There is nothing worse, when in front of a romantic evening with your partner, the inner voice begins to wind: "You are terrible without clothes," "What will he say when he sees new stretch marks?", "You probably do not satisfy him as he would like" and etc. The most denotious girls can take a date in the impulse of the senses, although in fact an occasion for anxiety and there was no. How to remove strong excitement before sex, even if you know about your small disadvantages? We will tell.
Write down the whole negative
Do not leave thoughts in your head: Take a blank sheet and write down everything that worries you and upset. You can write anything. The most important thing in this psychological exercise is to write as if you write about another girl, that is, in the third face.
Try to find the cause
As a rule, negative thoughts about their own imperfections are born under the influence of public opinion. If you notice a hostility to yourself, specify that you do not like exactly, then remember who could tell you the like, most likely, your problem comes from adolescence when sexuality begins to form. Parents often consider sex something dirty, forbidden, and therefore form installations like: "Decent girls should not be engaged in such a disgust." If hostility to his own body and fear of sex, even with a loved one, you do not leave you, be sure to contact a specialist who will help work out the problem.
everything is not so scary as you think
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Find harmony with you
If the inner voice continues to convince you that your shortcomings are catastrophic, "explain" to yourself that beauty is the concept of extremely subjective, and and from any shortcomings in the modern world just just get rid of. In addition, your man takes you as you are, not paying attention to the little things.
Ask directly
As a rule, couples consisting in trusting relationships can share practically any experiences. Do not copy the negative, lowering your self-esteem is even lower, if you share your experiences with your man. We are more than confident that his answer will be incredibly pleased.