Ezinhle, ezizimele, ezethembayo, ukundiza gait zidlula owesilisa, futhi ngokushesha uthandana naye. Futhi-ke, kuqala ukufeza. Ngokuqinile, muhle, akuphephile futhi empeleni. Futhi ngani? Ngoba "konke lokhu e-dolce gabbana", uyazithemba, akafuni ukuhlangana nalawabesilisa, akafuni ukubhekana nalawabesilisa, ngoba owesifazane akavukeli ukuba ngumuntu omncane, futhi ngokuvamile akufanele angabi khona muntu .
Isimo esinjalo namakhulu abantu besifazane bazithathela njengabo bonke futhi, bayisebenzisa ngenani elikhulu lezindatshana eqinisweni lokuthi umfazi akufanele enze lutho kunoma ngubani, zizokholwa ngempela ukuthi zizoba injabulo.
Angithandi ukwenza njengezinganekwane zokubhubhisa, kodwa, ngombono wami, lokhu kungenye yezindlela eziyingozi kakhulu zabesifazane namantombazane, ezingathinta kakhulu ikhwalithi yezimpilo zabo. Ngani?
Isizathu sokuqala ukuthi yi-BAR ungumuntu ofezile. Futhi nakhu akubalulekanga kangako lokho okuzokwenzeka - mayelana nendoda efanelekile, ongaqala ngayo umndeni ngokuphepha, noma cishe nganoma iyiphi enye impumelelo, noma ngabe yimisebenzi noma impumelelo kunoma iyiphi enye insimu. Uma ubona ama-biographies abesifazane abakhulu noma abasubathi abadumile, noma osomabhizinisi abathole impumelelo enkulu ezimpilweni zabo, ungabona ukuthi akekho noyedwa kubo othola konke okunakho, kungenjalo. Wonke umuntu wenza imizamo ekhethekile yalokhu, imizamo futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, wenze izimfuno ezandayo. Akekho noyedwa wabantu abaphumelele wathi: "Angikaze ngithole noma ngubani, ngakho-ke ngathola konke." Ngokuphambene nalokho, laba bantu babenomuzwa wokuthi kufanele badale ngokwabo, kufanele baqeqeshe, kufanele basebenze okungenani kangcono kunabanye, ngakho-ke banqobile. Ngabe kuzwakala kuzwela kakhulu? Kungenzeka.
Ibinzana elithi "akufanele ngenze lutho" - elinye lama-delibions ayingozi kakhulu abesifazane
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Kepha noma ngabe ungakhulumi ngezinkanyezi zemidlalo yezwe noma izinkulungwane zezigidi, kodwa umane ulethe esibonelweni sabesifazane abashada ngempumelelo indoda ehlekisayo, ehloniphekile, futhi owayevele ephila ngokuphila lapho abanye bephupha khona kuphela: babe nendlu , Bantwana futhi umshado oqinile ngempela, kulokhu, akekho noyedwa kubo owathi: "Ngingowesifazane, futhi angihlangene nanoma ngubani." Ngaphansi, wayenaye kuye - ukwenza i-manicure, ukuhlanza ikhanda lakhe njalo futhi agqoke ngokufanele. Futhi emva kwalokho, umbuzo wepulangwe uphinde ubuze umuntu. Ukubuka noma yiluphi uhlobo lwezicelo: Uma owesifazane efuna engafundile, engahlanzekile futhi ecocekile, indoda engasebenzi enomthwalo we-beer kanye nezinhlamba, kunjalo, kulo mlingiswa, ungazami kahle. Kepha uma owesifazane ebiza umuntu osezingeni eliphakeme, isikhundla sokuba nenhlanhla futhi enenhlanhla futhi enenhlanhla futhi enenhlanhla, uma owesifazane ehlela ukuba ngumkakhe, abe nezingane ezivela kuye futhi abonise Ngcono okuthile, kepha kufanele. Mhlawumbe hhayi kwabanye, kodwa ngenjabulo yakho nangekusasa lakho elijabulisayo.
Imbangela inombolo yesibili. Isisho esithi "akufanele ngingenzi lutho" luphakathi kwezinye izinto, lukhona ngokuphelele, lungabonakali futhi lungabonakali empilweni yangempela. Umuntu ngamunye uhlala emphakathini, kweminye imithetho emisiwe. Isibonelo, phakathi komakhelwane kunesivumelwano esithile sokungenzi umsindo ebusuku futhi, ngokwesibonelo, hhayi ukusebenzisa i-lifti esikhundleni sendlu yangasese. Ungasho ukuthi: "Anginalutho" noma ngubani "futhi wephule le mithetho, kepha ke umbuzo wezinga labasebenzi, imvelo yakhe namapulangwe ezilinto zivela futhi. Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi abantu abangenandawo ethile yokuhlala bekhona ngokunembile kulefilosofi, empeleni akufanele babe nalutho kunoma ngubani, futhi yingakho basekukonakala ekhoneni, ini nje lelodlulayo ecabanga ngalo zona. Umbuzo uphakama: Ngubani ofuna ukulingana? Ngomkhulu, uphumelele futhi udume, ovezwa ngezimfuno ezikhuphukile, noma kulabo abalele ngaphansi kocingo? Ngubani ofuna ukushada - ngokuhlonishwa futhi ahlakaniphile noma okufinyeleleka kokuqala okuzayo?
Noma ibuphi ubuhlobo, ikakhulukazi umndeni, dinga imizamo ethile
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Isizathu sesithathu iqiniso elinesihluku sempilo. Njengokuhlangenwe nakho nokubhekwa kwabantu okuyisisekelo, isisho esithi "umfazi komunye umuntu akufanele 'sithande ubuhle kakhulu. Okuhle kusuka eminyakeni eyi-14 kujwayela isimo esikhethekile, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa umzamo. Vele ushintshele ubuso obuhle, baqala ukuthanda abantu, banelulela, futhi kubukeka sengathi abalandeli bayohlala bekhona. Ngakho-ke isimo sengqondo sabantu nabesilisa bavame ukuba abathengi futhi asilungile kakhulu. Ubuhle buqiniseka ukuthi kusekhona umugqa omkhulu walabo abafuna ukumenza impilo yakhe ibe yinhle, ngakho-ke umuntu ohlukile ukhonkolo akabalulekile. Ngefilosofi yakhe, "akufanele ngenze lutho." Owesifazane uxosha indoda eyodwa emva kolunye, ngethemba lokuthi kwenye indawo yakhe ilindelwe. Kodwa-ke, kunesikhumbuzo esingama-30 kuphela ngaphambi kwaso. Lapho-ke ukugubha iminyaka engama-35, futhi ngaphandle kwendoda nangaphandle kwezingane. Futhi, ngokwanele, cishe ngaphandle kwabalandeli. Ngemuva kwakho konke, nsuku zonke, ubuhle obusha obusha bungena iningi futhi bukudelela ukunakwa kwamadoda. Futhi ubuhle bethu obukhulile obuneminyaka engama-35 ubudala, obukhula umkhuhlane omkhulu kulo nyaka, ekugcineni, uqala ukuqagela: "Hhawu! Ngingu-35. Abalandeli abashiywanga! Esikhundleni salokho, bahlala, kodwa njengami angifuni. Futhi labo engibafunayo, noma sebematasatasa, noma abafuni. Noma mhlawumbe ngisengafanele noma ngubani? "
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Mantombazane othandekayo, ungakholelwa emibonweni eyisiphukuphuku mayelana nempilo emnandi ngaphandle komzamo. Musa njengePinocchio, eshise uhlamvu lwemali emhlabathini, ngethemba lesihlahla semali. Ungabakholwa labo abathi umfazi akufanele awenze muntu. Lokhu kungamanga amnandi, yi-opium, kufana nokuhlala isikhathi eside ezingilazini ezipinki. Lona umbono ongelona iqiniso othatha iminyaka engcono kakhulu yempilo yakho, futhi-ke, kuhle, uzokuqonda ukuthi izinto ezithile ezidingekayo ukuqonda nokwenza eminyakeni eminingi edlule. Akukho njabulo ngokuphelele, ehlekisa kakhulu ekhanda lakhe. Noma ngabe wawela ezandleni zakho, leli binzana ngenhloso lingalahlekelwa injabulo yakhe ngomzuzwana owodwa, nje alikwazi ukuligcina. Ukuze uthole injabulo, ukudala umndeni, nganoma yikuphi ukufeza okudingeka ukwenze imizamo. Uma ufuna ukujabula - kufanele! Okokuqala nje!