"Ewe, uyibambe nje eFrendzone," intombi elandelayo iphikisana nawe, okholelwa ukuba indoda kunye nebhinqa lingamacandelo amabini ahlukeneyo, ahambelana nenkqubo yobudlelwane bobuqu. Izifundo zibonisa ukuba intombi yakho ayilunganga kangako - uMlambo weSayensi yeBesshesi kwiYunivesithi yaseWisconsin ekwi-88 izibini zabahlobo abahlukeneyo, zinika imibuzo yokuphendula imibuzo. Ngokweziphumo, la madoda ayenomdla wokufumana uvelwano kwiintombi zabo kunabo kubo. Ndigqibe kwelokuba ndijongane nombuzo kwaye ndabele imithetho "yokuziphatha okukhuselekileyo" kunye nabahlobo babantu.
Thatha isigqibo ngeyona nto ifanelekileyo
Xa suku sobabini akwenziwanga ekuthambekeni omnye komnye, kuya kuba lula ukunxibelelana. Ke unokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye kwaye usele iglasi yewayini, ngaphandle kokucinga ukuba ukwanga nokwaliswa kwesondo kwalandela. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba uxoxe ngomhlobo wakho ofanelekileyo ukuze ngokuqinisekileyo uqonde ukuba awunayo kwaye awunakuba likamva elidibeneyo. Konke oku kuya kuba nakho xa ungamadoda amabini agulayo ahlonitshwa ilungelo lokukhetha enye kunye nokungavumi kwayo ukonakalisa ubuhlobo bovelwano. Ewe, kwaye ukuba kukho iintlobo ngeentlobo zamaqabane anokubakho ezijikeleze iingcinga zakho, akunakwenzeka ukuba ugxile kwelinye njengendawo yokutshabela.
Vumelana kwasekuqaleni
Ungaqali ubuhlobo nomntu ukuba uyakuqonda ukuba unikezelwe kuwe. Ke uyiphazamise kuphela kwixesha elizayo, xa iimvakalelo zakho ziphuma, kwaye ziya kuhlala zothuse ngotshintsho kule meko kwaye ziya kunyanzelwa ukuba ziyeke ukunxibelelana nawe. Ukuqala ukunxibelelana kufutshane kunokuqhelana nje, kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngazo zonke izinto zobuhlobo bakho ukuphinda uqinisekise ukufana kweenjongo ezithile. Makhe ndiqonde ukuba akukho tyala liphuma kuye, ngaphandle kwendlela yenkcubeko, njengokuvula umnyango okanye uncedo lokunxiba ingubo, awuyi kuthathwa.
Nxibelelana nenkampani kunye nomfana wakho omncinci
Umatshini umhlobo kunye nesoka
Ababini bayaqonda ukuba ukwibudlelwane owonwabileyo obonwabisayo, awucwangcisi, uya kuyiqinisekisa umhlobo kule nto. Kuyenzeka ukuba le ndoda ithe yangumhlobo olungileyo womhlobo wakho oya kukuvuyela ukuchitha ixesha lakho lasimahla. Nyaniseka kwaye uzive ukhululekile ukuthetha malunga nokuba uyamthanda kangakanani iqabane. Akukho mfuneko yokuba ube nexhala malunga noko kuya kuvakalelwa ngumhlobo ngalo mzuzu: ukuba awuthathi gadalala kuye ngesondo, ke ubuninzi, uya kuba noyolo kuwe nendoda yakho.
Abafowunelwa abancinci
Hug umhlobo we-farewell- le yindlela yokuziphatha. Kodwa qalisa kwi-cheek okanye ikuvumela ukuba uzikhulise ngesandla - kunjalo. Lawula indlela yokuziphatha komhlobo wakho: Ukuba uziva ungakhululekanga okanye uyathandabuza, oko kuthetha ukuba kukho into engalunganga ngonxibelelwano lwakho. Sukuthatha izipho kunye nemibala ngaphandle kwesizathu, kwaye ukuba umhlobo uthi, le yeyokwazi kwakho kakuhle, uthethe ngokunyaniseka ukuba ungayithandi imodeli yonxibelelwano.
Fumana isibini sakhe
Yenza umhlobo oneentombi zasimahla okanye ngabahlobo. Kamsinya nje akufumana uthando lwaKhe, unxibelelwano lwakho luya kuncipha-oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, njengoko abantu bethanda ukwabelana ngeendaba namaqabane kwaye ke ngabahlobo. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kukukhulula kwixhala kunye nemfuno yokucingisisa ukuba umntu ulungile kuwe ukuze unxibelelwano, hayi ngethemba lokunxibelelana elizayo.