It is assumed that the pause makes it possible to rethink the relationship, sort out yourself, relax and decide what to do next. It is believed that the distance is especially clearly manifested by feelings or their absence. But consider such an example: you do at home repair: dirt, destruction, nor rest it is impossible, neither eat to cook. You decide that they are tired of this, collect things and leave on vacation, and in a week come back, and what do you see? The same dirt and ruin. Repair does not know how to do yourself, just as the relationship does not know how to restore themselves. Therefore, even if after a pause in the relationship you decide to fall with a partner, then return exactly to the same problems that made you break. Maximum what you managed to achieve - a little postpone their decision. So does it make sense to pause?
In fact, the time-out is more like a flight from problems than to solve them. Especially if you part on a very negative note, after a major quarrel or in anger. In this case, the time in the separation will be spent to get better and justify their care.
Anna Icyc
Flight from problems in relationships is often poured into the gap of these relationships. However, many are scared not so much the fact of the gap, how much the difficulty and experiences that are accompanied by it. The timeout in this case looks logical and relatively safe solution. But the time-out may be perceived by your partner exactly as a step towards the rupture, and even if you renew the relationship after the pause, the feeling of what you almost betrayed you, it is very difficult to forget.
What to do if you really want to take a pause? If you are tired of problems, we are tired of finding out relationships and you are simply physically needed by the counterfeit, you can take a "unofficial" timeout - under any faithful pretext to leave for a couple of days to my parents, on a business trip, to visit friends to another city, etc. . This option makes it possible to translate the spirit, think about the current situation, cool and return with new forces and thoughts. Either to continue relations, or to get out of them. At the same time, you do not put a partner in the ambiguous situation of temporary separation.
Relationships are interaction. No interaction - no relationship. If you value relationships, value your partner, you better not part with it, and look for new opportunities for interaction, independently or with the help of a specialist.