"Yiyeke ulibele ... Into edlulileyo, engasabuyanga," iqhawe leentliziyo zakhe ezithandwayo zekhathuni "Intliziyo ebandayo" icule. Asiyonto abayithethayo emlonyeni yiNyaniso, iNyaniso yile: Akunakwenzeka ukuba ubambe ukukhubeka ixesha elide, nokuba ububangela abantu ababini abasondeleyo - abazali abasondeleyo - abazali. Icebisa ukutshintsha ukujonga izinto kwaye ilahle ixhala.
"Utata akazange abe nenxaxheba ebomini bam"
ERussia, ukusuka kwizigidi ezili-17 zeentsapho, malunga nezigidi ezi-5 ziza ngoomama abangatshatanga- awuwedwa oshiyekileyo ngaphandle kotata. Nawuphi na umntwana, makube nguThixo okanye iminyaka elishumi elinesixhenxe ezelwe, ukunqongophala kwegxalaba likatata onamandla kufutshanebe luyingozi yengqondo. Siyayiqonda indlela ekunzima ngayo kuwe nokuba kunzima kangakanani kumama wakho okhokwe. Kodwa kuphela ukuze akhutyekiswe ngumntu ovumile ngokuzithandela ukuze abone umntwana wakhe kwaye athathe inxaxheba ekukhuleni kwakhe, iyavakala. Uchitha amandla akho kwingqumbo yakho ngokunxulumene nomntu ophambukele ekukhuleni nasekuthatheni uxanduva kwizigqibo zabo. Endaweni yomsindo, cinga ngendlela yokungahambi ngendlela enye yokuhambahamba kwaye ube ngumzali obalaseleyo ngenxa yesiqu sakho.
Enkosi mama ngokukhuliswa kwakho
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"Kwaye bendifuna unyana wam"
I-storiarchal yelifa loluntu lwethu iyanyanzela umntu ukuba enze izinto ezintathu ebomini, oweva amawaka amaxesha. Kodwa ukuba umntu uzalelwe yintombi-esi asisosizathu sokuyeka ukuphakama kwakhe. Kumdala owaneleyo, uPaul Umntwana akafanele abebaluleke kakhulu - bonke abantwana kufuneka bathande okufanayo. Ukuba utata wakho ukhe wathi uphuphele unyana wakhe, ukongeza kuwe ngeli binzana lingabi nabungqina, bekuya kumsusa malunga neziseko zebhayoloji. Yindawo ye-spermatozoa, okanye endaweni yokuba i-chromosome ibekwe kuyo, ichaza umgangatho womntwana ozayo. Ke onke amabango "afezeke" ebefanele ukuba abhekiswe kuye, hayi umama nomntwana.
"Ukubetha ngeenjongo zemfundo akuyongozi."
Ngokukhawuleza nje ubundlobongela basekhaya, abo banako ukuhlawula umntwana ongakhuselekanga, ngaphandle kwemeko abazali babo. Injongo yendlela kule meko ayithethi-ukungazinzi, ngaphandle kwentiyo kunye nokungathembani ngumntwana, oku akufumaneki. Ukuba ukhangele ebuntwaneni, sinethemba lokuba awunxibelelani neziphene zakho - kule meko ungasixolela kuphela ukuziphatha komgaqo womntu ulilibale igama lakhe ngonaphakade. Kuxolelwe ngokunyaniseka ukuba kwakufuneka usinde ngamava kwaye udanile kubantu abasondeleyo. Kwaye ukuba awuboni kwanto iliso elisonke, nxibelelana noxinzelelo lwengqondo ngoncedo.
Ubundlobongela bekhaya abufumaneni
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"Hlamba ngokukhawuleza i-cosmetics kwaye ulale"
Ulawulo olunzima oluvela kubazali ngokunxulumene nolutsha luyenzeka rhoqo kwilizwe lethu. Kodwa kwaokoyika abazali ngenxa yempilo nobomi bomntwana akunakuba sisizathu sokuziphatha komsindo kuye. Kuphela kukuthembana kuphela, ubudlelwane phakathi kwamalungu osapho, apho umntwana akayi koyika ukuthetha malunga nezicwangciso zabo ngokuhlwa nexesha ebuyela ekhaya. Ukuba abazali bakho bavumela ukuba bakukhokele kwaye baphula imida yakho, musa ukuphinda iimpazamo zabo - yiba nomntwana wakho kunye nomhlobo osondeleyo, naye uya koyika isohlwayo.
Yabelana nathi, kutheni usakhubeka ngabazali bakho? Siqinisekile ukuba unokufumana inkxaso kumagqabaza okubakho abanye abafundi abaye bangqubana nemeko efanayo.