Kubukeka sengathi sekuyindlela: Emigwaqweni, ezindaweni zamakhekhe, ezindaweni, kunemibhangqwana eminingi ngokwengeziwe lapho owesifazane emdala, futhi kwesinye isikhathi mdala kakhulu kunasemlingani wakhe. Mhlawumbe kukhona ngababili abaphakathi kwabangane bakho, noma uwena uqobo ebudlelwaneni obunjalo? Masibhekane nokuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka nokuthi kufanele kwenziwe okuthile ngakho.
Ukubonakala okukhulu, cabanga ngababili lapho umehluko onyakeni obalulekile. Isibonelo, uneminyaka emashumi amathathu, usebenza, ngokunambitheka ngokuzijabulisa, okugqamile futhi kuselula, kepha ubudlelwano nontanga noma amadoda amadala awangezi. Okhethiweyo wakhe wakhungathekiswa ngokuphelele ngamashumi amabili nanye umfana, futhi uzizwa enjalo. Banobudlelwano obunzile, balungile futhi bayathakazelisa.
Manje bheka lo mbhangqwana eduze. Ngabe i-heroine yethu yashukumisani lapho ikhetha isithandwa sayo? Ngokunokwenzeka, isizathu sokuvuthwa kwaso kwengqondo okunganele. Kusho ukuthi akazange acabange ukuthi ungowesifazane, kungani yena, njengowesifazane, edingeka kulomhlaba, lokho kwawo, lolu lwazi luyesaba futhi luphika. Owesilisa nowesifazane abasebhangqa, kodwa balingana, ngamanye amazwi, lokhu kuheha kanjalo, ngakho-ke, namadoda asunguliwe avele akhiwe futhi ahlekise. Kepha eduze komfana, oqala kuphela ukuba abe yindoda, yena, ekuqaleni kokwakheka kwakhe kowesifazane, uzizwa emkhulu. Futhi lokhu kunjalo, kumangalisa, ngoba into esemqoka ku-pair uthando nentuthuko. Uma umlingani nomlingani benganamatheki "ebuntwaneni babo" ngokwengqondo, bese beqala ukulinganisa ngokweqiniso njengendoda nangowesifazane, khona-ke injabulo ayibajabuleli!
Enye indaba. Yena, ake sithi, kancane ngamashumi amahlanu. Uyakhanga, kuningi empilweni yakhe, owayebonile, onolwazi olukhulu. Unenoveli enendoda ecishe ibe ngamashumi amathathu nanhlanu. Yini eyamshukumisela ukuba adale ubudlelwano nomuntu ofanele emadodaneni?
Okokuqala, ake siqaphele ukuthi i-heroine yale ndaba yethu ingowesifazane ophakeme kakhulu. Ngaleso sikhathi, lapho abanye abanye bevele bebabiza ogogo, bekwazi ukuheha, babe efiselekayo futhi bathakazelisa amadoda umncane kakhulu kunaye. Ngeshwa, abesilisa, ngokwezibalo, phambilini kunabesifazane, baqede izimpilo zabo, futhi mhlawumbe yizo ukuthi amadoda aseminyakeni yobudala noma ngaphezulu, izimfanelo zawo zesilisa ezilingana nezimfanelo zabesifazane ze-heroine zethu, zazingenakuhlala endaweni ezungezile. Cishe kulokhu noma amadoda amancane asekhulile aphuza, aqale ukumpande, alahlekelwe amandla futhi aguqule abe ngabantu abadala. Uma owesifazane engeyena intokazi endala, khona-ke uyoba mubi nge-satellite enjalo, ngakho-ke uphendukela kuLowo osagcwele amandla nokuphila. Useyayazi ukuthi ungagqugquzela kanjani le ndoda, uhlanganyela naye ngokuhlakanipha kwakhe, uyakwazi ukwenza ngobuqotho nangongezonational futhi ngentokozo ukugcwalisa amandla akhe athandekayo, ukugcwaliseka kwezenzo zakhe futhi kuthuthukiswe ubudlelwano bawo. Ngenxa yalokho, kuvela inyunyana evumelanayo.
Futhi nokho, umbhangqwana osemdala kulo wesifazane - hhayi lowo uhlobo lwemvelo lobudlelwano. Iqiniso lokuthi manje lelo mbhangqwana liya ngokuya liqala ngokwengeziwe, likhuluma ngezinkinga zokuvela kwengqondo emphakathini wanamuhla. Kwabesilisa nabesifazane bazothola, kungani bakwazi ukukwazi ukuba bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane, banjani, futhi iyiphi indlela yemvelo yabo ingeyona eyemvelo ngokuphelele, noma iphikekile lelo lwazi. Ngakho-ke, bonke kamuva, abantu abasha baqala impilo yokuzimela, futhi iningi lemindeni eyakhiwa eneminyaka emincane lihlukana ngemuva kweminyaka eminingana, ngoba umndeni uyisifundo kubantu abadala ngokwengqondo. Ngokungafani nokuzalwa ngokomzimba, sinesibopho sokuzalwa kwengqondo yakho, futhi lokhu ngaso sonke isikhathi kuyisinqumo sethu - ukuze siphile impilo ejabulisayo noma cha.