Njengabantu abadala, abantwana banzima kakhulu uxinzelelo. Zininzi izibophelelo, iingxabano kwiingxaki zosapho kunye neengxaki zoontanga-zonke ezi zinto zoxinzelelo zicinezela isimo sengqondo sokwenene sabantwana. Ewe, "inani elithile loxinzelelo luqhelekile," utshilo ugqirha we-psychotherapist kwi-psychotherapist ebonakalayo. Ngokutsho kwakhe, zive uxinzelelo kukuqala kokufunda esikolweni okanye ukudlulisela uvavanyo olubalulekileyo yinto eqhelekileyo. Ingcali yengqondo ithi eyona nto iphambili yokunceda abantwana bakwazi ukujamelana noxinzelelo kukufundisa abantwana ukuba bafundise abantwana ukusombulula iingxaki, uCwangcisa IMicimbi kunye "nezenzo" kunye "no" kunye "nezenzo. "Ukuba awufundisi [abantwana bakho] ngoxinzelelo, baya kubandakanyeka ekuzuzeni ukutya, amayeza notywala." Ngamanye amagama, abantwana baya kuzabalazela into eza kubenza bavakalelwe ngcono, kwaye ngokufuthi iya kuba yindlela engenampilo, utshilo. Nantsi indlela onokubanceda ngayo abantwana bakho bajamelane ngempumelelo noxinzelelo:
Sukusukela ii-hares ezimbini
Enye yezona zinto zinkulu zoxinzelelo zabantwana icwangcisiwe. Abazali balindela ukuba abantwana bafunde esikolweni iiyure ezisixhenxe, baphumelele kwiziganeko zangaphandle, beza ekhaya, benza umsebenzi wasekhaya, baphinde bavuke yonke imihla elandelayo. Kwaye ukongeza ii-mugs ekuzobeni nasekudaning, amacandelo ezemidlalo, iilwimi, iilwimi - uyithanda njani le cwangciso yomntwana? Njengoko i-psychotherapist lyns yathi: "Liphi ixesha lokuphumla?" Kufuneka abantwana badlale ikhompyuter, balale kwisofa kunye ne-popcoons, babukele nabahlobo-yonke le nto kubanceda ukuba batshintshe. Ngokwenyani yokuba unciphisa inani leeklasi, impumelelo yomntwana kufundisiso lwesifundo ayiyi kubandezeleka, kuba ingqondo engaphezulu isakwazi ukufaka ulwazi olutsha-cinga ngayo.
Umntwana kufuneka aphumle ngokwaneleyo
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Thatha ixesha lemidlalo
Iingcali zengqondo zibhala ukuba iyimfuneko ukunciphisa inani lemidlalo yokhuphiswano-dlala imidlalo yebhola kunye nebhodi yeBhodi yoLonwabo, kwaye ungaphumeleli xa umntwana ediniwe okanye ecaphuka. Uxinzelelo ngohlobo lwembambano namalungu osapho kunye nabahlobo banokukhulisa imeko yakhe engalunganga, ngakumbi ukuba ilungiselelwe ngenxa yokusilela. Hlanganisa umdlalo onomsebenzi womzimba obaluleke kakhulu kwimpilo yomntwana. Ezinye zeembono: ukukhwela iibhayisikile, Dlala i-baseball, hamba uhambo.
Eyona nto iphambili yokuphupha
I-lyons yengqondo ithe iphupha libalulekile kuyo yonke into: Ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lokuphucula imeko kunye nokunyusa izifundo esikolweni. Umntwana ongenangqondo uya kuba nengxaki, engakhethi kwaye abe nobukrwada kunye nabanye. Ukungazi izizathu, banokuphendula ngempendulo embi, eyakukhokelela kumagqabantshintshi kwidilesi yakhe okanye ixanda. Yenza iatmosfera kwigumbi lomntwana, eya kuthi iphumle ngokuhlwa: amakhethini amabinzana, ukunqongophala kwamabonwakude kunye ne-console yomdlalo njalo. Fundisa abantwana bakho ukuba baqonde impilo yoxinzelelo-unokunika umzekelo ngegesi kwaye rake emotweni. Ngokuthe ngcembe, baya kuqalisa ukuqaphela xa bekulungele ukusebenza, kwaye xa kufuneka baphumle ngokukhawuleza.
Ungaphoswa ziisiko elibalulekileyo njengezidlo
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Lawula uxinzelelo lwakho
"Uxinzelelo lusuleleke ngokwenene," utshilo u-lywogistry psychologist. Xa abazali befumana uxinzelelo, abantwana bafumana uxinzelelo. " Veza umzekelo wakho, njengoko ujamelana noxinzelelo. Umzekelo, ekuseni, xa uvuka kwimozulu embi, wenza isidlo sakusasa esimnandi, vula umculo otyholayo kwaye hug hug. Kwaye ngokuhlwa, yiya kwiseshoni yoqeqesho, kwaye ufudumeze kwi-fith bath-ingento enye into engeyiyo kwenye imbambano? Ngokubanzi, oochwephesha bengqondo banika abazali ukuba bajonge umfanekiso xa bephela. "Awunakho ukuhlala ngoxinzelelo ngokwakho, kwaye ufundise abantwana ngolawulo loxinzelelo," utshilo uLyoson. Ke ndincede kuqala, emva koko ummelwane.