Vumelani, abantu baneminyaka eyahlukileyo eneenjongo ezifanayo ebomini. Kwiminyaka emi-3, ngokuqinisekileyo kubonakala ngathi yeyona nto iphambili - ukufumana njengesipho idoli efanayo okanye i-trewwriter esuka kwintengiso, ukuba yi-7-ukuba ngumntu obalaseleyo wesikolo, gqiba iyunivesithi iyunivesithi, fumana Isikhundla esibalulekileyo, ukutshata ngempumelelo kwaye thethathethana nabantwana abasempilweni nabahle. Kwaye kuphela kwiminyaka engama-60 kuphela, xa eyona nqanaba lihle kakhulu lobomi ngasemva, siyayeka kwaye sicinge: Yintoni esingekasifumani kwaye ungathanda ukwenza ntoni?
Iminyaka yobudala kwi-Psychology
Kwithiyori, kuyenzeka ukuba intlekele yeminyaka emi-3 inxulunyaniswa nokusekwa koluvo lwayo, xa umntwana ebhengeza ilungelo lokuba "i" kwaye libonisa iminqweno kunye nokuthetha. Kwiminyaka eyi-7, yenzeka intlekele yemisebenzi enxulumene nokuqala kwemfundo yesikolo, nge-14 - i-23 - iMisebenzi kunye nolwalamano, malunga neenjongo zenyani, ekuqondeni ezingama-60 kunye nokwazisa kuba umntu uphila ubomi bakhe. Ungayiphawula le nto ebantwaneni ngendlela yovalo, kwaye kubantu abadala-ndizama ukutshintsha imeko, iqabane, umsebenzi okanye nantoni na, ukuba nayiphi na imbambano ngumonakalo onokubakho kunye nendlela eqhelekileyo ubomi.
Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ukuba isondele kwintlekele
"Ndifuna ukuba ngcono, kodwa kwavela njengemidlalo rhoqo," eli binzana lingabonisa inkxalabo yezalamane kunye nenzame yokunceda umntu obambe ingozi. Ukuba uyabona ukuba umhlobo wakho, umyeni, umntwana uye wacinga kwaye uhlala ezama ukuchitha ixesha yedwa, mnike eli thuba. Nceda kwimiba yasekhaya kwaye makamenze ithemba elingazalisekanga. Ke, ukuba ubuza, unokwenza isicwangciso sentshukumo entsha kunye kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba ngawaphi amanyathelo afunekayo ukufezekisa iinjongo.
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Ngaba kufanelekile ukuya kwi-psychologist
Sisoloko siyinyani yokuba uqhagamshelane nogqirha. Ugqirha wezengqondo uyafuneka kuye wonke umntu, kuba nawuphi na umntu uya kuba nomonakalo wabantwana, amava olwalamano oluhle kakhulu okanye ukungakhathali phakathi kwelizwe labo nangaphandle. Kula maxesha, ukubonisana kuya kukunceda ujonge ingxaki yakwabanye abantu, emva koko uthathe isigqibo sokuya ngaphaya kwendawo yokuthuthuzela kwaye uzame into entsha. Kanye ngeli nqanaba, kubalulekile ukuba unxibelelanise nenkxaso yabathandekayo kwaye ubacacisele ngoku ukuba udlula kwinqanaba lenguqu.