Vula irediyo kunye nawaphi na amaza omculo. Umabonwakude ngayo nayiphi na imuvi ethandwayo malunga nothando. Umzuzu kwisicatshulwa sesibini ngokuthe ngqo okanye i-theritet iyakwenza oko bakufuna iqabane lomphefumlo wabo. Kwaye iingoma zeculo ziza kuthi: "Andinabani, i-zero epheleleyo, kodwa ndikunye nomntu. Ngaphandle kwakho, umhlaba wam awungqinelani. Ngalo moya, zizaliswe, kunye nabamthandayo.
Kwangelo xesha, ingcinga yingcinga yokuba ulonwabo kufuneka udibane neqabane lakho lomphefumlo. Njengangaphambili, kukho isiqingatha somntu, kwaye sifumene isiqingatha sesibini, waba sisiseko esigqibeleleyo.
Kwaye nangona kunjalo, ngokunyamezela kunye nokunyamezela, indoda kunye nabasetyhini bakhangela umntu oza kuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo, umphefumlo womthonyama oqonda ngegama elinesiqingatha segama,
Uthando, oko kukuthi, luphawuleka ngokuthanda ngokupheleleyo kunye nokuhlutha iqabane labo, ngoko ke yamkele abantu abaninzi. I-Intanethi igcwele ngamanqaku ngamanqaku indlela yokubuyisa inkanuko kulwalamano, indlela yokuphinda ndithandane nomyeni wakhe. Abantu, njengakwi-hypnosis, bengayihoyi into yokuba ubudlelwane yinkqubo eqolileyo enamanqanaba ayo ophuhliso, yendalo. Kwaye rhoqo ukuthanda, ukufudumeza okufudumeleyo sisiqalo sendlela enkulu.
Ubudlelwane obugcweleyo obugcweleyo buza kuyitshabalalisa le ngcinga yokuba siziikhefu ezimbini zabo. Ngapha koko, amaqabane amabini apheleleyo athatha inxaxheba kubudlelwane. Ngamazwi, zintle, kodwa kubomi besi sibini ufuna ukubuyela kumanqanaba okuqala kwinoveli yokuqala yenoveli. Ngamanye amaxesha imizamo efanayo nengaqhelekanga kwaye ingeyonyani, njengesidlo sakusasa kunye nesidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nekhekhe eline-cream eqhotyoshelweyo. Ndingabamba njani? Usuku, ezimbini? Emva koko khwela. Ke kutheni ubudlelwane kufuneka bunyanzelise ukuba umntu othile uya kuyithanda kwaye amke, akhuphe kwaye oyise enye, ngaphandle kokuba nethuba lokwandisa iqabane lakhe?
Lo ngumzekelo omfutshane onothethwano lwamva nje. I-Steam ijika, ekukho kwimizuzu ye-quak yexava yakhe isoyikiswa nomtshato ngamnye. Kwaye amabango abo. Umyeni kutshanje unemivuzo engazinzanga, kwaye umfazi wakhe kwafuneka aqinisekise ngobomi bosapho kunye neemfuno zomntwana wabo omncinci. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, i-scandals ihlala iphakama, apho umfazi akazange athandabuzi ngabona, ehlola umyeni wakhe kule meko ababengusapho lonke ngenxa yakhe. Umyeni wayenganyamezeleki ukuva iRugan kwidilesi yakhe. Ngamnye wabo onomsindo omnye komnye kunye nokuthuka abonakalise uqhawulo-mtshato njengeziphumo ezinokubakho kweli nqanaba kubomi babo. Ngokubonisana, baqala ukukuthetha isivumelwano sabo sosapho.
Kwavela ukuba kwangaphambi komtshato, ekutyholeni kwenkanuko, kunye ne-pores eshushu, yanikela omnye komnye umntu ukuba umthombo wendoda iya kuba ngumthombo wezezimali, kwaye inkosikazi iya kuba luhlobo nengqondo kunye nokugxeka kwincoko ethambileyo. Kubonakala ngathi kufanelekile. Zama ukuphika le ndlela!
Ngapha koko, kwavela ukuba ezi zithembiso zanikwa omnye komnye ngenkululeko yokuzikhethela. Inyani yile yokuba le ndoda ikhule kwintsapho, apho iingqondo kunye nokulwa nabazali babo yayisisihogo semihla ngemihla. Kwaye eli bhinqa lakhula entsatsheni, apho utata esela khona umvuzo, eshiya umama wakhe eneqela lamatyala. Ukuphuma kwezi ntsapho, banika wonke umntu ngentliziyo ukuba njalo ebomini bam abuyi kuba njalo. Kwaye ukuba kunjalo, le sisiphelo! Kwaye emva koko badibana nakweli nqanaba lomnqweno oshushu wokuphumelela omnye komnye wanika izithembiso ezixabisekileyo.
Emva kokuba edale usapho lwakhe, apho ubudlelwane bomntu bubanzi kakhulu kunendlela yokuziphatha ecekeceke yenziwa zizithintelo, bezilindelwe ngakwicala lokuqala, ke ngokuqinisekileyo ungaphindi uyenze. " Kodwa ukuyifuna kwiqabane-kufana nokukhwaza emva kololiwe ophumayo. Ngaphezu koko, xa amaqabane ahlengahlengiswa ukuze angalahlwa, ayabandakanywa kubudlelwane aba, ngentlungu yabo, kunye nemiceli mngeni yokukhula komntu. Zinxulumene ne-critched, cruches omnye komnye. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, kwenzeka kuwo wonke umtshato, bafumanisa ukungangqinelani kwale nto igqwethekileyo nomntu wokwenene, okomzuzwana njengokuvavanywa ukukhulisa kubudlelwane. Nokuba amaqabane aya kuba nakho ukuhloniphane kwaye axhase ukuba ngamnye kubo ucombulule umsebenzi wawo, okanye aphule uqhagamshelo lukhangeleka i-scutch efanelekileyo.
Ngokubonisana, umyeni wakhwaza esithi: "Ibize umntu omthandayo yinto yokugqibela. Andifuni ukukubona. " Wamphendula wathi: "Ukusebenzela ezimbini, ukuba ube ngumgibeli endlwini - yinto yokugqibela. Ndihleka nawe. "
Ngokuthethathethane, safumanisa ukuba umyeni wazama ukuba lo myeni wazama ukuba: "Musa ukundithuka, musa ukundinyanzela ukuba ndidlule ngokuziva ndinesithukuthezi, njengoko kwakusebuntwaneni bam." Wazama ukuphendula: "Undikhathalele, ngokungathi unako, ngokungathi awuyinikezeli, njengobawo - otywala." Xa satyhileka isihloko sencoko, esi sibini sahlala esichaphazelekayo sisibakala sokuba bafuna omnye komnye into abangakwaziyo ukuzibonelela. Akazi nendlela yokujamelana nemvakalelo yokuthotywa, engaphezulu kakhulu kuneminyaka emphefumlweni wakhe kunomtshato wabo. Uye wafumanisa ukuba ingqumbo yakhe kunye nomsindo kwiqabane elibuthathaka yintombazana encinci intombazana encinci efumanise ukuba utata akachukumiseki kwaye anikelwe phantsi koxinzelelo lwesi sifo. Kwaye akunakwenzeka emtshatweni ngoku ukufezekisa kwiqabane lakhe ukuze ihlawule la mava ngawe.
Ngamnye kubo ushiye ukuqhekeza, wenza imiboniso kumsebenzi wakhe. Ngamnye wabo kuya kufuneka athabathe uxanduva lokuzibona kwabo, idram kwaye walusa isixa-siphelo, edlula kwisifundo esibalulekileyo kwaye edibana neqabane lakhe alingomsebenzi opheleleyo kunye neqabane ebomini indlela. Umfazi kufuneka ahambe ngendlela yokufumana inkxaso yakhe, kwaye hayi kwiqabane lakhe elinamandla kufutshane, kwaye umntu yindlela yokuzikhusela kunye nexabiso layo, nokuba lixabiso lendlu yabazali. Okanye ngelishwa, kodwa ithandwa kangaka, ityhutyha ekutyhutyweni omnye komnye kwaye ujonge into ephambili kwifom yamaqabane amatsha ebomini.
Kwaye ukhetha ntoni? Khangela iqabane lomphefumlo? Ngaba kwiqabane lakho i-psychotherapist yengqondo yendalo iqonda iintlungu zakho kunye nokucheba ikamva elinzima? Okanye udibanise nganye yakho ukuba ube liqabane elinesisa kunye elipheleleyo?