Akunjalo kudala, ngezwa iphupho kowesifazane olungiselela usuku lwakhe oluneminyaka engama-60. Umugqa ngamunye wobudala awugcini nje ngeminyaka yepasipoti, kodwa futhi nengqondo. U-Eric EricCon waqokomisa izingqinamba zobudala eziyi-8, futhi ubunzima beminyaka evuthiwe bawela kulesi sigaba. Kepha ngeke siqhubeke, silale kuqala.
"I-Realtor yami yathola ifulethi endlini equkethe izakhiwo eziningana: munye, amabili, amathathu. Ngokuvamile, lezi zakhiwo zihlukaniswe zibe zintsha, zilungisiwe, zanamuhla neyakudala, kepha zithandwa futhi zihlala endaweni yokuhlala. Akekho ohlala ku-New. Ngabuka okokuqala ezakhiweni ezintsha, wabe eseya ukuyofuna indlu yami entsha esakhiweni esidala. Bekumele ngiqhubeke nezitebhisi ezingenangqondo. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi udlulele lapho, kodwa ngahlangana nabanye abantu ephusheni emdala kunami, futhi bahamba ngalezi zinyathelo. Kowesifazane munye, ngaze ngabuza nokuthi baye kanjani lapha, kepha baphendula ngethukuthekile ukuthi ngizophumelela futhi, ngibonakala ngiyesabeka. Ngemuva kwalokho ngathola ifulethi lami ngabona isikhala esikhulu esingenalutho. Kufanele kucashile futhi kuxazululwe - kepha okwamanje kuphela izindonga zikakhonkolo zefulethi lami elisha. Okomzuzwana, yebo izandla zashiya ukuthi zingakanani umsebenzi ozoba khona. Kepha ngiyakwazi ukuphatha ".
Ukulala kusobala. Endlini emnandi neNew New, funda umzimba wemfashini futhi omusha, ubudala, iphupho lethu alikwazi ukuphila. Iqembu lakhe lokuzibandakanya selivele lihlala kweyakudala, kepha isakhiwo sokuhlala. Kuyadingeka ukuhamba nezindlela zomoya, noma kungenzeki, kuzobonakala, kepha abantu nakudala bazobhekana kalula. Mhlawumbe amaphupho ethu abebenobandlululo lokuthi ububandlululo ngalokho obekusebusweni obuvuthiwe, abadala, kodwa empeleni kulula ukuthola imicabango yakhe emangalisayo ngayo. Futhi kamuva, ufika efulethini lakhe elisha elingenamikhawulo, okungukuthi, ubunikazi bakhe obusha bungowesifazane ohlakaniphile novuthiwe, kepha namanje akasazi kusuka ngaphakathi, ukuthi kuyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini - uyini.
U-Eric Erickson wabhala ngalolonyaka njenge-pore yegolide. Uma umuntu ephila kulo nyaka, kunengxabano yokuzithatha ngayo yonke imikhawulo yakhe yomzimba, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye ngesipiliyoni esikhulu sempilo. Kwenzeka kaningi ukuthi lokhu kungunyaka wokuthatha umhlalaphansi, ngakho-ke inhlekelele yempilo yezenhlalo. Abaningi bakuhlangabezana kanzima, ngokushesha balahlekelwa yimpilo yabo, njengoba bengajwayele ukuziphilisa bona, kanye nenhlangano ababephila kuyo ngaphambili, ilahlekelwa yincazelo yayo. Ngalesi sikhathi, okokuqala ngqa ukubuyekezwa kwamanani aso, izinsizakusebenza, ukuthembeka kobudlelwano obusondelene nobungane, zinakekele wena nezinto ezizithandayo. Ngalesi sikhathi, umuntu angathatha iqiniso lokuthi uvuthiwe ngokwengeziwe, onolwazi futhi uhlakaniphile kunasebusheni bakhe, kodwa uzovuma ukuthi amabutho namandla aphansi kakhulu. Futhi ngasikhathi sinye, ubudala akusona isithiyo sokuqaliswa kwamaphupho abo, amasu abo kanye nezinhloso zabo. Abaningi bathunyelwa ukuba bahambe, ekugcineni abanye bazinikele ezintweni zokuzilibazisa noma zokuzilibazisa, owesithathu bayazi kahle abahlanganyeli bomsebenzi, kodwa bamfuna. Amaminithi nabathandekayo nabathandekayo angaba yigugu ngokwengeziwe, ikakhulukazi ngisho nangaphandle kwezizathu, njengoba abantu bemdala bebongekele isikhathi sabo njengesipho, njengezikhathi ezimnandi zokuphila. Kungukuvuthwa, okuhlangenwe nakho okucabangayo kwempilo edlule kubanikeza ithuba lokujabulela isikhathi samanje, wabelane ngokuhlakanipha kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo.
Kepha bakhona abangawemukeli imingcele yabo, noma, kunalokho, bakhipha kakhulu. Kuwo wonke ama-pores, bashesha badlula isikhathi esithile sengqondo sokuphila, lapho umzimba wabo usekuvumela ukuthi uphile impilo esebenzayo, kuyilapho kungagcini futhi ungagijimeli noma kuphi. Angikutholi ngokuphelele ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izithelo zokuvuthwa kwakho, zithola ngokuqinile ezindala ezindala nezibuthakathaka, ziyisisekelo sezifiso ezingabonakaliswanga namathuba alahlekile, avimbela izimpilo zawo ukuze athathe izimpilo zawo, amathuba alahlekile, amathuba alahlekile nokunqoba. Impilo ngokuvamile iwuchungechunge lwamaphutha. Ukuguga ngaphandle kwesimo sengqondo esihlakaniphile, esihlekisayo nesinothando ngenkathina yamabanga aphezulu nokuhlupheka.
I-Dreamy yethu kufanele ikwazi ukuzakhela inkathi entsha yempilo yakho futhi iwuvulekele ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi le mpilo yisikhathi. Kukhona ithuba lokuzamukela wena nenkululeko yakho, kanye nemikhawulo, kanye nesipiliyoni kukho konke ukwahlukahlukana kwawo, nobudlelwano kuyo yonke imithamo yabo. Isikhathi segolide esinjalo lapho udinga ukuzalwa khona, dala "indlu" yakho, okungukuthi, ukuzinza kulo nyaka hhayi ngokulandelana kwezikhathi kuphela, kodwa futhi futhi futhi ngokwengqondo.
Simfisela inhlanhla, ukubekezela futhi sijabulele ukuhlakanipha okusanda kuqongelelwa!
Ngiyazibuza ukuthi uphupha ini? Izibonelo zamaphupho akho athumela ngeposi: [email protected]. Ngendlela, amaphupho kulula kakhulu ukuwaveza uma encwadini eya kumhleli uzobhala izimo zokuphila okwandulelayo, kepha okubaluleke kakhulu - imizwa nemizwa ngesikhathi sokuvuka kuleli phupho.
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin