Amaphupha ethu abonakaliswa umzobo wemilinganiselo yethu, iimbambano kunye namava emali.
Unokunxibelelana namaphupha njengento engeyiyo okanye njengento embi yokuba kufanelekile ukubaleka kuwe. Kwaye unokuphonononga amaphupha akho ebusuku, eyokuvula umnyango wokwazi kwethu.
Apha, umzekelo, elinye lamaphupha abafundi bethu:
"Indoda yanditshutshisa. Yayinomsindo kakhulu kum ukuba ndoyike, nokuba ndinyanisekile, ndinyaniseke. Ndifihlakele, ndabaleka, ndifihliwe, ndifihliwe kwisakhiwo esikhulu seWindows apho kuthengiswa khona iifestile. Imvakalelo yesilwanyana yengozi. Sasisekhona kwezinye iindawo, kodwa ngandlel 'ithile ikhwela kuyo yonke indawo. Wandikhupha, wakhwaza, waqalekisiwe, wabizwa. Kwaye bendinentombi yam. Uye wandixhasa, wayenam kwaye wandinceda ndafihla.
Into yokuqala eyenzekileyo xa ndivuka ziinkumbulo zomntu endikhe ndahlala naye. Xa sahlukana, waziphethe ngendlela engafanelekanga, wazama ukundilawula, wandisukela. Okwalo mzuzu kwakukho umhlobo wam, owandixhasa. Ndoyikisa kakhulu kuba ebephumile engqumbosweni, umsindo. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, xa ndicinga ngaye, andikhathali kwaye ndifuna ukufihla kwaye ndizikhusele. "
Amaphupha malunga nokusukelwa kunye nentshutshiso yabona abaninzi. Umntu ngamnye, ukuthumela abantu. Ukuphupha kwethu kuqhawule iphupha lakhe kunye neziganeko zangaphambili, xa wayesoyikiso noloyiko ngenxa yeqabane langaphambili.
Mhlawumbi olu loyiko lwacinezelwa kakhulu kumphefumlo wayo, njengoko wayezama ukubaleka kulo mntu, ukuba akwazi ukujamelana nemeko ngemali efikelelekayo: Ukukhangela imeko okanye ngokuchasene nemfesane kunye nokuzabalaza .
Rhoqo kwiimeko zokoyikiswa okwenene okanye ukukhululeka, kodwa kuthi okwenyani, isimo sengqondo sicebisa ukuba senze into: Balekile, uyeke okanye uyeke. Ngelixa sisenza, ukusabela kwethu-ukoyikeka kunye noloyiko-gode. Nangona kunjalo, xa isisongelo sidlula, iimvakalelo ezixinezekileyo ziyakwazi ukuwa ngamandla amatsha, nangona kungangeni izizathu zokwenene koku.
Ukugweba ngokomfundi wethu wokufunda, wafumana isilwanyana esibi, sabaleka safihla. Ukuba ngelo xesha 'wayekadeka "esoluliweyo, ngoku uloyiko olungazange lwamka, kodwa lwaluvale nje kwi-subconsion, hlezekile emaphupheni akhe. Ngenxa yoko, i-psyche isebenzisa ukulimala okudala kunye namanxeba, "azisohlwaya" ephupheni kwaye akhululwa.
Kukho inguqulelo yesibini yokutolikwa kolu butho. Unyango lwe-Gestalt luPhicukucuphi ukuba yonke imifanekiso ephupheni ngaphandle kokukodwa kukwahlulahlula ngokwethu. Ephupheni iqhawe lethu - le ndoda inogonyamelo, ixhoba. Ngamanye amagama, ephupheni, imeko idlalwa ephupheni, njengoko yena ngokwakhe esoyika kwaye evutha ngumsindo womsindo wabo akanguye.
Kubantu abaninzi, bayazi ukuba banokubakho okubi, baphikise, bavuthele, banomoya onogonyamelo, onomona, nokuba nefuthe, hayi elula. Imvelaphi yemfundo kunye nenkcubeko isifundisa ukuba sikhanyele la maqela ngendalo yethu. Nangona iimvakalelo ezihlangabezana nazo aziyi ndawo. Abakwazi ukubakhupha, njengoko beyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yendalo yethu, amava ethu. Abo bafundayo abalwi neemvakalelo zabo, kodwa baveze ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kulula kakhulu ukulawula intlawulo enjalo njengomsindo, ingqumbo, intiyo njalo njalo. Abo baqhubeka bekhanyele kwaye bafihla nenxalenye yamava abo, i-doonesweli ukubona "amaphupha amabi" abasokola, ezoyikisayo nentlekele. Ke i-psyche yabo kufuneka ikwazi ukujamelana nomshicileli wezo mvakalelo ekufuneka zicinezelwe.
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UMaria Zmvuskova, ugqirha wengqondo, ugqirha wonyango losapho kunye noqeqesho olukhokelayo kwiZiko loQeqesho loQeqesho loQeqeshe leMarika Khazina