Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi lo mbuzo ubuzwa bonke ngezikhathi ezithile zempilo yakho. Futhi konke kwehlukile. Omunye uhlala efika ku-rake efanayo, othile udidekile "engikutholile kuyo" noma "akucaci ukuthi kungani siseduze ukuthi sixhumane", futhi umuntu ulula ukuziqonda.
Ngemuva kwakho konke, injabulo enkulu kunazo zonke empilweni kubantu abaningi ihlotshaniswa nomshado ojabulisayo noma ubudlelwano besikhathi eside sothando. Ngokusho kochwepheshe bezengqondo waseNgilandi, uJohn Bowlby, isifiso sokusesha nokugcinwa kobudlelwano obusondelene futhi ikakhulukazi esishukumisayo nezokushayela empilweni yabantu. Sonke silwela ubudlelwane obuseduze obuphephile. Kufana nendlela yemvelo yokusinda nokuxabana nama-alamu wempilo nezinkinga. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi lobu budlelwano buba umthombo omkhulu wosizi nokudumazeka.
Bebhekene nalolu suku olulodwa noma kaningi, sicabange ngokungenakuphikwa ukuthi kungani ukhetha laba bantu ebudlelwaneni obusondelene.
Ukubukwa okuthokozisayo kulo mbuzo kunikezwa yiHarville Hendrix. Ukholelwa ukuthi umbono wokuthi kufanele sithande kanjani, sikhuthazela ebuntwaneni lapho abazali bethu bewuwukuphela kothando nokunakekelwa. Ithonywe indlela abakhombisa ngayo imizwa yabo, sine-Own "IMOMO" - isithombe somlingani esinyakazayo, abhekene nothando olukhulu kanye nentshisekelo. Uma ucabanga ngathi, eduze kwethu kugcwele izindaba eziphathelene nentombazane enhle, enakekelayo, ethathalelayo, futhi uyamkhathalela, engena ebudlelwaneni nenye insizwa eye yasebenza emsebenzini wokuzilibazisa. Lobu budlelwano bubhujiswa ngemuva kwesikhathi, ngoba abahambisani nentombazane. Kepha abasha beza kubo, ngaphambi kobuhlungu bufana nelasedlule. Futhi ngakho ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi kwakungukuthi abazali bakhe bathande. Mhlawumbe ubaba wakhe ushonile ekuseni. Futhi umama wami wasebenza ngamandla akhe onke ukuqinisekisa amadodakazi afanelekile. Ngenxa yalokho, le ntombazane yayinakho konke ngombono wezinto ezibonakalayo, kepha kwakungekho ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo. Lapho angena empilweni yabantu abadala, kwakhiwa isithombe sakhe somlingani, esingabonisi ukunaka, ubumnene nokunakekelwa. Lapha bese ukudonsa ku-Wordaholics. Lokho wukuthi, ngokungazi sifika ebudlelwaneni obusondelene nalabo bantu abasithandayo njengoba nje nabo bathanda abazali bethu. Sifuna ukuphulukisa ukulimala kwezingane, silahlekelwe, kepha akusebenzi. Umbuthano onobudlova? Ngomqondo othile, yebo. Kepha kunendlela yokuphuma - ukuhlanganisa kanye nomlingani wokulwa nomdanso wobudlelwano, obukela ngentando yethu. Zama ukungafuni ukuba umlingani ukuthi ngeke asinike sona. Yize kunjalo, akakwenzi ngenhloso, kodwa kunalokho ngenxa yokuthi akazi ukuthi wayene-igebe elikule ndawo. Futhi leligebe lingagcwaliswa ngokuhlanganyela. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukuhumusha izidingo nezicelo ngezicelo ezincane. Futhi awenziwanga ngoba kuyadingeka, kepha ngoba sifuna ukwenza okumnandi kumuntu osondelene naye, uzokwethula isipho esingajwayelekile kuye. Ukushintshana ngezipho ezinjalo, kancane kancane sigcwalisa izikhala zomunye nomunye, sizwe sinempilo futhi sizethemba. Futhi ubudlelwano buzoba ngcono ...