"Nguyena engangimfuna impilo yami yonke!" - Uqinisekisa ukuthi izintombi, zihleli nazo kwi-cafe futhi zixoxe ngezindaba zakamuva. Yini, baphendukela ethempelini bese bethi awusho lutho kubantu? Inketho enhle kakhulu yokuhlola ukuthi ihlole uhlu lwethu oluchaza abamele amadoda ajwayelekile angabopha ubuchopho ngisho nangophulukiswa kakhulu.
"Umkhumbi wami wangaphambilini ungumshini wangempela!"
Lo mthetho uthi abalingani bakudala abathathwa njengengabhekwa njengokukhuluma emhlanganweni wokuqala, iningi labantu bafunda. Kuliqiniso, kungekudala, isihloko siphuma - khona-ke le ndoda esevele ikwazile ukwethemba, e-Krasya egcwele iqala ukukhuluma ngalabo abahlukanisa nabo. Kodwa-ke, kunento eyodwa: ukusakha okukhayo kwengxoxo kungalandelelwa kuphela lapho umuntu ekhuluma ngezenzo zomlingani wakhe, hhayi umbono wakhe wokuziphatha kwakhe. Kepha ungagijimeli ukumisa intambo yomlomo okhethiwe: athule futhi amlalele. Uma umbono wakhe wezimo uhlukile kwezenu, kusho ukuthi awusendleleni. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ukusondelana okufanayo kuzofanele ukukulalele - ingabe ufuna ukwehlisa impilo yakho akunangqondo kuwe ukugxekwa?
Lalela ukuthi indoda ikhuluma kanjani ngohlobo lwayo
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"Amehlo akho afana nolwandle olungenamkhawulo ..."
Siyethemba ukuthi manje usugingqe amehlo akho, futhi ungahlabe umxhwele ngokuncoma kwamabhanali, okungewona amadoda asetshenziswa ngokukhethekile asetshenziswe iminyaka eyi-10-16 emugqeni. Vumelana, kungcono ukuthi uthi "Ubukeka muhle namhlanje" kunokwakha isimangaliso somhlobiso, lapho ukuqhathanisa nembali kubalulekile - into ejwayelekile ye-INEPT Romantics. Lowo muntu owengeziwe ethi, Okuncane akwenzayo: Kungcono ukuba khona usuku olungajwayelekile lwengxenye yakhe yesibili kunokuba uthumele izinhliziyo ukuphendula izinhliziyo ezizophendula i-storsith instagram. Lapho nje uhlangabezana ne-rake yothando yothando, ukwedlula amadoda alolu hlobo empilweni yakho ngeke avele.
"Uyazi, angikwazi ukuhlangana nendoda yami ..."
Lapho indoda iqala ukulengisa ama-noodle ezindlebeni, ukuyitshela sengathi ifuna ingxenye yesibili, kepha ngeke ihlangabezane nowesifazane ofanele, ungamamatheka kuphela ekuphenduleni. Nazi izindlela ezimbili ezikhethwayo: noma ngabe waqhamuka nentokazi yakhe ekhanda lakhe, ongaqhathaniswa nempilo, noma wabhekana nokulimala kwengqondo ngobudlelwano besikhathi esedlule, wamvimbela ekuhambeni ngokuxhumana nobuhlobo ebudlelwaneni. Esimweni sokuqala, umuntu akasizi ndawo - kudingeka akhule aqaphele ukuthi ngamunye wethu azokwazi ukushiyeka lapho umlingani onothando azokwazi ukwamukela khona. Esigabeni sesibili, umuntu udinga ukuvuselelwa ngodokotela wezengqondo: usevele wayibona le nkinga futhi isilungele ukulwa naye. Khuluma naye emiphefumulweni futhi unikele ukuze uye ekwamukeleni kokwelashwa.
"Ngihlobisa isehlukaniso nomkami"
Imvamisa, amadoda avikelekile anikezwa, ingxenye yempahla eyabhalwa kabusha ezihlotsheni eziseduzane. Ngeke baphinde babeke engcupheni enhle yabo ebonakalayo, noma ngabe muhle impela. Ungathatha indima yenkosikazi yaphakade, noma ingxenye yokuthula enokuthula nendoda, echaza ukuthi indima yecebo lesibili ayikufaneli. Uma, ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa, umuntu owayengumuntu owayengumuntu owayengumuntu owayekade egijima ephethe ipasipoti enesitembu sesehlukaniso, anganikeza ithuba lesibili - kukhona amacala ahlukile lapho umuntu ehlangabezana nothando lakhe futhi enquma ukuhlukanisa umlingani wakhe. Futhi uma kungenjalo, kusho ukuthi wawela enduku ye-classker ejwayelekile - kungenzeka ukuthi unentombazane entsha entsha endaweni yakho.
ngobudlelwano bezinsana ezihahayo azakheki
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"Ake siphuze inkomishi yekhofi? UChur, uyazikhokhela "
Ukuhaha kumuntu kuyisono seqiniso. Yebo, wonke umuntu angahlangabezana nobunzima besikhashana. Kodwa ingabe kunzima yini ukusho intombazane ngokweqiniso ngabo futhi banikele ukuphuza inkomishi yekhofi ne-dessert ekhefini eliseduze? Le mali ayinalutho lwento ebonakalayo yomuntu odala ezimele, noma ngabe ibhizinisi lakhe libhekene nengcono kunezikhathi ezinhle kakhulu. Ngalabo abalungele ukuhlala entanyeni yakho bese beya ngosuku lokuqala, ingxoxo kufanele ibe mfushane. Ngendoda enjalo, ngeke ukwazi ukujabulisa noma ukwakha umndeni - ngoba owokuqala uyisidlakudla kakhulu, kodwa kwaba nobugovu sesibili.
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