Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi abantu kunombono: "Anginawo ama-ruble ayikhulu, futhi nginabangani abayikhulu," okuthi kubonakale kulokho ongahlala kusiza ngawo ngosizo olungenandaba nalo zisebudlelwaneni obunobungane, boleka imali futhi banikeze isikweletu kubangani okudingeka uqaphele. Uma ama-muscovites ewonakalisa umbuzo efulethini, khona-ke abangane bakwaRandave Cash.
Vele, konke kuncike ebudlelwaneni kanye nezinhlamvu njengokuthatha amajuba nokubuza. Thatha imalimboleko emnganeni - akuyona impela i-taboo. Yize kunjalo, ngaso sonke isikhathi sokuba khona kwesintu, kube nezibonelo eziningi lapho umngane ethatha isikweletu futhi enikeza ngaphandle kwezikhumbuzo. Kepha kwenzeka futhi ngenye indlela: Lapho abantu, ngisho nenani elincane, futhi bethembisa ukubuya emholweni, ngomqondo ongokoqobo wegama banyamalale emkhathizwe, yize babehlotshaniswa nobungani besikhathi eside cishe bevela enkulisa. Yini engingayisho? Yinye kuphela into: ukungcola nokuzikhethela, lezi zakhiwo zomlingiswa zingazibonakalisa ngaphansi kwezimo ezithile ngisho nakulabo bantu kubukeka sengathi bayazi kahle. Ngakho-ke, kungashiwo ngokuzethemba ukuthi ubungane abubhekwa ngesikhathi futhi abanolwazi ngemizwa noma imicimbi, imvamisa iphuzu ngomuzwa omkhulu futhi ogqamile abuyiswa.
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Ngendlela enhle, mhlawumbe, kufanele kube kanjena: Uma ungabaza ukuthi ungapha, ungathathi! Uma ufuna ukuthatha imali enkulu, ungathathi umngani, uthathe imali mboleko ebhange, khona-ke ngeke ube nezizathu zokuthi kungani ungabuyi ubuyela. Yebo, ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe, abantu beza, abangafuni ukuthwesa abangane bakhe ngezinkinga zabo futhi bachithe ubudlelwano nabo uma kuvela ezinye izinkinga ezithile zemali. Laba ngabantu abanengqondo abasempandeni. Kepha phakathi kwabantu abadala, nabantu ababonakala benengqondo, kukhona labo ngasizathu sibonelo (ukuba khona kwemalimboleko kanye nezikweletu kuzo, ngokwesibonelo) qhubeka nokuxoxa ngemali manje esezijwayele. Futhi esimweni esinjalo, lapho umuntu esazi ngesimo sangempela sezezimali somuntu omcela esikweletini, kufanele aqonde ukuthi yiziphi izingozi, ngoba kuhlala kunethuba lokuthi isikweletu ngeke sibuyele kuye. Ochwepheshe bezengqondo nabameli kubantu abanjalo bayalulekwa ukuthi babhale izibopho zesikweletu zabangane ababuzwa ezikweletini. Kalula nje, cela obolekayo ukuthola ukuthi wathatha malini nokuthi inani elibekiwe lizobuyela. Njengokulindelekile, kule ndlela yokuhumusha ubungani emkhakheni wezomthetho hhayi bonke bakulungele. Kepha uma kukhulunywa ngemali, amanani amakhulu kanye nemalimboleko - akusatholi lutho ngemizwa nemizwa, kusondele ohlangothini lwezezimali lwecala, ngakho-ke uma ungaqiniseki, ungafuni ukuba nomngane futhi ulahlekelwe umngane, Ngemuva kwalokho noma ungavumeli isikweletu, noma uthathe irisidi. Ngoba ufana nombolekisi, unesibopho salokhu kuthengiselana futhi kufanele uziphilele.
Ngokuqondene nesihloko seTaboos ebunganeni ngomqondo obanzi wegama, lapha konke futhi kuncike emvelweni walobungane uqobo, ngoba abanye abantu bazobe bethukuthelisa kanye nesifiso esiningi nge umngani akakaze akhulume.
I-Taba ebunganeni incike emvelweni walobungane uqobo
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Mhlawumbe izihloko ezinjalo, mhlawumbe, zingalashwa nomngane womlingani, okungenzeka, ngeke zithethelele abangane abaningi. Kepha kukhona okuhlukile kulo mthetho. Imvamisa isikhubekiso ebudlelwaneni obunobungani baba ukukhashelwa, okungakhonjiswa ekusakazeni kwamahemuhemu ngomngani wakhe osondelene noma "ukugcwala" kwemininingwane yangasese kwabanye abantu besithathu. Lokhu kuziphatha akunakuthethelelwa umngane oseduze othembela kuwe.
Abanye abantu ebunganeni banomona ngokwanele futhi bafuna izingane ukuba zibe ngabangani kuphela nazo. Imvamisa kuba khona uma kungenjalo i-taboo, bese kuba nenkinga ebudlelwaneni nomuntu onjalo ongezinsana futhi kungadala ukuhlukana.
Kunabantu abangathandi abangane babo ukuthi baphule imingcele yomuntu siqu, babuze imibuzo eminingi kakhulu - bebonke, bakhuphuka lapho bengabuzwa khona ikakhulukazi. Lokhu futhi akuyona neze-taboo, kunalokho izici ngazinye zomuntu okudingayo ukuqonda nokuthatha.
Ubungani buvame ukwakheka ekwamukelweni komunye umuntu, njengoba imvelo yamdala. Ngakho-ke, ngokwemvelo, silindele ukuba sibe nobungane obunobungane kithi. Ingxenye eyinhloko ebudlelwaneni obunobungani ingukuthembana okusebenzayo okusebenza kuyo yonke imikhakha yempilo. Ngakho-ke, ebunganeni awemukeleki amanga, ukwephulwa kwemithetho yemfihlo, ukungcola, ukuthakazelisa ngengxenye yesibili ngemuva komngane.