mahimmanci a fahimci cewa wani mutum ba zai iya karanta tunaninku ba, wanda ke nufin yana da wuya a gare shi ya hango abin da kuke so da abin da ba haka ba. Bugu da kari, mace tana bukatar karin lokaci don sauraron igiyar mai sexy, sabanin maza waɗanda suke da wannan tsari. Mun yanke shawarar gano dalilin da yasa yake da matukar wahala a gare mu muyi magana game da sha'awarmu a gado domin an ji mu mun fahimta.
Yi magana da magana
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Da alama a gare mu cewa son zuciyar mutum yafi mahimmanci
Yawancin mata sun yi imanin cewa an gabatar da mutumin cikin jima'i, kuma bukatunsu da marmarin motsa. Tabbas, yana da mahimmanci a fahimci yadda ake gamsar da abokin, amma ku memba ɗaya ne na aiwatar, kamar mutum, don haka ku saurari kanku kuma ku tabbata da kanku ka tabbatar da rubuta shi. Manta game da kanka daidai ba shi da daraja.
Kada ku ji tsoron yin laifi
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Mace ta ji tsoron cewa abokin tarayya na iya fushi kuma kusa da kanta
Ba kwa buƙatar zama a tebur, kunna fitilar kuma ku kunna fitila da magana: "Dole ne mu tattauna dangantakarmu a kan gado" - saboda haka kuna tsoratar da abokin tarayya.
Amma ya zama dole a yi magana game da shi, musamman idan kuna fuskantar rashin jin daɗi a cikin jima'i. Kuna iya fara tattaunawar don haka: "Ina matukar son yin jima'i da ku, duk da haka akwai abubuwan da kuke buƙatar tattaunawa, kuma babu dalilin yin fushi.
da mace da mutum suna da haƙƙi iri ɗaya a cikin jima'i
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Mace tana tsoron hukunci daga wani mutum
Ga kowane mutum, tsoron da aka yi watsi da shi yana ɗaya daga cikin babban. Lokacin da mace ta fara tunani game da matsalolin jima'i, yana da wuya a rabu da stereotype, cewa m jima'i na iya a cikin manufa magana game da jima'i, saboda mutumin zai yanke shawara komai. Ba duka. Abokin tarayya ba mai waya ba ne kuma ba zai iya fahimtar cewa kai ba, alal misali, ba shine mafi kyawun ji daga jima'i na baki ba, saboda ci gaba da aikata shi, domin "kowa yana yi." Ku yi imani da ni, wani mutum wanda yake daidai da girman kai, ba zai bashe ku da dariya ba ko kuma watsi da buƙatunku. Kawai kuna buƙatar faɗi kai tsaye - abin da kuke so, kuma menene ba. Komai ba shi da wahala.