Ngandlela-thile ngaya ekubonisweni kwasekuseni kwesiteshi esisodwa sethelevishini sentsha, futhi thina sinama-masha amabili amahle aholayo noLeroy axoxelwe ngakho konke emhlabeni. Phakathi kwezindikimba eziningi esixoxe ngazo, ngasho imikhuba yabesifazane kanye namandla abesifazane, futhi lesi sihloko sinentshisekelo kakhulu ngaphandle kokuhola kuphela, kodwa ababukeli bethelevishini abaningi.
Ngifafaze kumanethiwekhi okuxhumana nomphakathi kanye nezicelo zokutshela ngakho ngemininingwane eminingi, futhi kimi kwaba ukumangala ukuthi eminyakeni yethu abaningi abakaze bazwe ngakho. Amantombazane lolu lwazi kumele afake umama, futhi akukho lutho esingazi lutho ngakho, ngoba ligema njengoba amadoda eyondla izingane zawo. Ayini amandla abesifazane lapho, akunamabutho noma isikhathi.
Isisho esibi kunazo zonke, ukuthi omama abesabise kakhulu amadodakazi abo: "Lapha uzofunda kabi - uzoba umfazi wendlu." Kuqondile ukuthi abanye noma bamusho. Imisindo evela emlonyeni kamama icishe ibe ngokwesabisa ngokuthi "isela" noma "scoundrel". Kubi yini ukuba ngumfazi wendlu nje, nokuthi kungani isithunzi esikhulu sesifazane 'sokuba ngumsipha wendlu yakhe' saqala ukwethuka? Yize kunjalo, indlu iyindawo lapho injabulo ihlala khona nenduduzo, uthando nenduduzo. Kukhona indoda ebuya ngemuva kwempi yansuku zonke "yendawo ngaphansi kwelanga"! Futhi uma Efika ekhaya, akafuni ukubona iqhawe elifanayo namandla owesilisa (abizwa ngokuthi unkosikazi). Udinga inkosikazi yakhe, ezokwakha induduzo enkulu nenduduzo, izokhuluma futhi izokuqonda, izwa, iLungile, idla futhi, izolala futhi ilale ukuze ilele.
Omunye umngane wami washiya umkakhe enkosikazini yakhe, embuzweni, lokho angcono, wamtshela ngamehlo avuthayo: "Cabanga, uyangigeza." Ngakho-ke ungagijimeli ukuhleka izeluleko zami, amantombazane athandekayo. Kufanele uphathe umyeni wakho nakuMnu, futhi umhloniphe. Lapho kungekho nhlonipho, khona-ke akukho lutho oluzokwenzeka, uzokwenza ungajabuli naYe, futhi wena.
Uma uyindlu yasendlini, khona-ke ngaphandle kweqiniso lokuthi konke kufanele kube ngokulandelana okuphelele lapho, okokuqala, wena kufanele ube muhle, ujabule, ujabule futhi ugcwale amandla owesilisa. La mandla angaqhathaniswa nomshayeli: icishiwe, futhi amahlebezi afisa, futhi uthuli luzophola. Ngakho-ke, owesilisa akanasifiso sokulwa "nowesifazane onjalo, funga noma okuthile ukuthola.
Dala yonke imibandela yendoda yakho, futhi wena ngokwakho ngeke uqaphele ukuthi baba kanjani "indoda yangempela", engakwazi konke!
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Isibonelo, lapho umyeni ebuya emsebenzini, kubalulekile futhi ukuhlangana kahle:
- Wake wambona kanjani ukuthi izingane zijabule kanjani lapho zivela kuMama noma kubaba? Ukufika komyeni wakhe ekhaya kufanele kwenqatshwe ngqo lokho - ngobuqotho nangokumamatheka. Musa ukubona ukubuya komlingani ekhaya njengento efana naleyo enikezwe yona. Jabulani ngaso sonke isikhathi!
- Lapho umyeni engena, ahambe aqale ukumanga, kuphela lapho izingane zilungile. Lokhu kubalulekile ngoba kwasekuqaleni kwakungumbhangqwana nothando, futhi ingane isithelo sothando lwakho. Ungakhohlwa!
- Izindlu etafuleni kufanele zilinde isidlo sakusihlwa esimnandi, lokhu kuyi-axiom. Kuyinto efiselekayo - elungiselelwe izandla zakho, futhi ayiku-oda kusuka endaweni yokudlela noma emikhiqizweni eseqediwe esitolo. Lapho owesifazane elungiselela, ubeka amandla akhe owesifazane ekudleni.
- Musa ukujaha ukumbuza ngezinto. Nokho konke, akudingekile ukuxoxa naye, ngenkathi yena uqobo engafuni ukukhuluma nawe. Uzizwe imizwa yakhe.
- Lalela umyeni ngokucophelela. Kuyalalela, futhi ungabheki okulalelayo.
"Uma ephupha noma imicabango, ungayiphuli, inamathele ndawonye." Ngaphandle kwalokho ngeke ube seduze namaphupho akhe.
Angisho ukuthi owesifazane manje kufanele enze usuku lonke futhi indoda yakhe (yize uzovuma, akwanele). Uma enamandla nesifiso, angahlanganyela emsebenzini, kodwa nakanjani athande. Lowo azosebenza ngawo uma bengakhokha imali. Lona ngumsebenzi lapho owesifazane angaziveza khona, okuzoba yimbatho yomuntu siqu kuye. Futhi uthole imali yi-dererogative yamadoda. Dala yonke imibandela yendoda yakho, futhi wena ngokwakho ngeke uqaphele ukuthi baba kanjani "indoda yangempela", engakwazi konke! Kepha ukuze uqale "umfazi wangempela", futhi emva kwalokho uzokuthola!
Lonke uthando nobumbano.