Umama umama wami upheka, futhi kubaba, amandla okuthola amaphuzu - ajwayelekile? Ngaleyo ndlela abahlukanisa ngayo izibopho zemfundo ekuqaleni kweminyaka engama-20- 30 edlule. Ngenhlanhla, kumzali wanamuhla, indima yakhe ekwakhekeni kobuntu bengane ayigcini kuma-stereotypes wobulili. Manje omama bafundiswa ukugibela izingane ngebhayisekili, futhi uPapa uzifundise ubusuku - abazali bangathatha isikhundla komunye nomunye kunoma yiliphi ibhizinisi. Kodwa-ke, kulokhu okubonakalayo esibonelweni somndeni ojwayelekile, sibheka ukuthi imfundo kaBaba ilusizo kanjani endodaneni encane nokuthi yini ongayifundisa ingane.
Izimpawu ezithandekayo
Ukuhaha kungububi bangempela. Abanye abantu abasha bakholelwa ukuthi ukukhokha isidlo sakusihlwa endaweni yokudlela, bathenge isixha sezimbali ngaphandle kwesizathu noma ithikithi elisemazweni afudumele - kakhulu kubantu ubudlelwano babo buvela kuphela. Isifiso sokukhombisa izimpawu ukunakwa siye safana ngokuziphatha okungenangqondo - ingabe ikhona intombazanyana kamuva angavumeli amathemba? Ubaba kufanele achaze indodana ukuthi imizwa yakhe akufanele ilinganiswe ngemali. Lokhu kujwayelekile lapho umuntu engakujabuli ngokuxhumana okusondele, yize emhlanganweni wokuqala wabonakala njengomlingani wakho ofanele. Kusukela ebuntwaneni, nikeza indodana yakho ukuletha izipho ezincane entombazaneni yakho oyithandayo enkulisa nasesikoleni samabanga aphansi. Nikeza kanye naye ama-bouquets mama, odadewethu, ogogo kanye nomalume, balungiselela izimanga izihlobo eziseduze - lapho-ke engqondweni yengane, imodeli yokuziphatha enjalo izohlanganisa okulungile.
Khulisa Indoda Yangempela
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Amandla okuqonda ngaphandle kwamacebo
Njalo lapho unezithombe, amagama noma enye into esemukela umuntu wakho othandekayo kulokho okufisayo, futhi kusolakala ukuthi uyakuqonda, uyakhohlisa. Abesilisa akusekho iziwula zabesifazane futhi baqonde ngokuphelele ukusikisela kwakho - awusiye umuntu owayefisa ukugcwalisa. Lapho abantu bethandana, balwela ukujabulisa umuntu obizayo nganoma yisiphi isenzo nokuthinta. Naka ukuthi yimuphi umhlobiso abuke esitolo, alethe uswidi amthandayo kusihlwa, ukuletha ku-movie ngefilimu yothando - lezi yizinto ezisobala zabathandi babantu. Okufanayo kusebenza empilweni: Ukugeza izitsha, ukuhamba ngenja nesikhathi esichithwa imidlalo nengane - konke akusona umthwalo lapho ufuna ukuKhanyiswa emehlweni akhe. Chaza iNdodana ukuthi yonke into idinga ukwenziwa ekubizeni kwenhliziyo. Futhi uma kungafuni lutho, kusho ukuthi akekho umuntu owayeseduze kwakhe.
Ukunakekelwa njalo
Ubaba, othatha ukugeza nsuku zonke, anyakaze, abeka ithonsi lamakha futhi anendaba nezinwele zakhe kanye nezipikili - imodeli enhle kakhulu yomfana omncane. Umzali kufanele achaze ukuthi izinqubo zemvelo zomzimba zisebenza kanjani - ukujuluka, zibeka indawo yokukhosela emazinyweni, ukwabiwa kweSebum ebusweni nokunye. Bese utshela ingane ukuthi inginakekele kahle: Kukangaki lapho udinga ukuya eshawini, shintsha izingubo zangaphansi, uphuke, hambani niye e-haircut wenze i-manicutut futhi wenze i-manicutut futhi wenze i-manicutut yenze i-manicutut bese wenza i-manicutut futhi wenze i-manicutut futhi wenze i-manicutut futhi wenze i-manicutut yenze i-manicutut. Ngemuva kwalokho, kubalulekile ukukhombisa ukuthi hlobo luni lwezimonyo zokusebenzisa indodana nokuthi kanjani.
Nakekela ikusasa lengane
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Ukufuna nokulwela imisebenzi
Ukubeka intando yokunqoba ebuntwaneni yobuntwana kungenye yamakhono abaluleke kakhulu abazali abangawanikeza. Ubaba kufanele akhulume nendodana yakhe okungenani umama abe nokwesekwa kwakhe, futhi angagxeki. Chaza ukuthi ngesikhathi sokuphila uphuthelwa yizigaxa eziningi ezinqumweni ezingalungile, kodwa ngamunye wabo uzomnika isifundo esibalulekile okufanele sikukhumbule. Umfana kufanele alwele imisebenzi esebenzayo - kungaba kuhle ukuheha ibhizinisi lomndeni noma ukushayela ihhovisi usuku. Ngemuva kwalokho uzobona ukuthi yini ukulwela, futhi ubaba uzokutshela ukuthi ungakufeza kanjani.
Ngabe uyavumelana nomlobi? Uwaphakamisa kanjani amadodana akho futhi uPapa udlala yiphi indima ekukhulisweni kwabo?