- U-Allan, incwadi yakho yokuqala "Ulimi lwethelevishini" seluphenduke inkolo kubantu abahlanganyela ebhizinisini. Manje ubhala ngesihloko sobudlelwano bobulili. Yini exhunywe ngokuhlelwa kabusha okunjalo?
- Yini umuntu evame ukukhathazeka ngayo kule mpilo? Umsebenzi ophumelelayo nothando. Ukuthi ufuna ukwakha umndeni noma ufuna ubudlelwane obukhululekile - lokhu kufuna ukuvumelana kulomhlaba. Namuhla, ukungaqondi kanye nokungqubuzana phakathi kwezitezi, vele, akuzona ezazisezikhathini zika-Adamu no-Eva, kepha empeleni umnyombo awukuguquki: Singaqondani ngokwezigaba. Iqiniso lokuthi abesilisa nabesifazane behluke komunye nomunye sekulokhu kuqondakala. Sihluke kakhulu kuthi cabanga ukwesabisa! Abesifazane bayathukuthela: "Kungani abantu bebheka abanye besifazane phakade?", Futhi amadoda athi: "Kungani sisasibona?" Futhi le mibuzo sizwa nsuku zonke, ibathola nge-imeyili. Ngakho-ke incwadi yami yokuqala yavela ngolimi lwamabonakulosi anikezelwe ebudlelwaneni obuphakathi kwendoda nowesifazane.
- Incwadi yakho yokugcina ibizwa ngokuthi "izilimi ezinhlanu zothando". Ukhuluma ngani?
- Ngamafuphi: Kunezitayela ezinhlanu kuphela, lapho abantu beklama uthando lwabo, benza ngolimi lokushukuma komzimba. Unenele ukuthola umuntu oveza uthando lwakhe ngendlela efanayo, - Cabanga ukuthi ungumbhangqwana ophelele.
- U-Allan, ufunda incwadi yakho ethi "Ulimi Lwamabonakude," kuphakamisa ukuthi, uma efisa, ngamunye wethu angafunda ukuthonya omunye umuntu ukuba enze umbono. Kuyavela, ingabe sifunda ukubukeka njengongemvelo?
- Ngubani ngokuvamile asho lokho ngokuphelele kulungile? Angisoze ngakholelwa ukuthi owesifazana ufuna ukuhlaba umxhwele le ndoda, uzoziphatha njengoba bekungaholela yedwa naye noma ngentombi enhle kakhulu. Ngeke yenze ukubekeka, kungakufihli ukushiyeka kwesimo sezingubo kanye nokwenza izimonyo, kuzoba nokujaha kakhulu noma okumbi kakhulu. Lokhu kwakha futhi nezimboni zezinto ezinezigidi eziyizigidi eziningi.
- Sonke sikhohlisa omunye nomunye ...
- Yebo, futhi anazi? Akukho ukufikela kobuntu ngokuphelele, ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni bothando. Ngamunye wethu ufihla okuthile, futhi lokhu kuyimpendulo evamile yabantu. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kukhona amanga ukuze kusizakale: Ukwenza isibonelo, ukudumisa umngane, okubukeka namhlanje akunankinga kakhulu kuyo, futhi amanga amabi, lapho sifuna ukukhokha isimo kuphela esimweni sethu. Lapha, ake sithi, ngolunye usuku, ukuya emhlanganweni olandelayo, ngathola ukuthi ngithole amakhilogremu ambalwa angeziwe. Ngicela umkami uBarbara: "Othandekayo, ngibukeka kanjani?" Futhi uyazi, angifuni ukuzwa iqiniso nhlobo. Ngiyakuqonda kahle ukuthi "okuhle kakhulu, u-Allan!" Kungamanga angempela, kepha ukuthi kumnandi kanjani kimi okwamanje, lapho amasudi eqoqiwe, udinga ukuhamba, futhi isimo sesivele sichithwe.
Amahlanu aphakade "Kungani?":
1. Kungani eyedwa?
"Impumelelo yowesifazane empilweni yomuntu siqu akuyona imilenze emide, ama-blond curls, ulwazi ngolimi lwesiJapan kanye nesikhundla enkampanini enkulu," kusho u-Allan Pz. - Leli yikhono lokuthumela amadoda emadodeni futhi anqume kahle impendulo yawo. Lokhu akusho ukuthi abesifazane abanesizungu 'bangenangqondo' ekuhlolweni kobuqili. Lapho eke wahlangabezana nomlingani ongaba khona, le ntokazi ithumela "noma i-matock" ecashile, kodwa evame ukubheka ukuthi ngabe into yayo ikufanele yini. Ngakho-ke, amantombazane enza abesilisa, futhi bavame ukwesaba ukwenqaba. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi ngabesifazane abahle nabaphumelelayo. "
2. Kungani eyedwa?
"Indoda inempumelelo emdlalweni womshado incike emandleni okuvuma kahle amasiginali athunyelwe kuwo, hhayi nakancane ekujuleni noma ngokungakwazi ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala. Ngokuvamile ubungane obujwayelekile abajwayelekile abasithatha ngentshisekelo yecebo elihluke ngokuphelele - ukubonakaliswa kwentshisekelo yezocansi. Kuchazwa iqiniso lokuthi amadoda abona ngempela lo mhlaba ngokusebenzisa intengo yezocansi: okuqukethwe emzimbeni wawo we-testosterone kuphakeme kunezikhathi eziyi-10-20 eziphakeme kunalezo zowesifazane. "
3. Kungani Izincwadi Zothando Zifunda Kakhulu Besifazane?
"Izincwadi eziningi ezinikelwe ebudlelwaneni babantu zibhalwa ngabesifazane, bayazithenga, futhi futhi beluleke, akunandaba, akunandaba, ukwenza lokhu kwezobuchwepheshe noma isitimela ezintombini. Ngakho-ke amadoda awasizi ngalutho? Yebo no-cha. Lesi sihloko ngokuvamile asisici esitezi esinamandla, akuyona into eza kuqala. Le ndoda yayihlala inemisebenzi ehluke ngokuphelele: wayengumzingeli, umvikeli, i-fitter, abenzi bezinqumo. Noma yimuphi ummeleli wobulili obuqinile ukholelwa ukuthi "yena uqobo enza konke." Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ubudlelwano obujwayelekile bothando buyadingeka kungaphansi kwamantombazane. Amadoda anethemba lokuthi konke kuzokwenzeka ngokwakho. "
4. Kungani ubufazi bulimaza ubudlelwano?
"Esikhathini esedlule, abesilisa nabesifazane bachazwa ngokusobala: Wayeyinhloko yomndeni, wambiza isinkwa, iZwi laKhe lawo mthetho, futhi umkakhe wahlanganyela endlini nasezinganeni. Kungazelelwe konke sekushintshile. Njalo ngokuzumayo kwaqala ukumelela owesilisa onesidalwa esiyisiwula, elahlekile ngokuphelele ebusweni be-smart, kuwo wonke abesifazane bakhe abaphakeme. Inkinga ukuthi abesifazane babekwazi njalo ukuthi bafuna ukuwufuna nokuthi bakufeza kanjani, futhi amadoda amane nje awazange abe nesikhathi sawo. Manje kwalasha phakathi kwezitezi akukhona nje ukukhula, kudwengulwe ekuqhubekeni kwejometri. Ngokwephuzu lokubukwa kwemvelo, indoda enamandla nowesifazane obuthakathaka yinyunyana ejwayelekile futhi evumelanayo. "
5. Kungani kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqondana?
"Ukuze uphumelele ebudlelwaneni nabobulili obuhlukile, kufanele ukwazi ukukhuluma ngezilimi ezimbili: kowesilisa nowesifazane. Noma ngubani ohlonishwa ngumuntu ohlonipha ulimi noma isiko lakhe. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kudingekile impela ukuzishintsha: ngoba uhambo oluya eFrance ngeke ludingele isiFulentshi esingenakuqhathaniswa, kepha uma uthenga incwadi yezisho e-Banal, lapho ufunda indlela yokubiza amabinzana amakhulu kolimi lomunye umuntu, luzokwenza Lungiselela kakhulu uhambo lwakho. Futhi kahle, kuzokwenza kube kuhle kakhulu. "
Amaqiniso kuphela:
U-Allan Piz waba yindoda yebhizinisi ebuntwaneni: wathengisa izipani zenjoloba zokuhlanza kwasekhaya. Eminyakeni engu-18, wamukelwa njenge-ejenti engcono kakhulu yokuthengisa, esebenza enkampanini yokuqaliswa kwelineni lokulala kanye nekhishini lombhede, kwathi ngo-21 wathola ama-dollar angaphezu kwesigidi.
Imininingwane yanoma yimuphi umyalezo ihlukaniswe kanjena: 7% - idluliselwa ngamazwi, okungukuthi, ngamazwi, ama-38% - izwi (ukucindezelwa (ukucindezela (ukucindezela (ukucindezela okungamazwi.
U-Alan Alan Pisa, uBarbara Piz, isandla sakhe sokudla. Nguye owaba yimnyuziyamu wakhe, esekelayo futhi ekhuthazayo ukudala imisebenzi ebaluleke kakhulu. Namuhla iBarbara General Director of Pease, eshicilela ividiyo, izifundo zokuqeqesha kanye namasemina wosomabhizinisi kanye nohulumeni emhlabeni jikelele. Futhi i-barbara ingumbhali wabathengisi be-bestsellers "INDLELA Ukwenza umuntu alalele, futhi owesifazane uthule" nokuthi "kungani amadoda aqamba amanga, nabesifazane bafuna ubulili nabesifazane bathande."
Kwabesilisa, ushokoledi ukumane nje kungukudla, hhayi umuthi. Abesifazane abanezinga eliphansi le-serotonin bawela kalula "ukuncika kukashokoledi", ngoba i-Phenlethylamine etholakala ku-chocolate ivuselela ama-receptors abuchopho besifazane azwela insangu. Ngakho-ke, lapho owesifazane edla ushokoledi, ubhekene nomuzwa wothando, futhi injabulo elula, kusukela ngomuthi.