I-1 Criterion: Ushadile
Uma othandekayo wakho eshadile, akudingekile ukuthi inhloso yakhe ngumndeni omusha azokwakha nawe. Kungenzeka ukuthi konke akufunayo kuyindlela emnandi futhi elula enowesifazane okhangayo ngaphandle kwekhaya elijwayelekile. Imvamisa, indoda ebizayo yenza konke okusemandleni ukuze ube eduze kwakhe.
Kuliqiniso, kungenzeka ukuthi umshado wakhe wamanje uyokuhlakazeka. Kodwa ingabe ufuna ukwakha ubudlelwano nawe? Ngaphezu kwalokho, uzokukhumbula ukumpompela amaphutha aholela ekuqhekekeni komndeni, futhi abuye abuye abuye futhi. Kungenzeka ukuthi lesi simo esijwayelekile sizohanjiswa kuwe, bese kuthi ekugcineni kube sobala.
Kungakho abantu abavame ukujoyina imishado emisha, bese bemangala - baphi ama-rakes amadala avela kuwo, abanesibindi ebunzini? Futhi lokhu kungumphumela wezimo ezingezinhle kakhulu zobudlelwano. Njengoba babengenazo izimo ezintsha zothando ezinhle.
Kepha kukhona okuhlukile! " - Uzosho. Futhi uzolunga. Amathuba nje kwale "okuhlukile" incane kakhulu.
Ithiphu: Uma umuntu oshadile enakekelwa wena, futhi akamuhle - lesi ngesinye sezipho eziphakeme kakhulu zendawo yonke (ungakhohlwa ukumbonga yona). Bubula ngokukhululeka, phenduka futhi usuka kuye. Futhi uma bekusekhona inhlansi phakathi kwakho namanje - run. Gijimaleni kuze kube yilapho bethandana, belahlekelwa izicathulo, kepha hhayi inhloko! (Ngiyabonga indawo yonke emgwaqweni).
Njengoba eseqede ngemuva kokugijima, bheka nxazonke: Amadoda angenampumelelo, amadoda aphumelelayo azokwanela wonke umuntu. Konke lokhu kuyinganekwane ukuthi baye kwenye indawo noma bahlakazeka. Kunjalo! Ungabafuna kanjani futhi ubashade, ngitshela umfundi wami. Futhi-ke akukho geometry ngesimo sothando onxantathu - nguwe kuphela kuphela.
ULulia Lansk, uchwepheshe ekukhetheni umbhangqwana ofanele umshado
Izindlela ezi-2: Resort Roman
Vele, amanoveli e-resort anokufana kancane nempilo yakho yangempela, yangempela. Kuyiholide, izimo zokuphila ezihluke ngokuphelele, ukuphumula, amaholide nsuku zonke. Lesi isikhathi esifushane kunalokho, siphukile empilweni yakho yansuku zonke, izingane, umsebenzi. Futhi indoda eseholidini isesimweni esifanayo.
Nokho, wena noma indoda ozohlangana nayo ayihambelani nalo mzuzu izindima zakho zemvelo. Lokhu akubona ngazo zonke izithombe ojwayele ukuba nazo futhi zibonisa. Futhi ngokushesha nje lapho inganekwane emnandi ephela futhi nobabili nidluliselwa esimweni sethu esijwayelekile, ezimeni zempilo yangempela, yonke imaski izosethwa kabusha.
Ithiphu: Eholidini, kunjalo, ungahlangana nomuntu ophumelelayo wesimo, ozokwazi ukwakha impilo yomndeni ejabulisayo. Kepha ukuze kusungulwe ubuhlobo obungathi sína, kudingeka ube nenkosikazi yowesifazane, nabesifazane - unkosikazi. Lokhu kufanele kubonise konke kukho konke - kusuka esithombeni sangaphandle kuya ekuziphatheni. Ukuphumula isikhathi esihle sokuhlangabezana nabantu abasha abathandekayo: Thola, wandise umbuthano wokuxhumana, amakhono okuxhumana, kepha ungathandi ngokushesha.
Izindlela ezi-3: Uthando kwi-Intanethi
Ngabe uke wakuthola lokho abakubhale ibinzana elihunyushwe ngokungafanele? Ngoba wathathwa ngombala ohlukile ngokomzwelo ohluke ngokuphelele, watshala imali kuyo ekuqaleni? Futhi, kuya ngesimo somoya, uthandile izithombe, inganekwane yakho, ungakha isithombe se-interlocutor, okungeyona. Lo muntu akekho, uyiPhantom. Wena ngokwakho wacabanga ukuthi yini ongakaze uyibone futhi ibingazi.
Uma uqinisa ukuguqulwa kokuxhumana kwangempela kusuka ku-inthanethi, kungaba buhlungu kakhulu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ujwayela umuntu owasungulwa nguwe, ozobe engalungile ngokuphelele.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma wenza abangane kunethiwekhi, isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinyanga eziyisithupha, akusekho maningi amathuba okuhlangana nemihlangano, okungenzeka, le yinoveli ebonakalayo engabambezeleka iminyaka futhi ungangeni ebudlelwaneni bangempela.
Ithiphu: Sebenzisa inethiwekhi yokuqomisana, hhayi ubudlelwane obude bothando olubonakalayo kulo. Kwi-Intanethi, ungaluthola kalula uthando lwakho, kepha ubudlelwano obuqinile buvele bakhiwe empilweni yangempela. Ukuhlangana nomuntu ofanelekile kwisiza sokuqomisana, udinga ukukwazi ukuhlanganisa kahle iphepha lemibuzo, uhole ngokunemba engxoxweni, ukuze uzithande futhi ulethe ukuxhumana ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka ngosuku lokuqala olungaxhunyiwe ku-inthanethi.
Ukuxhumana nge-inthanethi kungcono ukujika ngokushesha okukhulu.
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Izindlela ezi-4: Ukuncika kwe-Pathological
Uma okhethiweyo yakho enemikhuba emibi ngesimo sokusebenzisa kabi utshwala noma uhlobo oluthile lwezidakamizwa ezenqatshelwe, akufanele ucabange ukuthi ungayigcina. "Uthando lwami luyakwazi konke, ngiyakumenza wamenza!" - Owesifazane ucabanga futhi ... amaphutha. Uma ungaphuli lobu budlelwano, uzama ukusindisa ukucwila, maduze nje uzomane uminza naye. Kuyahawukela, kepha izibalo zithi.
Owesifazane ubambeka endimeni yokoliwa. Kancane kancane iyahambisana, futhi lokhu sekuvele kutholakale isifo sengqondo. Akasho kangako ngendima yesisulu, njengokungathi uzibheka endaweni yamaSomandla. Yize kunjalo, uzonyamalala ngaphandle kwakhe, okotshani uyacabanga, kusho ukuthi ungunkulunkulukazi lapha, futhi umuntu unamandla ngokuphelele namandla akhe. Lo ngunxantathu we-carpman, umdlalo we-sadwory, umhlatshelo nomsushaye, futhi uphume kuwo kakhulu futhi kunzima kakhulu.
Kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi owesilisa ungumuntu okhulile, futhi kufanele asabele ngokuphelele ngezenzo zakhe. Uma kwalasha kufunwa - lokhu kuphela ukukhetha kwakhe siqu. Awukwazi ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo komunye umuntu.
Ithiphu: Kungcono ekuqaleni ukungayeki ukukhetha kwakho endodeni enokuncika kwe-pathological. Kepha yini okufanele yenze uma "yenzeka ekwenzeni"? Kuyaqondakala ukuthi lokhu ukukhetha kwakhe siqu (hhayi amaphutha esiphetho se-villain) abese enze kamuva. Okokugcina nokunembile.
Izindlela ezi-5: Ukuntshontshelwa kothando
Lesi yisilinganiso esiphakeme sokuthembela komunye wabalingani kusuka komunye. Ubizwa nangokuthi umlutha komunye umuntu. Kwesinye isikhathi kuthatha izikali ezinjalo ezingaqhathaniswa nokuqashelwa kwangempela.
Indoda ebeka esisekelweni somunye inesidingo esimangalisayo kuye. Angase angaphuzi futhi angadli, muhle kuphela owawuseduze. Ukubamba noma yimuphi wamehlo akhe, ukuphefumula. Ukuhlanza, kudonsela ukunaka kuye ngokwakhe ukuze akhiphe.
Umuntu oqondiswe kulokhu okugxilwe kulowo uthando nentshisekelo, avele acwila kuwo, anwebe. Uzama ukwephula lobu buhlobo obungabekezeleleki abenza izandla nemilenze nokunciphisa inkululeko.
Ithiphu: Uma unomuzwa wokuthi unamakhanda akho amunca umlingani wakho, khumbula ukuthi ingakucindezela ngokuhlukile. Umuntu akufanele kube yincazelo kuphela yempilo yakho, adlulise ukunaka kwakho kweminye imikhakha. Kubalekelela ukuthi kuyadingeka ekuzimeleleni - zisebenzele ngokwakho, ngaphezu kwenani layo, ukubaluleka, ukuzethemba nokuzithanda wena, ngoba injabulo ikule esele.
Ungakhethi indima yoMsindisi - kancane kancane unesihawu
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6 Isikhombisi: Udlame Lomzimba
Ukube ukuhlaselwa kwakukhona futhi, ikakhulukazi, okuphindaphindwayo, okungenzeka, ngeke kuze kuyeke, kepha kuzophinda, kuphinde futhi kuphinde. Ingaqala ngempama nokufika, bese kulimala kabi kakhulu.
Awukwazi ukubekezelela izinto ezinjalo, cela isizathu esingakukhuthaza nakanjani ukuthi wamlethela futhi ufanelwe ukwelashwa okunjalo. Umzimba wethu uyabonakala, akekho onelungelo lokuletha ukuhlupheka emzimbeni kithi. Kepha akunakwenzeka ukucunula, izandla ezaziwa kakhulu kumlingani wakhe.
Ithiphu: Uma umbhangqwana wakho unodlame lwasekhaya, ubudlelwano kungenzeka buphule kakhulu. Abantu abasebenzisa udlame ngokomzimba bangashintsha, kodwa ngeshwa, lokhu akuvamile. Selivele likhiphe isici esithile.
7 Isikhombisi: Ukungalingani Kwezocansi
Lapha asikhulumi ngesipiliyoni sokuqala sobulili nomlingani omusha. Kwesinye isikhathi udinga ukujwayelana, wembula. Kepha kwenzeka ngempela ukungavukezi kwezocansi ngempela lapho abantu bengafanisene ngomuzwa, abathandayo babo. Ngokunokwenzeka, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukungalingani okunjalo kuzokwandisa kuphela.
Kwenzeka ukuthi umuntu oyedwa mnene, athandana embhedeni, kanti owesibili uyasebenza futhi unamahloni. Noma umuntu kumele abe njalo kaningi, owesibili awanele. Noma othile udinga imidlalo yokudlala indima, kanti enye ihlekisa nje futhi iyiphukuphuku.
Ngakho-ke, uma ubona lokho esiqwini esiseduze ongakuhlanganisi futhi akulungile ukubheka ukuyekethisa, kufanele uqonde ukuthi lokhu kungaholela ekuphumeni kobudlelwano.
Ithiphu: Zama ukuthola impande yobubi (futhi ihlala ikhona, ngikholwe). Ungadinga ukuthola isibindi futhi uxoxe ngolwazi lwakho nomlingani noma ufune usizo kuchwepheshe emkhakheni wezocansi. Uma lokhu akuyona ukungahambelani ngokomzimba, khona-ke kutholakala isisombululo senkinga.
Udlame lomzimba alumukeleki kungaba ngowesilisa noma ohlangothini lwensikazi
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Izindlela eziyi-8: Ukuntuleka kwezintshisakalo ezivamile
Sikhuluma ngamacala lapho abesilisa nabesifazane bengenamaphuzu ajwayelekile othintana naye, abaphili izintshisekelo zokuhlanganisa futhi abazibeki ngezinjongo ezifanayo. Yebo, manje sebenentshisekelo, ubasondeza, kepha lokhu kuzodlula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, bese kuthi yini esasele ngombhangqwana onothando owake waba khona?
Izikhathi ezijwayelekile zokuhlala ndawonye zingaba yisisekelo nokusekelwa kokuqhubeka kokuthuthuka kobudlelwano bomuntuni. Uma ufuna ukuba ndawonye, kufanele usebenzele ukuthi la maphuzu ajwayelekile othintana nawo avele avele, futhi ubuzobheka indlela eyodwa, ube ne-verector ejwayelekile yokuhlangana.
Ngaphandle kwalokho ngeke ube nesisekelo esivamile ngekusasa, futhi uthole isimo esingasebenzi sobudlelwano ngohlobo "Swan, umdlavuza kanye pike".
Ithiphu: Uma uyindoda yemigwaqo, zama ukuthola inani elanele lamaphoyinti othintana nawo. Izinhloso ezijwayelekile, izintshisekelo, amacebo, ukuphumula kuletha futhi uqinise inyunyana.
Izindlela eziyi-9: Ubudlelwano Endaweni Yokugcina
Lokhu kuyindlela lapho ubudlelwano busekupheleni kohlu lwezinto eziza kuqala empilweni. Ungayiqonda kanjani? Owesilisa akenzi amacebo ahlanganyelwe ngekusasa. Akaphuthumi ukujwayela abangane nabangane. Anazi lutho ngaye, ngoba ukhuluma kakhulu ngaye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, singasho ukuthi anendaba nempilo yakho.
Ngeke ubone utshalomali kuwe nobuhlobo bakho. Ayichithi izinsizakusebenza zesikhathi, ayitshali ukutshala imizwa. Akukho ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa. Uyakhumbula ubukhona bakho kuphela lapho edinga khona lapho enentshisekelo kulokhu.
Isikhathi sakho sishiya, futhi ubani futhi manje lapho. Esikhathini sokuqala anomsebenzi, abazali, izingane ezivela emishadweni edlule, izinto zokuzilibazisa. Konke okunye, kepha hhayi wena.
Ithiphu: Thola isizathu: Bukela futhi uhlaziye. Indoda ayifuni ubudlelwane besikhathi eside noma ubudlelwano nawe? Endabeni yesibili, akudingekile ukuyishintsha, kodwa uqobo lwaKhe uqobo. Uma owesilisa engakulungele ukushada ngokwesimiso, cabanga, usukulungele ukulinda noma ukuphoqelelwa, sebenza ebudlelwaneni bakho ngobuhlungu futhi ngokungaguquki? Lokhu kuzoba yisinqumo.
I-10 Criteria: Umehluko omkhulu ngeminyaka nesimo
Kukholakala ukuthi kusukela lapho kubukwa ngempilo yezempilo kanye nengqondo, umehluko phakathi kwabashadikazi akufanele ube ngaphezu kweminyaka eyi-15. Ngaphandle kwalokho, amathuba okudala umndeni ovumelanayo uwa ngamandla. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Enye yezinkinga ubunzima ekuqondeni nasekuxhumaneni phakathi kwezizukulwane ezahlukene.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwanda kokukhawula kweminyaka kuholela ezingcupheni ezahlukahlukene empilweni yabalingani. Kepha naphezu kwalokhu, manje kunomkhuba othile wokukhula umehluko onjalo. Eminyakeni yamuva, iphesenti lemishado enjalo likhule ngokubonakalayo. Futhi, naphezu kwezingozi, amadoda nabesifazane abaningi bathola ukuvumelana ebudlelwaneni nasenjabulweni emshadweni.
Kepha kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi akubona bonke ababili abakwaziyo ukwakha umndeni onjalo. Kwenzeka ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle iminyaka yokuqala, bese konke kuqala ukukhubeka, njengendlu yekhadi.
Ithiphu: Umuntu ngamunye ungumuntu ngamunye, njenganoma yibuphi ubuhlobo ku-pair. Akufanele ubeke isiphambano uma umlingani esemdala (omncane) iminyaka engu-15 nangosuku olungu-1. Kubalulekile lapha ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izinkinga ongahlangabezana nazo, futhi ukwazi ukunquma. Uma ubona ukuthi le yindoda yakho yendabuko, futhi ikulungele ngokuphelele wena, khona-ke lapha usuvele ube nesithiyo lapha. Ngokuqondene nomehluko emphakathini, umfazi ohlakaniphile uzokwazi ukukhulisa umuntu abe ngumkakhe, konke kusezandleni zethu.
Hlaziya ubuhlobo bakho, uncike kulezi zindlela.
Mhlawumbe usuvele uyeke ukudla izingidi zomoya futhi usebenzise isikhathi sakho ngeze? .. Futhi mhlawumbe uzozwa lezi zingcingo ngesikhathi futhi ungaqondisa ubuhlobo nendawo efanele.
Mina, uYulia Lansk, uchwepheshe ekukhetheni umbhangqwana ofanele umshado, ngifisa ukuba ube ngowesifazane ojabulayo, othandekayo futhi owuthandayo wendoda yakho.